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How much money do you give Teenage DC a month.

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Bringminimoons · 09/05/2021 00:04

Hey ! Just that really how much do you give teenagers a month and what do they use it for / expectations on what it should include ?
Asking after ds told my sister how much he got and her reaction to it.

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cheesybean · 09/05/2021 00:07

13 year old DSD gets £40 a month (paid as £10 weekly on her gohenry)


Bringminimoons · 09/05/2021 00:08

@cheesybean what is expected of that money.
Like what does it have to cover ? Hope that makes sense.

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Pinkyavocado · 09/05/2021 00:14

My daughter has around £40- £60 per month. She usually spends it on bus fares going to town at the weekend, lunch, bits of make up she wants, toiletries etc. It isn’t expected to cover anything. Some months she had a lot less if she doesn’t go out. She’s just turned 15.


WhoEatsPopTarts · 09/05/2021 00:15

£60 per month. We pay for phone & basic clothes, haircuts etc.

They’re expected to share the task of keeping kitchen clean, loading/unloading dishwasher without being told. Sort their own rooms out and do their laundry. Occasionally they’ll cook a family meal.


Enough4me · 09/05/2021 00:15

My 15yr old DD has £15 a month from me and £15 from her dad, doesn't have to buy anything like essential clothes or pay for activities etc. Extra on birthday along with gifts. The money is for her to save and choose things to buy. E.g. if she wants a branded pair of shoes on top of clarks school shoes and sketcher trainers, which I buy her, she has to save and buy them.


cheesybean · 09/05/2021 00:35

She has a horse (that her mum pays for) so she uses her money for things she wants (but doesn't need) for the horse like show hats). She also uses the money for going our with her friends, gaming and buying random stuff.

To earn it she has to keep out of trouble at school, keep her grades up, help with housework and generally just be good.

Today she earned an extra fiver by cleaning up the cat poo her dad didn't want to do and I can't do due to pregnancy 😂


PretzelParadox · 09/05/2021 00:41

My 13 year old gets £20 a month, no conditions attached.

I still buy her clothes, toiletries and pay £6 a month for phone credit, so this is just to buy anything else she wants.


osbertthesyrianhamster · 09/05/2021 00:46

£60/month, age 15. She has a child bank account.


ThatchersCold · 09/05/2021 01:08

£50 month age 16. I pay for her phone, she usually spends her money on clothes she wants or birthday presents for friends. I do give her extra money if she is going to meet friends as she has ASD and it doesn’t happen very often, so I encourage it as much as I can. She also has a PT job which she earns £10 an hour for.


memberofthewedding · 09/05/2021 01:55

When I was 14 I complained to my parents that I had to refuse social invitations because I had only school uniform to wear. My father said "We buy you the clothes you need. If you want fancy clothes do what your mates do and get off your lazy backside and get a spare time job".

So I got myself a job in the chip shop which I kept, even after I began full time work at 16! It was good money.

Before that I got a small amount of pocket money from my parents. Each job had a price and every week my mother put a list up on the cupboard door. If I missed a job then I didnt get paid for it! That was in addition to keeping the room I shared with my sister tidy, running errands for my mother and the old lady next door, and generally helping around the house. My parents had no appreciation of the value of education. Even when I was revising for O levels I was often made to leave off and "help in the kitchen".

It taught me about the world of work and how you have to earn money by doing the job properly and keeping busy while you were in work. Giving a child money on a plate teaches them nothing. Its a bloody hard world out there. So no wonder there are so many little princes and princesses.

Rather than giving them money and things why not give them the opportunity to earn them?


Mintjulia · 09/05/2021 02:14

Ds (12) gets £8 a month but I pay for everything and he saves his money. He also has a lot of Waterstones vouchers to buy books.
I make sure there is money in his wallet but he never spends it. Until he grumbles I will leave things as they are.


Providora · 09/05/2021 02:20

Nothing, I pay for essentials and their part time jobs cover their discretionary spending. They're 17 and 15yo.

We've tried and tried to instigate some of allowance linked to helping run the house but they never keep their end of the bargain.


