Ex not paying a weeks child maintenance taking kids on holiday for the week?

[Shooshybobs]

Is this reasonable? He's taken them Mon-Fri on holiday, should he have a week off paying maintenance for this? Thanks

[quote toocold54]@Jellybabiesforbreakfast as I said my ex doesn’t pay maintenance but OPs ex is paying out twice because the payment is for the DCs food etc at RPs house but as they won’t be there so he’ll be paying maintenance to OP and paying for food etc that they use that week with him on top.
I feel like this situation is more to do with OP vs the ex, rather than being about the children.[/quote]
I believe @Shooshybobs said that he won't be seeing them the following week at all. Swings and roundabouts.

My friends ex did this too without warning. Funny how he didn't want to pay more on the week she took their child on holiday and her ex had no contact.

@Viviennemary

He sounds a bit mean but I suppose he shouldn't be paying that week if he's taking them away.

Thankfully you’re completely wrong. As is he.

See the fuckwittery is continuing on here

@00100001 your explanation is spot on. I also hope those who continue to fail to grasp the premise can get their head around the ongoing costs of children that continue regardless of a holiday c/o your purposefully Janet and John style equations. A week away scoffing ice creams doesn’t change the fact that by withholding maintenance for them, those self same children are ultimately and basically being disadvantaged by the same person buying those Mr Whippys

A lot of people seem to think that children with separated parents can survive on four Mr Whippys and two trips to the zoo a fortnight.

So if their father takes them to the zoo and buys them a couple of ice creams EOW, that's his share of parenting sorted.

@Viviennemary

He sounds a bit mean but I suppose he shouldn't be paying that week if he's taking them away.

Why should he pay less that year for fixed costs?

Would you demand a week payment break from your internet bill because you were in holiday?

I cannot stand the meanness of many maintenance paying parents.

Ex does this all the bloody time. It’s a real sign of their selfishness towards their kids. I cannot think of doing this is my Ex was the main carer, I’d be horrified at myself.

However I just hated arguments so I just used to not engage. Ex wanted to have a bit of a fight over it too really.

When our child was older teens I tied in his allowance to his Dad’s maintenance. Funnily enough he never missed a payment for a good while. But then stopped for good even though DS was in full time education. His father is mean and so is your Ex.

CMS is the bare minimum.

Obviously if the law says he has to pay for the week away then he should.

@Viviennemary

Obviously if the law says he has to pay for the week away then he should.

The law is irrelevant in a way.

Why is it ok for him to skip a payment of a fixed cost "bill"? Is it ok for your employer to skip
Paying you for a week, because they closed for redecoration?

maintenance isn’t for HER to live

Ah, well, there you’ve cracked it. The baby can live alone. Problem solved.

Jeez, this has been a depressing read. No wonder men continue to act like they do when there is an army of women defending their shitty actions.

Yup, depressing...

Of course maintenance is for the RP to live to a certain extent... it reflects the fact that they have care of the children and so working is more difficult for them. Unlike the NRP who can work whenever they like without incurring childcare costs.

Actually, compared to childcare costs, maintenance is a joke.

@Viviennemary

He sounds a bit mean but I suppose he shouldn't be paying that week if he's taking them away.

Yes he should.

@IanHBuckells

Jeez, this has been a depressing read. No wonder men continue to act like they do when there is an army of women defending their shitty actions.

Exactly. So many women defending men’s rights to keep their money away from their kids... pretty disgusting.

@Jellybabiesforbreakfast

Yup, depressing...

Of course maintenance is for the RP to live to a certain extent... it reflects the fact that they have care of the children and so working is more difficult for them. Unlike the NRP who can work whenever they like without incurring childcare costs.

Actually, compared to childcare costs, maintenance is a joke.

Yes it’s not as if the RP takes a massive hit to: Earning power Pensions Bigger mortgage for 18 years and beyond Childcare - either nursery or wrap around childcare

Not as if they have to:
Pay for all the clothes
The bills
The ipad/phone
Any medical stuff
Any school stuff
Take the day off when the kids are sick (this is still frowned upon in many levels of work, have to make it up with annual leave)
School books
Furniture
Allowances
Toiletries
Dental care

... none of which impact on the NRP. None!

But of course one week away - because a kid is just the chips they eat.

Seriously people?!!!