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Sharing facemask

129 replies

Ck123 · 09/05/2021 15:41

Would you share your partners facemask? Obvs you generally have your own but if you forgot it and needed to pop into shops would you use it?

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WhiskeyTangoFoxtrot1 · 09/05/2021 21:17

@Nancylovesthecock

Even in this covid centric world I was thinking like a clay facemask 😂

Well, I snog him so there would be no ill affects from it but still no.

This was my thought. Even when I read pop into the shops, I was trying to work out how a face mask relates to shopping 😅
Poppynit · 09/05/2021 21:17

@EarringsandLipstick

I've had most parts of his body and most bodily fluids in my mouth at some point during our relationship, that his germ-y breath really does not gross me out

Lovely.

But even so - that's part of normal interaction. Would you pick up & wear his dirty underpants or use a tissue he's just sneezed into?

I mean if you would ... that's 🤮

Well, I already pick up his dirty underwear (he's one of those darlings that places things next to the washing basket instead of inside the washing basket) so that doesn't bother me either to be honest.

Used tissues - I used to volunteer at a nursing home in which one resident would place their soiled handkerchiefs in my pockets so I also wouldn't be fazed by that either.

Please be assured that I was being lighthearted though, I do understand that sharing a face mask is certainly not a good idea even though the thought of it does not disturb me. If he was carrying the virus and I wore his mask, there's a much higher chance of me catching the virus and passing the virus on to someone that he may not have come into contact with.

I do not plan on actually sharing my mask with him and I'm sure he wouldn't share mine either, he'd end up with the bottom half of his face covered in foundation, bronzer, and lipstick, which isn't his vibe 😕

Nicolastuffedone · 09/05/2021 21:19

No

RoseRedRoseBlue · 09/05/2021 21:25

@EarringsandLipstick, I get the impression that you will be in favour of mask wearing for the foreseeable future, regardless of vaccination status. Am I correct?

EarringsandLipstick · 09/05/2021 21:27

Facemasks are pointless anyway in shops. I was shopping for several people between march 2020 and june 2020. Cases were sharply falling. People weren't catching it in supermarkets.

That's very surprising.

The evidence in Ireland differs hugely.

EarringsandLipstick · 09/05/2021 21:28

Well, I already pick up his dirty underwear (he's one of those darlings that places things next to the washing basket instead of inside the washing basket) so that doesn't bother me either to be honest.

Used tissues - I used to volunteer at a nursing home in which one resident would place their soiled handkerchiefs in my pockets so I also wouldn't be fazed by that either.

Ah yeah, but you don't wear his underpants or use the soiled tissue? That's the comparison between wearing a used mask.

EarringsandLipstick · 09/05/2021 21:30

[quote RoseRedRoseBlue]@EarringsandLipstick, I get the impression that you will be in favour of mask wearing for the foreseeable future, regardless of vaccination status. Am I correct?[/quote]
Until public health advice states otherwise, absolutely.

In Ireland, we haven't managed vaccination as well as the UK

But thank goodness we managed the pandemic overall with recourse to scientific evidence & strong leadership, unlike the utter mess that was most of the UK for the past year.

RoseRedRoseBlue · 09/05/2021 21:43

@EarringsandLipstick, so, if the advice was that you could bin masks tomorrow, you would follow suit?

Poppynit · 09/05/2021 21:46

@EarringsandLipstick

Well, I already pick up his dirty underwear (he's one of those darlings that places things next to the washing basket instead of inside the washing basket) so that doesn't bother me either to be honest.

Used tissues - I used to volunteer at a nursing home in which one resident would place their soiled handkerchiefs in my pockets so I also wouldn't be fazed by that either.

Ah yeah, but you don't wear his underpants or use the soiled tissue? That's the comparison between wearing a used mask.

Yes, I understand that. I'm just saying that the idea of doing those things doesn't disturb me, like wearing his used mask wouldn't disturb me. I completely understand that although wearing his used mask wouldn't gross me out or put me in any great danger (healthy, double vaccinated), it contributes to transmission.

