Customer in front rearranged my groceries

[LapinR0se]

I don’t know, maybe I am some uptight freak or something.
I did quite a big supermarket shop today and the guy in front of me at the till kept commenting on what I was putting on the belt. Already I found that odd. Like mind your own business mate? (I was buying totally normal things like eggs, bread, sausages, milk etc for the week).
Then he decided I was putting them on the belt incorrectly and he started rearranging them all. I had them lying down so they wouldn’t topple but he put them all upright to make more space.
I was so uncomfortable. I didn’t say to stop because he was talking to me in rapid French (I live in Switzerland). But I was very anxious and wanted to clean everything when I came home.
We’re in the middle of a pandemic. You don’t touch people’s groceries ANYWAY but especially not now!! Am I right?? Or just some crazy uptight person????

[JackANackAnoreeee]

Sounds like there's something up with him (OCD, or something). I'd just let it go.

[IncyWincyGrownUp]

This thread is horrendous. So much othering of neurodiverse people.

People can be arseholes and not have any ND diagnoses. Stop trying to explain away dickery by insulting people.

[HopingForOurRainbowBaby]

God he'd hate to be in front of or behind me then. I just lob it on the conveyor belt and hope for the best. I am of course a bit more careful with eggs and wine of course

[newtb]

Va te faire enculer would work too.

Not quite sure but think that connasse is ruder than connard

[getyourfreakon]

Regardless of language or pandemic if someone started messing with my shopping they'd get an "OI!" and I'd smack their hand away if they continued. He had no business doing that. You shouldn't have put up with it.

[LoveFall]

It's the commenting that would really annoy me. It has happened to me a few times where someone watches you put each item up and feels the need to comment. Once I bought some "low fat" coffee creamer and you would think I was committing a sacrilege.

And never touch another's shopping. Rude rude rude.

[Honeyroar]

Definitely don’t say merci!

[Lou98]

Definitely a strange thing for him to do and I probably wouldn't have been able to hide on my face how strange I thought it was!

However, I think feeling like you now had to go home and wash everything was also OTT - loads of other people probably touched those in the shop before you did.
Unless you would have washed it all anyway (in which case it's irrelevant to your OP) then you are unreasonable for that.

[Brigante9]

Ne touché pas à ma putain de nourriture, connard

That's what you need to say

God, I love that word. I would have added ‘Faites pas chier’ cos I also love that, plus ‘Faut pas toucher’ very strongly. Regardless of how polite people are round there, what he did was not polite and I would have let him know, in the strongest possible terms. I might have physically blocked him, too, just for added reinforcement.

[JingsMahBucket]

@LapinR0se you can just say “STOP!” in English and he would’ve understood it easily enough. After that, I would’ve proceeded in a mix of English and French: “What the fuck?? Ne touches pas ma bouffe monsieur!”

[MrMucker]

If you stand your items on the conveyor rather than lie them down then a smaller surface area of the product is in contact with the belt, and therefore it minimises surface to surface transmission of the virus. That conveyor belt has carried hundreds and hundreds of things which have been handled over a short space of time.
Additionally if they are standing up when passing through checkout, then the cashier needs to handle them with less contact, resulting in less contact transmission altogether at the point of you picking them up (again with ease) to pack away. To exemplify, imagine a box of cereal lying on it's front. It is virtually impossible to pick it up with one hand. But standing up, you just grab the top.
So whilst you defer to your preferred science by disinfecting your groceries when home, your preferred science ought to have also compelled you to stand them up in the first place.

Yeah, I know, he touched them which kind of sullies the principle, but that aside, I just thought I'd offer up some science as he seems like a very nice man, rather than knock him down in reactive Mumsnetty outrage.

[Isittimeformynapyet]

Even if I saw someone put a multipack of crisps on the conveyor belt in front of 2.5kg of potatoes I would NOT GET INVOLVED!

[AppleKatie]

Well this thread has been a French education.

Merci Madams!

[Ginuwine]

@bellabride

I had to google "connard": don't remember learning THAT in my 1978 "O" level French

Hehe I personally prefer cursing in French than any other language

[HildegardNightingale]

I would have chopped his hands off with a machete if he did that to my shopping!!

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

I find the distancing with Covid has meant my shopping is not tampered with by the person behind .
The number of times the belt was full and I obviously still had items in my trollley , some prat comes up behind and started unloading theirs .
I have shoved it back with the divider and said " You can see I haven't finished yet "

Worst was an older man (I'm mid 50s so no spring chicken myself) who was trying to take my shopping out with a
Do.You.Need.Any.Help.With.Your.Shopping like he was talking to a 4yo and carefully enunciating .
I said "No I'd like you to leave my shopping the hell alone"

The endearment of CuntyChops didn't leave my mouth but it was hovering there !

[suggestionsplease1]

I wouldn't have said anything I don't think. If someone is acting so clearly in contravention of social norms, for whatever reason - under influence, mental health etc I would estimate that their response to my saying something might be similarly unpredictable, and so I would probably just let them get on with it for what is a relatively trivial issue.

[Lilymossflower]

Men do stuff like this to women to assert there dominance.

Pricks.

Also as someone else said there's no way he would have done it if you were a man. Also whoever said about autism/ocd that's also a no and damaging to the neurodiverse community to put us in the same box as misogynistic pricks who just HAvE to assert there dominance and better opinion as a man wherever they go in stupid, petty ways. Ugh

[bellabride]

I had to google "connard": don't remember learning THAT in my 1978 "O" level French

[flashylamp]

@randompeople

No. No. No.

Not fucking ^this

Stop with the offensive bullshit

[mnahmnah]

He just sounds like your ultimate mansplainer to me. Always knows best arrogance!