DM in her mid 60's is an alcoholic binge drinker and has mild LD's. She abandoned me age 16 and moved across the country without so much as a goodbye. That hurt. At age 23 I relocated to where she lives to rebuild the relationship only to discover she was an alcoholic. I've mentioned her on MN before.
I have tried to foster a relationship between her and my DC when she's sober (I don't tolerate the drinking at all so only let her come here when sober) but inevitably she lets them down, goes awol and causes me so much worry. Constant falls and injuries. Hospital admissions.
It hurts because it feels as though she's rejecting me (and now DC) all over again, repeatedly, despite me doing all I can to be there for her and support her. I just wanted my mum.
Due to the learning difficulties I have persevered and put up with more than I would if she was of average intelligence. I feel responsible for her, like I'm the mother.
Could your conscience allow you to wash your hands of her for good, even though she's technically vulnerable? She does have capacity and is capable of making her own choices. She doesn't want to stop drinking and I've had enough now.
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Ociana · 07/05/2021 13:16
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Am I being unreasonable?
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