To want people to calm my baby by his actual name?

[SimGuruRu]

Name change as outing. To avoid the inevitable “what’s his name” replies ... he’s called Brian, hence outing.
He’s 6 weeks old and friends and family seem unable to call him by his actual name. They make up stupid names for him “baby Bobo” for example, I’ve had people literally snigger when I say his name. MIL has outright told us it’s an awful name for a baby and she can’t say it without laughing.
I’ve told DH I’m getting to the point where I feel if people can’t call him by his name maybe they shouldn’t be seeing him?! He thinks this is an overreaction and that I’m being too dramatic. They are going to make him grow up hating his own name.
AIBU?

I didn't use my own DCs name for the first 6 months of his life. I called him all sorts of cutesy nicknames until one day he just seemed to have grown into his name. Maybe this will happen with your family too op. Don't let it get you down.

He grew, and grew grew and grew...

A boy called Brian!

Sorry, OP. I'm guessing you're not a Monty python fan?

@Doghead

All those people posting on here saying the Brian haters are rude and offensive. The OP did ask and people are entitled to their opinion. Maybe don't post on here if you're going to get upset.

@Doghead

Where exactly did the OP ask for opinions on her child's name?

I think Brian will hate his name soon enough without any input from others.

I know family did not like my eldest DDs name (she is called a nickname 99.9% of the time) but they never actually said anything, ignore them they will get over it, nothing wrong with Brian

She posted on AIBU, asking whether she was being unreasonable to say that if people can’t call her newborn by his actual name, and to stop sniggering and laughing outright to his name, they don’t deserve to see him. She volunteered the name, as she clearly thought it was important.

People’s responses on here, however rude — and some have been pretty unpleasant— are arguably relevant to the responses the OP has had from her family.

That was in response to @WaltzingBetty.

People are being so rude about his name. I don't see the issue at all. I know a very cute toddler called Bryony and lots of people comment on how lovely her name is.

My 23 year old son was named Harry George after 2 grandfathers.People laughed at the baby Harry and it was really disliked. That all changed as the name became widely used.I think Brian is a cute name for a baby and they just have to accept it

@cansu

I think that the fact that people are reacting in this way tells you that the name is really not a great choice as a first name.

Not really, people would have scoffed at Ethel, Margeret or Wilfred 10/20 years ago. Things change.

I've not read all the replies but I just came on to say OP PLEASE ignore this nonsense people are spouting about Brian not being a nice name. It's honestly ridiculous! It's a lovely name! I can imagine it on a little toddler being ridiculously cute too for when baby is a little older.
If anything you are ahead of the curve and if (likely when) the name gains popularity again you can be smug.
Agree with PP have DH have a word and enjoy your new baby. X

Brain is a normal traditional, British name. Some people may find it a bit boring but not everyone likes really unusual names.
Imagine the grief poor OP would have gotten if she had called him Muhammad or Xavier or something jeez!

I think perhaps you have to be below a certain age to not instantly think “He's not the messiah, he's a very naughty boy!” when you hear the name Brian tbh.

Maybe it is due a renaissance (along with Nigel, Kevin, Tracey and Sharon I’m guessing..)_ & you have every right to call your child whatever you want OP, I personally would find it hard to push past it & might be guilty of trying to use a shortened version or a nickname, but ultimately I would respect your choice if you were a close friend or family member - even to the point of using aboutaboutabout

I didn’t bat an eyelid at his name, nor do I understand the controversy.

I am born and bred English, but in my early 20s so don’t quite relate to the hysteria around the name Brian. Neither do the rest of my generation, nor the younger generation that your son is in OP.

I think people whom think you’re audacious for naming him Brian, forget that their experiences are completely irrelevant to those that are younger. None of his actual peers will care about his name or treat him any differently.

Ignore these people who are being rude. At their age, they really should know better.

I really don't get the issue wirh Brian. There's nothing wrong with it at all!

Brain is a normal, traditional British name

Is it? great typo.

I’m in Ireland and as previous posters have pointed out it’s used over most age groups here albeit a bit more unusual in the last few years.

Can’t get over some of the responses on this thread, I would pick Brian a million times over before some of the more modern made up names.

I wonder if its a generational issue. Im in my 40s and would think of it as a "joke" name. I am imagining the OP is younger/as must be those wondering what's wrong with the name!

Also obviously Brian Ború would be one of the main associations with the name.

Likewise with Kevin, it’s a saints name St Kevin of Glendalough and would be used over a broader range of age groups than in the UK

No idea what's wrong with Brian.
Like all names they go in trends, and this is just another won doing the cycle.

Brian is quite cool, I really like it. Ignore OP.
One of my friends called her DD Maude about 10 years ago - had the same reaction as you have had. Now everyone thinks her name is so cool and her DD suits the name perfectly and she is super creative etc

I met a toddler Brian about five years ago. Also named after a relative.

Ignore the rude fuckers. I work in a multicultural town and lots of names from the 50’s and 60’s are popular for the children in some of the African families.

I like Brian. It must have been on trend in 1977 as I went to school with at least three of them. It might not be "fashionable" but it's a good solid name. Brian Cox (both of them), Brian May, Brian Eno, Bryan Cranston, Bryan Adams, Brian Wilson, etc. Good choice.

The actual name aside.

It's totally normal for babies to have nicknames. Maybe because for many, adult names seem odd for a baby. It's also human standard to do sing song talk to babies ('motherese') and many names don't lend themselves to that.

So it's normal to do the nicknames. I know some parents don't like it but it is very very common and normal.

I think you may be over sensitive as you know that the name you chose is unusual / not in fashion at the moment.

Its not a name I'd choose but it's a well known standard name in UK so it's not hard to pronounce or anything.

If he hates it when he's older then he'll probably go by a nickname as many people do.

I'd probably call him little bri-bri while I was cuddling him

And in our family all 4 of us have silly names that have hung over from when they were tiny. It's a close affectionate family thing :)

I think baby Brian or a toddler Brian is cute 🥰 ignore all the naysayers OP. Own it. Yes we called our baby Brian, we really like it and it honours grandad.

Fwiw I know a baby Ian and a baby Derek and it seemed a bit weird when they were just born but now as little boys it’s fine and they fit their names perfectly. Don’t change it to something horrible like Bryant!