To want people to calm my baby by his actual name?

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Name change as outing. To avoid the inevitable “what’s his name” replies ... he’s called Brian, hence outing.
He’s 6 weeks old and friends and family seem unable to call him by his actual name. They make up stupid names for him “baby Bobo” for example, I’ve had people literally snigger when I say his name. MIL has outright told us it’s an awful name for a baby and she can’t say it without laughing.
I’ve told DH I’m getting to the point where I feel if people can’t call him by his name maybe they shouldn’t be seeing him?! He thinks this is an overreaction and that I’m being too dramatic. They are going to make him grow up hating his own name.
AIBU?

Wow! I’m actually gobsmacked by some of the posters on here, disgustingly rude and clearly being a troll, hiding behind your computer screens.
If we all had the same taste in names then the world would be a very boring place, our differences are what make life more fun. Also do we really have to be reminded yet again about being kind….?!!
Brian is a fabulous name and means something to you and a beautiful reminder of your grandfather.
YABU for being annoyed that people won’t use his name, I would also feel it’s a snub towards my choice of name. I would just rise above it and ignore the silly nicknames.
I hope the responses you’ve received here haven’t upset you. Congratulations on your baby xx

I'm beginning to think this thread is actually a joke

Hmm there have been a spate of these threads. Op drops the "divisive" name and gives little other input, the first page is

blunt honest reactions to the name, second page is virtuous posters telling them off, by the end everyone is gushing about how they love the name.

There was a thread a while ago about an advert the Op had seen, a new age healer advertising his services to women. He specialised in Yonic massage, it was all rather funny.
After further inspection of his website it transpired he was actually called Brian from Hull. Cue much hilarity.

Brian is an inoffensive name but let's not pretend there isn't a stereotype attached. It's a name regularly used in sitcoms and comedy sketches.

It's a grand name, OP. Some people have shit for brains.

My mum's cousin is called Brian... He absolutely pissed himself laughing when he heard that the daughter of one of mum's friends had called her son Noah, and kept making jokes about animals and rain, "hope he remembers his umbrella" etc. I didn't have the heart to tell him that little Noahs are 10 a penny these days and it's one of the most mundane names you could pick! Everything goes in cycles.

The name Stanley was once used in comedy sketches and jokes to denote a ridiculous man. Yet the name has grown in popularity. I associate Alfie with Audrey's husband in Corrie but I teach at least five.

Can't believe you called your child Brian, you deserve all you get!!

😂😂😂 some of these replies are pathetic. I’m actually embarrassed for some of you who are offended that someone called their child Brian.

I think everyone who says they hate the name should say what their kids are called. But I don’t actually believe they are offended by the name and are just trying to wind people up because they have nothing better to do with their lives and they know it’s in the news.

@Sixofseven

Wow! I’m actually gobsmacked by some of the posters on here, disgustingly rude and clearly being a troll, hiding behind your computer screens. If we all had the same taste in names then the world would be a very boring place, our differences are what make life more fun. Also do we really have to be reminded yet again about being kind….?!! Brian is a fabulous name and means something to you and a beautiful reminder of your grandfather. YABU for being annoyed that people won’t use his name, I would also feel it’s a snub towards my choice of name. I would just rise above it and ignore the silly nicknames. I hope the responses you’ve received here haven’t upset you. Congratulations on your baby xx

YANBU obviously!! *

Brian is a great name. Ignore the haters! It's my Grandads name too so I think it's fab!

I guess they probably call him nicknames because Brian sounds like a name for a 60 year old and hasn't come back into fashion enough for anyone to know any young Brians. You may well be a trend starter though who knows. Lots of people call babies cute names so I wouldn't be offended or stop them seeing him because of it, that's crazy. I'm sure they'll get used to his name once they've heard it enough and then think nothing of it.

@CoolCatTaco

Can't believe you called your child Brian, you deserve all you get!!

What are your children called, @CoolCatTaco?

Well people do use cute-y names w babies.

