Lip Fillers

[KateMooney]

Hello,
Wanting to know if I'm being unreasonable or if my partner is being unreasonable.
I've wanted lip injections since 2019. I had a consult for them today and agreed on a conservative approach as I still want to look natural-ish and have my super, small, thin top lip look fuller.
I will be paying for filler myself and having no concerns from the financial side.

My partner (well maybe ex-partner now) of 5 years said to me after my consult:

1. lip fillers are "gross and unnatural"
2. said I look beautiful naturally
3. says that I have "deep-rooted" self-esteem issues since I want filler
4. thinks I will look unnatural and that I should have talked to him before I even had the consult
5. partner then talked with one of his friends who has hair plugs and whose wife has had a breast augmentation. Apparently, both of those procedures are DIFFERENT to filler because "they restore how the person used to look."
6. he said that he has to think about if he can be with me now...

Anyway - am I being unreasonable for getting my lips done? Or is my partner/ex-partner being a total dick?

These are my lips with a bit of red lipstick on, my upper lip would be non existent without a bit of filler. I really don’t think I look ridiculous, obviously I could be in complete denial but I don’t think I am.

Fillers always look a bit strange when the lips are moving, even if they look fine in repose

Yes I think this is it. The most 'natural' ones may well look fine whilst staring at your face in a mirror or in a photo.

But you don't have to look at yourself talking, laughing, yawning. They're always noticible and always make the face generally look a bit off, even if it's difficult at first to pick out what it is that's wrong.

The people saying lip fillers look ridiculous are i’m sure thinking of huge trout pout blown up lips. For people with very thin lips it’s totally different. They’ll never have an overblown puffed up look.

But I would think very differently about a man who got lip fillers, and probably dump him! I certainly wouldn't want to kiss him!

It's your decision ultimately.

I've seen lip filler on women who have very thin lips naturally. After the filler, it did look very good and natural.

Someone i worked with had it done, you couldn't even tell. It made her talk funny for the first week, then everything deflated and it just seemed a waste of money! She seemed happy though which is the main thing!

Also if they are filled too much, it seems to make the nasolabial lines more prominent.

It looks fine Swim. Having a bit of filler to replace lost volume or in very thin lips is ok IMO. So long as it doesn’t go duck or over inflated. Of course in a perfect world we all wouldn’t care about how we looked and would just accept it.

I think the..it doesn’t look natural when moving.. is very picky. People don’t scrutinise every single thing like that in real life. Any make up or dyed hair is unnatural and odd when you think about it.

He’s been horrible.

I took the plunge last week and had 0.7ml in to even out my lips. My top lip was very thin and my lower lip very full. I’m over the moon with the results as they now are in proportion.

The only ones you notice are the badly done ones. Research and choose your practitioner wisely and one who specialises in natural results.

@BiscoffAddict

I don’t think I’ve ever seen natural looking lip fillers. They nearly always make the person look as though they’ve had a serious allergic reaction to something.

That’s because you wouldn’t know it’s filler 😉

OP - it’s your face! He’s being a dick.

I had filler done (by someone actually medically trained) & I loved it! So natural, just balanced out the shape and symmetry. They didn’t add any where I didn’t need it (for me, Cupid’s bow area). It wore off perfectly, healing was a breeze. No issues. My own mother didn’t notice 😂

My lips were so thin I felt self conscious in photos all my young life, I started getting them around 26, it’s been life changing! Made me so much more confident and happy in my self. Obviously you can go over board and look odd, but if you go for a natural look you’ll love it.

Best advice is everyone’s lips can only go so big, don’t have unrealistic expectations like Angelina Jolie lips lol have a realistic end goal. especially if you want them to look natural as I do with mine.

Ok so I’ve had lip fillers about 5 times in total and recently had non surgical rhinoplasty. I seriously advise you DO NOT mess with your face. I seriously regretting having this filler in my face because I genuinely looked SO much better natural. Please bear in mind that filler migrates overtime and you will most probably need to get it dissolved in the near future. I now have folds on either side of my mouth due to the filler migrating and only way to get rid of this is to get it dissolved. I hate my new nose and how it looked before was so much better. If that isn’t enough to stop you from getting it done then I advise you to read the risks of getting any filler in your face. If I had done that there is no way I would have let them near me with a needle 😂. In all seriousness no matter how thin you feel your lips are you look so much prettier being natural. My partner was very against me having anything done to my face and would get so annoyed with me when I got it done. He eventually gave up telling me not to do it and then after my nose I learnt my lesson. I’ve truly ruined my natural beauty and will most probably get dissolver booked in so I can go back to being natural. DO NOT DO IT!!!!!

