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How much money do you give Teenage DC a month.

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Bringminimoons · 09/05/2021 00:04

Hey ! Just that really how much do you give teenagers a month and what do they use it for / expectations on what it should include ?
Asking after ds told my sister how much he got and her reaction to it.

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FunDayMonday · 09/05/2021 12:29

I added up what I'd give him anyway:
Monthly:
Hair cut £10
Fun money £40
Travel £30
Dinner money : £60
Toiletries : £8
Clothes (not uniform) £30
Phone £25 (which he has to pay me back as part of his budgeting skills)

He doesn't have to do anything for the money but does half the chores in the home and cooks most nights.

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Bringminimoons · 09/05/2021 12:34

As I’m going out for dinner etc
No I I say oh ok let’s all go to the harvester for dinner then I will pay. However there is times like when he fancies a dinner out and he will be like hey mum want to do bodeans for dinner and he will pay for me to 🤣

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Mellonsprite · 09/05/2021 13:52

£25 into bank accounts, then they can work with their dad on Saturday morning / school holidays to earn extra. We buy all clothes, haircuts, phone contracts.

OxanaVorontsova · 09/05/2021 13:52

£350 is almost 3 x what mine gets and I thought I was being quite generous! She pays for pretty much everything from that. We do pay £50 a month for guitar lessons but would never expect her to contribute towards a family day out though.

Besswess88 · 09/05/2021 13:53

Nothing, they got Saturday jobs and a paper round.

Besswess88 · 09/05/2021 13:53

But I paid for clothes, phones toiletries etc.

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Bringminimoons · 09/05/2021 14:09

By contributing to familiar days out I mean he has his own spending money. I wouldn’t take him to Thorpe park and give him additional money for kiosk / gift shop / extra fats pass etc as he has his own money.
If it’s a day trip that I have organised as a family I pay for his ticket.

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Feelingbad2 · 09/05/2021 14:13

I have DS age 13 and DD age 14. My mum gives them £20 a month. We pay for their phone contracts. I don’t give them set money, I pay for essential clothes, trainers, toiletries, if they need lunch when out with friends, the odd treat etc.

DS hardly spends anything. DD’s money burns a hole in her pocket.

listsandbudgets · 09/05/2021 14:22

DD is 15. Her pocket money is linked to various bits of light house work, getting good grades and making time for volunteering. She does 2 hours a week at local hospice shop and is a young leader at Brownies one evening a week. She tried to get a spare time job but really hard in this area but we want to encourage her to do something useful which will give her a bit of experience to the world of work.

listsandbudgets · 09/05/2021 14:30

^^She also looks after DS (8)

maddiemookins16mum · 09/05/2021 14:35

DD gets £30 from us and £30 from DMIL, she also is part of our Church babysitting circle (only doing one specific family at present, does a LF test before she goes), and gets £40 a month for that. We pay her phone, she covers everything else herself. She rarely wants new clothes, if so I give her my Debit card with strict instructions not to order anything that will make me cross. She’s done well (so far). She gets stuff from Charity shops too and is quite happy with Supermarket (especially George at Asda) and I get things from there so we double up (we don’t buy the same things of course, heaven forbid).

Madre1972 · 09/05/2021 14:35

DD is 13, she gets £30 a month by standing order and she can do what she wants with it- it’s usually fake nails arriving or arty things. We pay her phone and anything she needs. Her pocket money is for things she wants. She also has a pony which we fully pay for. She does chores around the house (recycling, dishwasher, clearing/setting dinner table, helping with the dog etc)

Yubaba · 09/05/2021 14:36

We don’t pay pocket money, I top up their phones £10 a month, £10 a week on their lunch accounts and pay for all essentials/clothes/food. We also have a family Spotify/Netflix/Amazon and Disney+ that they all use.
If we go out shopping I’ll probably give them £20-30 to spend on themselves and their birthday and Christmas money is theirs to spend as they wish.
They are expected to keep their rooms tidy and clear up after dinner, they also need to feed the cat and let her out in the morning.
They are 10, 12 and 14.

Maggiesfarm · 09/05/2021 15:42

@Besswess88

But I paid for clothes, phones toiletries etc.
That is just what parents do, at least the clothes and toiletries, it is to be expected. Food, clothes, warmth and shelter are basics.

Did they have no pocket money at all?

AlwaysLatte · 09/05/2021 16:12

(Nb I don't include travel fares (we drive our son to and from secondary school anyway since there's rarely a seat on the bus) and we obviously pay his school lunch card/packed lunches. So the pocket money is just for treats.

IanHBuckells · 09/05/2021 16:14

DD13 gets £40 pocket money straight into her bank.

We also put £50 a month in her child trust fund.

IanHBuckells · 09/05/2021 16:17

Sorry, missed the second bit. We obviously buy the big things like school uniform, sports kit, winter coat, school shoes and basic toiletries I just put on weekly shop so pocket money covers clothes, friends bday gifts, non-essential toiletries, fun stationery etc.

She has weekly jobs (keep room tidy, empty dishwasher daily the main ones) which gives her access to our Netflix, Prime etc as these are 'family privileges'.

troppibambini6 · 09/05/2021 16:20

Dd 16 gets £10 a week pocket money she also has a Saturday job that pays £40 plus tips so usually between £45 and £50 a week.
So around £240 a month.
In the holidays she has lined up a job with dh which she will earn £550 a month for four days a week.
We buy what she needs for school/ clothes/toiletries etc.. but if she wants wants to buy extras she will.

troppibambini6 · 09/05/2021 16:21

She also babysits but obviously hasn't been in demand much recently!

ghostyslovesheets · 09/05/2021 16:23

12 year old gets £10 a week - reward for her shift at the local stables (unpaid - I pay her) plus probably £5 in the odd extra

16 year old gets £20 week bus fare and I pay for her phone - she works PT and earns between £400/£600 a month on top

18 year old used to get the same but now pays for most things herself - she works PT but earns between £700/900 a month! I put money on her college card for food (about £15 a week)

SunshineCake · 09/05/2021 16:24

Mine get very little compared to some and they can do what they want with it. We pay for all clothes, shoes, toiletries, phone bill, medical appointments, school stationery. Everything. They use their pocket money for games, jigsaws, sweets, etc.

EggyBread4me · 09/05/2021 16:27

I think being able to budget is an incredibly important skill in life. Our 8 year old gets £5 a week, as long as he is working hard at school and behaving well. He loves Minecraft so pays for a server to play on, and if he wants to buy mine coins that's his choice (within reason!). I think at the moment he has about £80 saved up.

HerRoyalNotness · 09/05/2021 16:31

13y0 gets $55 a month with $5 of that going towards his phone. He uses it on treats/toys and has to save a bit for family birthdays and Christmas. But I haven’t been too good at enforcing that.

FedNlanders · 09/05/2021 16:32

@PretzelParadox

My 13 year old gets £20 a month, no conditions attached.

I still buy her clothes, toiletries and pay £6 a month for phone credit, so this is just to buy anything else she wants.

Same.
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