I am concerned at the number of people I know who haven't washed their reusable masks for over a year because they 'only wear them in Tesco for five minutes'... Yes you might only wear them for five minutes but in those five minutes you've come into contact with things hundreds of others before you have and probably not sanitising your hands before removing your mask! Supermarkets were one of the most common exposure settings for those catching Covid towards the end of last year 😖

JeanneDoe · 09/05/2021 22:04

There’s loads of disposable masks in my house, no idea if they’re
Mine or DHs. Never throw any of them out and use whatever one I find lying around in the house.
I am a bit of an anti masker by which I mean I wear them only because it’s obligatory. I think they’re pointless and an infringement of my human rights at this point. I don’t mention this IRL but my point is I wear whatever mask that’s lying around irrespective of who owns it and how many times it’s been worn because I think they’re utterly pointless (and fog up my glasses)

RoseRedRoseBlue · 09/05/2021 22:21

@JeanneDoe you have summed up my feelings nicely

AnnaMagnani · 09/05/2021 22:39

@JeanneDoe I'm not an anti-masker, I do think they were vital when we weren't vaccinated but I was in the same situation as you, gazillions of disposable masks all over the car.

No idea whose were whose, any one will do. I do get rid when they look really crumpled but they multiply of their own accord.

Isolatedizzy · 09/05/2021 23:07

I used DH's to go in a public toilet the other week, I didn't have one with me but generally no!

EarringsandLipstick · 09/05/2021 23:42

[quote RoseRedRoseBlue]@EarringsandLipstick, so, if the advice was that you could bin masks tomorrow, you would follow suit?[/quote]
Of course.

EarringsandLipstick · 09/05/2021 23:43

I am concerned at the number of people I know who haven't washed their reusable masks for over a year because they 'only wear them in Tesco for five minutes'...

Oh God 🤮 a year!!!!

EarringsandLipstick · 09/05/2021 23:44

I am a bit of an anti masker by which I mean I wear them only because it’s obligatory. I think they’re pointless and an infringement of my human rights at this point

Ffs

SheilaWilcox · 09/05/2021 23:58

I've sucked his cock so face masks aren't that big a deal.

RoseRedRoseBlue · 10/05/2021 00:09

@EarringsandLipstick well, you have far more faith in ‘the system’ than I.

EarringsandLipstick · 10/05/2021 00:17

[quote RoseRedRoseBlue]@EarringsandLipstick well, you have far more faith in ‘the system’ than I.[/quote]
I do.

I'm in Ireland, we've had broadly excellent public health advice, and in general terms, trustworthy governance.

I appreciate the situation is very different in the UK, as evidenced by the appalling mess last year, pre-vaccination.

Elphame · 10/05/2021 00:23

If it's the only one in the car and I need to wear one for legal reasons then yes I would for a few minutes.

midnightstar66 · 10/05/2021 07:04

A used mask? No. I don’t even reuse my own without washing.

Absolutely everyone I know has an emergency mask languishing in the car or a pocket for when you need to pop to the shop and you've forgotten to bring a clean one.

Only on the internet do people share bodily fluids and lick each other's genitals and put tongues in each other's mouths but won't briefly use something a partner has breathed on 😆.

Nicolastuffedone · 10/05/2021 10:46

I use washable ones, disposable ones in the car for emergencies, but we don’t share face masks. Disposable ones are single use only, my washable ones are washed after each wear.

AzkabanPrison · 10/05/2021 10:58

We use disposable masks but only dispose of them if they get a bit grubby or break. I have a couple in the car and my bag and DP usually has one in his pocket from work so we just use them, we share them between ourselves. I've also shared with my mum, dad and brother, doesn't bother me at all

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Arrierttyclock · 10/05/2021 14:38

We have a few in each car and just wear which ever one we pick up. Dosent bother me in the slightest. I also borrow his toothbrush if mines run of charge. We're both in the dental industry and it dosent bother us at all