To want people to calm my baby by his actual name?

[SimGuruRu]

Name change as outing. To avoid the inevitable “what’s his name” replies ... he’s called Brian, hence outing.
He’s 6 weeks old and friends and family seem unable to call him by his actual name. They make up stupid names for him “baby Bobo” for example, I’ve had people literally snigger when I say his name. MIL has outright told us it’s an awful name for a baby and she can’t say it without laughing.
I’ve told DH I’m getting to the point where I feel if people can’t call him by his name maybe they shouldn’t be seeing him?! He thinks this is an overreaction and that I’m being too dramatic. They are going to make him grow up hating his own name.
AIBU?

I stand corrected, there was a King Brian of ancient Ireland!

Here is an early depiction of Brian with his sword.

Congratulations on baby Brian. I think your son has a perfectly acceptable name & its lovely you named him after a family member.

With all due respect, your child is a separate human being from you. In all likelihood, they're going to watch a shortened name or nickname when they're fairly young so they don't get bullied or picked on so you'll have to make your peace with it eventually. What other people call Brian is up to Brian and the person saying it - I can't imagine Brian minds.

Brian is lovely, they'll get used to it. Or they won't, who cares?

It's much better than Ezra and Fin and Jaxon

Brian is off-trend and not likely to cycle back into fashion immediately, but that has plenty of advantages such as not being one of 3 in the class. It's a name with good history, chosen for good reason and there are plenty of quality namesakes famous for different things and a brilliant film of the name. In Ireland it's not so strongly associated with a particular generation which is the issue being hit on here. Better to pick a name a bit early than be 10 years behind.

You'll never win everyone. Either it's trendy and ties you to a certain generation (and many of the current cutesy names will date heavily to this era, they are very thematic), or it's "classic" and "boring, or pretensiously different. People have been staggeringly rude about it, and it's a sound name to grow into.

YANBU but I thought Brian would have been retired by now

@BogRollBOGOF

Brian is off-trend and not likely to cycle back into fashion immediately, but that has plenty of advantages such as not being one of 3 in the class. It's a name with good history, chosen for good reason and there are plenty of quality namesakes famous for different things and a brilliant film of the name. In Ireland it's not so strongly associated with a particular generation which is the issue being hit on here. Better to pick a name a bit early than be 10 years behind.

You'll never win everyone. Either it's trendy and ties you to a certain generation (and many of the current cutesy names will date heavily to this era, they are very thematic), or it's "classic" and "boring, or pretensiously different. People have been staggeringly rude about it, and it's a sound name to grow into.

Good points

@Blueskytoday06

YANBU but I thought Brian would have been retired by now

Have you read the thread? Is Brian Cox retired?

Excellent trolling op.
First class! 😁

Arthur, Stanley, Archie were all "old man" names when I was younger, but now they're commonplace. If you told me I and my siblings would have used the names George, Frederick and Henry for our DC when I was young I'd have laughed you out the door but there you go.

Brian, Ian, Robert, Shirley, Susan and Sandra will become fashionable as the people with these names become grandparent just like the 70s names will come back in fashion as our generation become grandparents and great grandparents. Ignore the haters op and pp commenting on the name should mind their own business

The sun have picked this up OP- just so you know

apple.news/AEVR8zRpzS3aTU9JINI_gXA

@Orcadianrythyms

He's not the Messiah, he's a very naughty boy......

Has anyone told Biggus Dickus?

@Maireas I love Brian Cox!

@CandyLeBonBon - I watched his Planets programme, not understanding much at all, but it didn't matter!

@AmyLou100

I do think people should never be rude about a name to your face or the child. But Brian really isn't a good choice. Why give the child something he needs to feel awkward about when he really shouldn't be worrying about these things. If I hear Brian, I think an adult man. On a baby/child it's just really out of place. Look at people on the thread trying to justify why Brian is great, something that shouldn't even occur to you about a name. Op his name is his identity, he will go through his entire life feeling awkward, ashamed even or embarrassed. It will just take a comment or do and the damage will be done. I would change it to a second name.

The child isn’t going to be worrying about his perfectly normal name. No other children will tease him - to them he’ll just be Brian, a perfectly normal friend to have. No adult will pull a face at his name - they’re happy to be dicks about a baby’s name to its parents but they won’t say anything to a child. And when he’s an adult he’ll happily fit your mental image of a grown man.

Jeez, the shit on this thread, seriously.

Posters have frequently mentioned my dad’s name as a deeply untrendy one. And my father-in-law’s name, and in one instance my DH’s name. My own name is definitely of its time, although technically ‘a classic’. I shall be delighted when my children’s generation gets to naming and decides if any of our ‘awful’ names are worth considering.

Ds1 has Brian as a middle name (DH's choice as he's a Brian, as is FIL). It's obviously not a common choice nowadays but as much as I wouldn't admit it to DH it's so much better than some of the names that are often suggested on here. And apart from anything else, it's just plain rude to say that to you. I know DM wasn't a fan of DS2s name when I suggested it before he was born but she has never said a thing since he was born and we used it, which is how it should be.

Brian is a fully ‘normal’ recognisable name. It is just rather underused and so many will think it is a bit old fashioned. So what.
Even if Brian were my favourite name ever I’d fully expect people seeing small baby to call him all sorts (babby bobo, bri bri, etc). Partic with quite an adult name. Wouldn’t worry at all. He’ll grow Into it so will your family and friends.

People going on about Life of Brian as if it’s relevant - is it 1979 ffs? As if kids in the playground are going to care / know about a comedy film from the olden days. Move on people, it’s 2021 and cultural references have changed.

You named a baby, Brian, in 2021?

I love Brian!! That's ace!!

I do think people should never be rude about a name to your face or the child.

... but I'm going to carry on and be rude about it anyway. 🤦🏻‍♀️

The only thing I think of when I hear Brian besides all the lovely Brian's I know is Brian boru the high king of Ireland it's a strong name

@KellyanneConway

People going on about Life of Brian as if it’s relevant - is it 1979 ffs? As if kids in the playground are going to care / know about a comedy film from the olden days. Move on people, it’s 2021 and cultural references have changed.

People are going on about Brian Cox, as if a grey 53 year old physics teacher is an example of a name being on trend!

It’s obviously never spoken about on MN but giving a child an odd name limits their chances in life on so many levels.

You might swell with pride knowing that great grandad Brian would be touched, but the employers sniggering at a CV won’t

There are countless studies that show the negative impacts a name with negative connotations will have on someone’s lifetime earnings, employability, social circle etc - have a read of the chapter of Freakonomics if you haven’t already

But on MN the party line has to be ‘your baby, your choice, great name hun’

I’m imagining OP’s Baby Brian growing up to become really cool and a proper dish at secondary school and uni etc so he helps make the name really chic again. Go Brian!!

There's nothing wrong with the name Brian, ignore the people being rude about it. Like you say, he won't always be a baby and will grow into the name.

But...in the nicest way, you're being incredibly precious about wanting to stop people seeing him unless they call him by his full name. It's quite normal for babies and children to have nicknames, especially if they have a grown-up sounding name (such as Brian). My DD rarely gets called by her full name, just by a shortened version and then things like "baby cakes" and "munchkin". Obviously she won't always be called these things and people will start to use her proper name when she's older.