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Customer in front rearranged my groceries

58 replies

LapinR0se · 09/05/2021 18:05

I don’t know, maybe I am some uptight freak or something.
I did quite a big supermarket shop today and the guy in front of me at the till kept commenting on what I was putting on the belt. Already I found that odd. Like mind your own business mate? (I was buying totally normal things like eggs, bread, sausages, milk etc for the week).
Then he decided I was putting them on the belt incorrectly and he started rearranging them all. I had them lying down so they wouldn’t topple but he put them all upright to make more space.
I was so uncomfortable. I didn’t say to stop because he was talking to me in rapid French (I live in Switzerland). But I was very anxious and wanted to clean everything when I came home.
We’re in the middle of a pandemic. You don’t touch people’s groceries ANYWAY but especially not now!! Am I right?? Or just some crazy uptight person????

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booksandnooks · 09/05/2021 18:07

Sounds like a nutter, definitely someone not to confront. Cleaning groceries is overkill though, I havent don't that since the very start of the pandemic hahahahaha

Sn0tnose · 09/05/2021 18:12

You should have rapped him over the knuckles with the divider and told him to fuck off. I find people tend to understand the gist of ‘fuck off’ even if it’s said in a different language.

mindutopia · 09/05/2021 18:13

I would have told him to f*&k off personally. I can understand how you felt your personal space was violated.

EastWestWhosBest · 09/05/2021 18:14

That’s just odd. The pandemic aspect wouldn’t worry me but the man touching all my shit aspect would.

Ginuwine · 09/05/2021 18:14

" Ne touché pas à ma putain de nourriture, connard "

That's what you need to say

DroopyDaff · 09/05/2021 18:14

YADNBU! What a twat. I bet he wouldn’t have done that if you were a bloke!

I’d have to clean them too so I don’t blame you. I’d have told him straightaway not to touch my stuff though.

I only use a self scanner in the supermarket so no one else touches what I buy (always stuff from the back of the shelf too!) and if I get randomly checked I insist on picking up the items myself to be scanned Grin so I don’t feel the need to wipe them all when I get home. I hate going into places like Home Bargains where they don’t have scanners.

Raaaaaaarr · 09/05/2021 18:16

Oh god I would have HATED this. It would have been stressing out with him touching everything and I probably would have left (which I know is an extreme reaction)! How annoying!!

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 09/05/2021 18:17

that's odd behaviour - at the best of times, with no covidy germs I'd be telling him to leave my stuff alone.

Supermarket near here has checkout supervisors preventing people starting to unload on the the checkout belt until the person in front has cleared the cashier. shame they don't just get them operating a checkout so shorter queues

8monthsinandcranky · 09/05/2021 18:18

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SeasonFinale · 09/05/2021 18:19

I would have just laid them all back down again and said "non" to him

PicsInRed · 09/05/2021 18:20

A sturdy "Fuck off mate" is fairly universal.

sunshinesontv · 09/05/2021 18:21

It is odd behaviour isn't it. Maybe he has a mental health issue or isn't neurotypical.

I wouldn't worry about germs or covid though. People were touching your products when they were on the shelf and so on anyway.

I guess the moment has passed and it's too late to do anything about it now, but if it happens again I'd suggest asking him politely to stop.

Topseyt · 09/05/2021 18:23

You were much more polite than I would have been.

I would have told him very sharply to bugger off and shut up. Then I would have made a show of laying my stuff down again exactly as I wished.

I wouldn't have bothered washing it down when I got home though. I've never done that and never will.

Clymene · 09/05/2021 18:25

Va te faire foutre is always useful. Along with a sharp rap on the knuckles with the belt divider.

But it has been found there is no risk of catching Covid from hard surfaces so apart from him being annoying/possibly grubby, he hasn't put you at risk.

CallMeCleo · 09/05/2021 18:27

We are NOT "in the middle of a pandemic".

Meowchickameowmeow · 09/05/2021 18:32

It's a bit weird but wanting to clean everything and getting anxious is over the top. A firm 'please stop' would have been fine.

flashylamp · 09/05/2021 18:33

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LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow · 09/05/2021 18:34

you need our Aldi Woman, she is hugely bossy, but no one dares to defy her...

she is very strict about people keeping their 2m distance, AND at the same time making sure there is a decent gap between the end of one load and the start of the next, without allowing customers to bugger about waiting until they are level with the actual check out to start unloading

divider down
leave a gap
start loading onto the belt
NO!! Wait there!
Now come forwards

and then you get a sweetie pie smile as you come to the cash area and lots of pleasant chat.

LapinR0se · 09/05/2021 18:40

@CallMeCleo we have 2,000 new cases a day here still with a population 1/8 the size of the UK. So we’re in the thick of it still I’m afraid

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IncyWincyGrownUp · 09/05/2021 18:42

@8monthsinandcranky can you fuck off with your “not quite right” bullshit? How fucking dare you equate neurodiversity with being wrong.

NewlyGranny · 09/05/2021 18:42

What's French for "Back off!"?

LapinR0se · 09/05/2021 18:48

I would probably say «Merci monsieur mais je m’occupe de ça, ne vous inquiétez pas»
They are in general terribly polite here.
As it was I was kind of rooted to the spot and smiled feebly at him. Like WTF. I am normally super assertive

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LapinR0se · 09/05/2021 18:49

@NewlyGranny I don’t know!! Maybe “Arrêtez s’il vous plaît !»

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Starlightstarbright1 · 09/05/2021 18:50

My ex would do this to our shopping . He had Ocd. I would not let someone else do this to my shopping

LoudNowSing · 09/05/2021 18:54

@Ginuwine

" Ne touché pas à ma putain de nourriture, connard "

That's what you need to say

This is almost perfect, but I would add a gratuitous "Putain de merde!" at the end as well. Grin