DS 21 looks younger than his age

[jumpingjack5555]

Hi my ds is 21 and he says he has a babyface and looks young for his age, he's confided me in me and said he was speaking to this person on online dating and they said based on his photos he looked 15. I was just wondering are any of your grown up children in the same potion and look young for their age. He's mentioned how he is now a grown up and still looks like a teenage boy.

Thanks

My 15 year old looks years older than my 24 year old.

@minniemomo

My dd, uses it to her advantage and buys child's fares etc but seems to remember her Id for the pub!

Someone on my train tried that the other day. Trouble was that their provisional licence was visibly tucked into her phone case.

"How old are you?"
"Fifteen"
"Is that driving licence genuine?"

Busted!

Nearly 40, still get asked for i.d. I no longer mind with new hair style rather than the dark goth style i used to sport, i look younger than i did in my earlier 20’s.

I don't get it when people say 'I can't see how people in their thirties are being mistaken for teens or early 20's.'.
Try telling that to my female relative who constantly gets told she looks 17 when she is midthirties.
I myself got it wrong with someone the other week when I thought they were about 15 years younger than their actual age. It can and does happen and there are those out there that look decade's younger than their age.

My ds1 is 22 and still gets asked for ID...to buy energy drinks

DH is a teacher and over the years has been shouted at by dinner ladies to get in the students' queue, asked to leave the staff room when he was a PGCE student teacher on placement, asked by visiting parents what A-levels he has chosen/where he will be going to uni next year, and one particularly memorable school trip to the theatre with his A-level students he was refused service at the bar but all his students were served. He has since grown a beard (which took him about a year!)

xiao

That’s exactly why ive told ds1 that if he ever became a teacher it would have to be at primary level 😀

This might cheer him up, mostly:
www.independent.co.uk/life-style/meet-the-superyoung-some-people-just-never-seem-to-look-their-age-why-how-and-can-we-all-do-it-geraldine-bedell-reports-1497594.html

Scientific studies also suggest that people who look younger are ageing more slowly than average and some of their organs or immunity play a major part in that (sounds like the bleeding obvious but it might tie in to the observations about puberty earlier on. In my case, I've looked noticeably younger since I was about 17 and am also one who still gets ID-ed 30 years later but I had precocious puberty kick in aged 10, a big growth spurt then, and after that, no others. So not 'normal' progress).

Rufus it gets worse, when DH grew a beard the first time he had a comment from a parent "oh, when did they start letting boys grow beards?"

I forgot to mention the most outrageous story - DH is now quite senior in the school and had a parent come up to him (again, on the touchline) and say "I'm sorry, would you settle something because my friend over there doesn't believe you're a teacher here." DH got quite cross and said coldly "not only am I a teacher, I'm actually a " and the guy shouted back to his friend "he says he's very senior, ha ha ha!!!" DH was absolutely fuming but couldn't show it, he turned his back and walked off!

Drivers just to try and charge me the child fare at 22.
Last time I got challenged was 29

Now nearly fifty but still look younger, I only have the odd grey hair, I take after my df who at 78 still looks early sixties and has mid grey hair

@Xiaoxiong

Rufus it gets worse, when DH grew a beard the first time he had a comment from a parent "oh, when did they start letting boys grow beards?"

I forgot to mention the most outrageous story - DH is now quite senior in the school and had a parent come up to him (again, on the touchline) and say "I'm sorry, would you settle something because my friend over there doesn't believe you're a teacher here." DH got quite cross and said coldly "not only am I a teacher, I'm actually a " and the guy shouted back to his friend "he says he's very senior, ha ha ha!!!" DH was absolutely fuming but couldn't show it, he turned his back and walked off!

Its funny....but its not funny

I tell ds1 that he’ll appreciate it when he’s older but by the sounds of your husband it won’t get any better

I think it's frustrating when you are young, but as you get older you appreciate it a bit more!

I constantly get ID'd for energy drinks which you need to be 16 to buy, and I am 28. It does make me feel good every time!

I regularly get asked for ID in shops, I’m 40 years old. I used to hate it, but it is a good thing as you get older!

The best one was my dsis 18th birthday, I was 22, nearly 23, half of her friends were only 17(I didn't ask who and didn't buy any drinks for them), guess who got challenged much to their amusement

I wasn't even drinking as I was the designated driver

My DP is 25 and usually has some level of beard but occasionally gets annoyed with it and shaved it all off. At which point he de-ages by about 10 years! I’m 26 and have a baby face too. I always get asked for ID when we get booze in the shopping delivery. I want to say to them I own this house!

@wingsnthat

I do not believe people in their 30s+ are being mistaken for a 20 year old, or teenager. If you are, it’s because the people you’re speaking to are just out of touch as actual 20 year olds will not recognise you as a peer.

That's not my experience. I've had teens/early 20s assume I'm one of them, they only tend to realise if I happen to mention how long I've been involved in the sport we do.

@wingsnthat....when I went back to uni to do a second degree at 34, none of my cohort realised I wasn’t their age until I mentioned that I’d been to uni before, in the 90s.
I started a placement on that course where I mentioned having to pick my daughter up and the young woman working there asked what nursery she went to, and I laughed and said she was in high school she was visibly shocked, I just look young. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yes, definitely possible to be mistaken as a teen or early 20's as a thirty something.
My niece gets told she looks 17 years old, 99% of the time when she is midthirties. She dresses her age, wears make up , is mature and responsible but just has a really young face and slight build. She hates it and feels it's getting worse the older she gets. People used to say to her 'Don't worry, you won't be looking 18 at 30!!!' as if it was mad to ever consider it but it happens more often than ever now she is the age she is.