AIBU to think this is abusive?

[whereiscaroline]

DP and I had quite different childhoods.

AIBU to think that sending a child to bed without dinner as punishment for bad behaviour is abusive?

YABU - not abusive
YANBU - yes that’s abusive

I’d call it ineffective and poor parenting but I wouldn’t saddle it with such a loaded term as abuse.

@NeedNewKnees

I’d call it ineffective and poor parenting but I wouldn’t saddle it with such a loaded term as abuse.

It's just "poor parenting" not to feed your child?

Children should be able to rely on their parents for food, and not have to worry about that being taken away because the parents are angry.

I think its an old fashioned punishment that is seen as abusive these days(and it is to be fair) Along with "wait until your father gets home" What you are doing is depriving a child of food /nutrition .It is unfair and unkind .

@Happycat1212

I’ve seen it said online 🙄

And you take it seriously? Does it play out in your real world experience?

@NeedNewKnees

I’d call it ineffective and poor parenting but I wouldn’t saddle it with such a loaded term as abuse.

You are part of a very big problem.

Well I don’t that it is abuse but neither do I think this is so there you go, I’m merely pointing out that most punishments these days are considered abusive, beyond “having a chat” with your kids nothing else seems to be acceptable discipline anymore

Food should not be used as a punishment (or reward).

I think it's abusive.
It was done to me regularly as a child and now as an adult whenever I'm under stress I lose my appetite and can't eat. Anything that can leave a psychological effect is abusive in my book.

@Happycat1212

Well I don’t that it is abuse but neither do I think this is so there you go, I’m merely pointing out that most punishments these days are considered abusive, beyond “having a chat” with your kids nothing else seems to be acceptable discipline anymore

It’s all about checks and balances really isn’t it Although overall I’d rather run the risk of being accused of being railroaded and raising juvenile delinquents than being an actually abusive parent

It’s not unjustified, however ,to suggest that failing to set examples, adequately deal with and teach children valuable life lessons might also be viewed as neglect

Just that one scenario is criminal the other isn’t I guess

In he case of the OP’s question though I think it’s both so she needs to consider this