Absolutely fuming with one of my close friends.
I’m always very generous with him (and all my friends). I invite him for dinner all the time, if I have tickets to an event I think he’d enjoy, I invite him along. We’ve been friends a long time. I do ok financially but am by no means wealthy or in the position to throw my money around, nor do I offer my friends generosity with the expectation of it being reciprocated.
He rarely reciprocates with much generosity but he’s quite an unusual character (and I suspect a level of Aspergers or similar) so I've never given it much thought.
Today I felt he crossed the line massively.
He sent me a message to wish me a nice weekend and ask what plans I had, which was really out of character. He then said he’d bought a gift voucher for a restaurant but he couldn’t use it, so if I wanted to use this weekend it I was welcome to it.
I was really pleased, particularly as he can be a bit tight sometimes. I thanked him and said how kind it was. Then I realised....
Of course, he was trying to sell it to me. He’d bought it and realised he didn’t want it. He wasn’t even trying to get some of his money back, he was trying to sell it at full price (possibly even to make money out of it as he’d bought it at a discount). The fact he’d disguised his request as a really nice offer, was both embarrassing (for me) and crass (of him).
If he’d outright asked if I wanted to buy it, I’d have been completely fine. However, the way he went about it has really bothered me.
I literally never fall out with my friends but this has made me want to blow my lid. I read him the riot act when I realised but it’s made me want to cut ties with him entirely.
AIBU? It was hours ago and I’m still so angry!