But, yep, it is probably partly about his name - they might stop when he’s older, or he might develop some longer term nn. I agree they shouldn’t do it, but it’s a very marmite and unfashionable name, so you must have known reactions would be strong?

It might well pass, but whatever you do I wouldn’t stop him seeing your family, that’s just punishing him.

Brian is an inoffensive name but let's not pretend there isn't a stereotype attached. It's a name regularly used in sitcoms and comedy sketches.

This was my thought. There are stereotypes attached to the name in the country I am as well. I'd never use it for that reason.

I know a Wilf who is 60, it was not a young person's name when we were young people, it was a name for people who fought in the First World War. Not babies born in the swinging sixties.
Now it's a baby name, not where I live but it seems to be popular in the UK. how does that happen?

I don’t like the name Brian, but you probably won’t like the names I called my kids. It’s rude to say nasty things about his name (PS I agree with you on the other names you’ve mentioned - I don’t like old man names!)

Silly cutesy nicknames are fine though. My youngest is still regularly called Noo

I think if people are saying hurtful things about your son then you are within your rights to say you don’t want to see them until they stop it.

Congratulations on your new baby

What you choose to name your child is totally up to you - However I think this thread is a wind-up.

I think Brian is a great name

As for your friends and family, just do a Trigger on them and start calling them all Dave

He's not the Messiah, he's a very naughty boy......

I mean we can't all like the same names can we?

I personally dislike some of the names I hear at DS's nursery such as Hunter or Malachi but then each to their own.

@Tal45

I guess they probably call him nicknames because Brian sounds like a name for a 60 year old and hasn't come back into fashion enough for anyone to know any young Brians. You may well be a trend starter though who knows. Lots of people call babies cute names so I wouldn't be offended or stop them seeing him because of it, that's crazy. I'm sure they'll get used to his name once they've heard it enough and then think nothing of it.

Brian McFadden and Brian Austin Green are relatively young and fit

Cutesy nicknames for babies are normal. I don't think my own child was called by her actual name until we were using it to tell her off as a toddler...

Brian is an unusual and unfashionable choice - you must have realised this when you chose it. It's not going to be to everyone's taste. You obviously like it so that's fine.

The more I think about, the more I like the name Brian. It's an unusual name for someone his age but much better than a lot of the really cutesy names a lot of them are getting lumbered with.

If someone can say Baby Bobo with a straight face, they can probably manage Brian.

I like it! My friend has a young ds named Brian. I think it's really sweet.

I knew of someone who was called baby by the family, as she was the baby. I have no idea what her real name was, as she was called baby until she died in her 80's.

Nice to name him after your granddad. People will get used to it soon and will like the name more as they associate it with your little boy.

He’s going to be in the vanguard of the next wave of names to cycle back in. When all the cool kids are called Trevor, Keith and Barry etc, Brian’s going to sound modern next to fusty old Oliver, Noah and Samuel.

I’m looking forward to my dated name becoming popular again one day!

I quite like Brian!

I do think though OP that people generally come up with cutesy nicknames for babies so I wouldn't necessarily think it's being done just because of your chosen name.

My nephew gets called Boris, mainly because of his wild hair when he was a toddler - his real name is nothing like Boris. When I was little people used to call me 'boo' - again, nothing like my real name.

I'm sure as your son grows his name won't seem that unusual to the naysayers. Sometimes names, especially ones you associate with an older person can seem a bit jarring when you first hear them, but you get used to it and your little boy will be the image people get upon hearing the name, not a 40 year old mechanic! (Corrie fans)

As an aside, once a pomeranian dog roamed into my garden - i had no idea who it belonged to so took it for a walk to see if I could see its owner. Up the road from me an elderly lady came out and said 'JOHN!! Oh my god, I've been looking for you!' and the dog ran excitedly to her 😂JOHN?? See, I thought that was funny, because it was unexpected. Now you get loads of dogs called Dave, etc that John doesn't seem so out there - same with Brian when your son grows and claims it!

enlighten me but what's the bad connotation with brian?