N0PE · 09/05/2021 02:36

No set amount. I pay his Spotify and phone and when he goes out he gets what I can afford at the time. Might be £10 or might be bus fares +£1. I wish I could give him £50 a month but it's just not in the budget.


N0PE · 09/05/2021 02:39

Oh and he doesn’t have to do anything to get money. He has to help around the house as he lives here and it's expected. He's not getting paid to be part of the family! 😆


Lollipity · 09/05/2021 05:32

My daughter is about to turn 15 and gets about £60 per month. I pay for haircuts, school stuff, toiletries, travel and phone. In theory the money should cover socialising and clothes, but I tend to still buy most of her clothes. She also earns money babysitting and dog-walking.

She gets quite a bit of money for birthdays and Xmas which she chooses to spend or save. However we do invest most Chinese New Year money she receives (several hundred pounds) in premium bonds for when she is older.


Iquitit · 09/05/2021 05:39

17 years old and £100 a month, £25 a week - but - that covers college expenses (except bus fare) for lunch and although I buy basic toiletries (there's always a bottle of deodorant, sanitary wear etc in the house accessible)
£20 of it is the child allowance, so for her anyway and I top it up an extra £5.
I give her one off extras sometimes, she's pretty good around the house so if I can I give her a bit more.


8monthsinandcranky · 09/05/2021 06:04

We intend to run a jobs list for our two as soon as they’re 12/13+ each job has a price and they can earn as much as they like.

Nothing big or crazy just hoovering a room, dishwasher, collecting laundry...etc suspect it’ll be about £5 per job taking approx 15-30 minutes that’s more than they’d earn anywhere else at that age. We have plenty to give them an ‘allowance’ but think it’s important to learn the value of money and that you don’t get it for nothing Grin


brizzlewizzle · 09/05/2021 06:30

14 years old. £100 a month (but £40 of that is dependent on a list of jobs and she rarely gets it all) She then pays for everything- clothes, friends' presents, travel, eating out with friends etc etc


greymayday · 09/05/2021 06:36

£100 a month for our teens but like @Iquitit that covers pretty much everything. They buy their own presents for family members birthdays, buy their own clothes, pay for their own haircuts etc. I can’t actually remember the last thing non-essential thing I paid for for them. If we go on a family shopping trip for example I wouldn’t buy them anything at all, it’s all out of their allowance


clipclop5 · 09/05/2021 06:45

Officially, DD (16) automatically gets £60 per month via bank transfer. This tends to be more like £100/£150 in reality as if she’s going out I’ll give her more to spend.


Rosebel · 09/05/2021 06:53

£20 a month and we also put £20 on her mobile phone.
Out of that she's not really expected to get anything but she likes to save for several months and then go shopping for clothes.
We pay for most clothes but some things I won't buy so she saves for them.
To earn it we just ask for her room to be acceptable and washing or drying up 4x a week


Onesnowynight · 09/05/2021 07:04

Ds16 £20 phone, £60 go Henry account, and the odd £20 if he stays at a friends house (pre Covid) to chip in for a takeaway. We’ll buy all his clothes, essentials, bus fare, and hobbies.


MrsDThomas · 09/05/2021 07:37

My kids have never had a set amount.

13 yr old gets £5 on a Saturday if he goes into the next village with friends. That will pay for pop/sweets and chips for tea. I also pay for his mobile.

17 yr old -when younger same as other kid, cash for the village when out with pals. Now gets £40 a week as is away living and needs cash for the weekend if not coming home.

19 yr old- nothing. Uni student and gets a fair bit in grants/loans and has more saved that i imagined. Pays for own mobile. Pays me a set amount each month for utilities and food. Barely covers it really but she rarely eats with us.

You really can’t compare with what others give


Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 09/05/2021 07:48

DS2 has followed in his brother's footsteps and got a job when he was about 14. Never needed to give either of them pocket money. We pay for essentials (clothes, train fare to school etc.) and phone contracts.


wonderstuff · 09/05/2021 07:54

Dd gets £10 a month and can earn extra for chores. We cover phone and lunches and negotiate a clothes budget when she needs it.

We've all been doing the ONS covid test survey so that's been giving her an additional £25 a month, they give vouchers which we use on supermarket shop and give kids cash.

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