@BiscoffAddict

I don’t think I’ve ever seen natural looking lip fillers. They nearly always make the person look as though they’ve had a serious allergic reaction to something.

This. Sorry but it won't look good.

You posted on the wrong forum as I think many posters on here have misconceptions about filler. They think everyone looks like the obvious/botched work from poor practitioners, when in reality millions of people have these procedures done without issue and have natural results

You need to go to a top tier professional - a medical professional, preferably not a nurse or dentist, who has decades of experience. They may not have a buzzing social media presence, but they should know when to stop and not take it too far and what to do if any complications arise. DO NOT go to a beautician. DO NOT go somewhere cheap.

Your partner sounds nasty and rude. Points 3, 4, and 6 are the most concerning. He’s self diagnosing you with mental health issues that you don’t have. He’s discussing you behind your back with your mates. He’s giving you a ridiculous ultimatum for wanting to do something you want to do, and won’t even listen to your thoughts. Frankly I would call his bluff and tell him to go.

Get the lips or don’t, but regardless you don’t need his dramatic, worthless energy in your life

It's your body is my opinion - not his.

My son's girlfriend recently told me she has lip fillers and I had no idea. It's not the lip fillers, it's how much you have put in that makes the difference.
I say 'go for it' if it makes you feel good.

I think I've seen too many where there there are those odd little bumpy uneven raised edges around the lips afterwards. Or odd protruding lips mostly visible side on.

But some people aren't keen on artificial enhancements. I'd seriously consider dumping my partner if he got a tattoo. In fact, I almost certainly would. Different people feel differently about different things. Hair dye - not so bad if its only a change by a few shades which the sun or a different climate might do - a radical change, mmn not keen!

Again, its obviously up to you whether his attitude puts you off him.

If he has to reconsider his relationship with you over something as trivial as lip fillers then I’d push him before he jumps, quite frankly. How committed is he if this is a deal breaker ffs?

@TwinkleToeMatilda I felt the same after my non surgical nose job. Thankfully the the filler wore off quickly, it is a very clever procedure but it made my eyes look weird because of the amount they put in the top to make it appear straight.

OP, you lips. Your choice. Get the filler and tell him to mind his own business. The fact that he thinks boob jobs are ok but fillers aren’t says all you need to know.

Even the richest, most beautiful Hollywood stars fuck their faces up with this shit. Do what you want, but I'm with your DP and don't blame him for flagging that it's about deeper issues than lips. What a thing to fixate on.

Well I can see his point of view. If he finds them unattractive he's right to tell you. He can't help that. It's up to you then if you want to go ahead or not.

Similarly, my dh is balding. I would find it a right turn off if he got plugs. It would make me think he was insecure and too concerned about his appearance. That's not sexy to me.

You have every right to get them if you want, but you can't expect your partner to like them if he just doesn't.

I have had the minimal 0.6ml lip fillers twice second time was through a cannula and better than the injections. It wears off anyway after about 6 months so I wouldn't worry about it . The ones you notice are 2 ml . I mentioned it the other day to two of my best friends and they were shocked they had no idea I'd had it ! It wasn't a secret or anything I always tell people if they mention fillers or hifu treatment because I've had both of those but it was in the gap between lockdowns so they hadn't realised ! It's so funny when people find out they nearly fall over . But only get the smallest amount!

It's your face and you clearly have done your research and aren't running into it. I think what most people protest to is the 'instagram aesthetic' so sort of pouty over-flated lips, yellowish skin and thin nose and a weirdly defined jawline. It doesn't sound like you're chasing that look so go for it.

Yes he is a dick. It's your body.
I only realised a friend had her lips done they're barely noticeable and very natural.
I'm tempted myself.

Then let him leave. If a bit of natural lip filer is enough to make him leave you then he doesn't love you tbh. Or he's just fake threatening to manipulate you. Neither of which would make me want to stick around.

To me, it's not about him not wanting you to have filler that's wrong (we all have preferences) it's the manipulation and threats around making you obey him.

@BiscoffAddict

I don’t think I’ve ever seen natural looking lip fillers. They nearly always make the person look as though they’ve had a serious allergic reaction to something.

Well of course you haven't, because the point is you wouldn't know they weren't natural.

Don't overdo it.