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Hate the school run

46 replies

Toodlemum · 04/05/2021 15:55

Actually nursery but anyway it's just getting stupid now I'm really chatty and friendly it's just how I am and I've made friends at the nusery gates but I've developed some haters ! Rude aggressive plain old blatant nastiness its unbelievable. I'm just not interested in negative people I'm here for my child and no one else. I'm not the only bubbly person theirs others with similar personalities. I dunno I just feel so hurt. One of them his very young son pushed my boy today now kids do that my son has done it but the thing is his dad never apologised! Hes not cliquey with the other bitchy crowd at all but still. I phoned the nusery to say about it I was hurt by his lack of manners. I'm just totally rambling here actually now. But it's quite concerning about his kid particularly because hes really unwashed looking and unkempt dad has massive car so definitely not poverty. Anyway. I've no car and so I cant wait in to join last. Anyway rant nearly over but jeeze some of these people make me feel uneasy. Just frosty and glaring I've done f all to anyone.

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Manteo · 04/05/2021 16:10

What's the AIBU here?

It sounds like you phoned the nursery to complain about another parent which sounds a bit unreasonable but it's hard to tell as your post is s bit incoherent.

AndroidsAliensAndWizards · 04/05/2021 16:16

You phoned the nursery to complain about the manners of another parent hurting your feelings?

What do you mean by "haters", if you're warm and bubbly and have already made friends that you stand and chat with I wouldn't worry about people who aren't chatting with you. Some people are just introverted and don't like small talk. If you've already got people you chat with just stick to them.

Troublewaters2021 · 04/05/2021 16:19

Hmmm I think I might have cracked the problem and it is not them 🤔

Pumperthepumper · 04/05/2021 16:23

Are you in the UK? It’s different times now, people aren’t allowed to hang about for a chat. Did the other boy push your kid in front of all the waiting parents?

wildeverose · 04/05/2021 16:25

You phoned the nursery to complain about another child's dad????

Shinyletsbebadguys · 04/05/2021 16:32

Well firstly did the dad know yours was the child pushed ? I've definitely been in the situation where there was an issue between DC and I have no idea what the other one looks like. If I do I have always made DC apologise but just as often j wouldn't hold it against the other parent. They might not be aware or be anxious about speaking to another parent.

If you rang the nursery to complain about another parent that's a very odd and entitled response. Ots nothing to do with the nursery how the other parent responds!

You seem to be looking to feel picked on and treated badly? Just pick your dc up , it doesn't need to be some odd social situation.

Happycat1212 · 04/05/2021 16:32

Can’t believe you complained that the dad didn’t apologise to you 😬

Topseyt · 04/05/2021 16:37

Very confusing, incoherent and rambling. I don’t really understand what you are on about.

I wonder if you might be creating potential problems where none exist.

I didn’t always want to stand blethering on the school run. Occasionally I would chat, but mostly I just wanted to drop off and go. I was totally relieved when my youngest child reached secondary school age and I no longer had to do school runs. That was 8 years ago now and she is nearly 19, coming to the end of her first year at university.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 04/05/2021 16:37

How did the nursery react when you pointlessly called them to say he hadn’t apologised on behalf of his child?

tealandteal · 04/05/2021 16:37

When my DS was at nursery I was never told which child pushed him or which one that he pushed, just that it had happened. I wouldn't have known which parent I needed to speak to and I would ask DS to apologise if I did know/saw it. The nursery can't change the other parents behaviour so it was a little odd to call them.

Sirzy · 04/05/2021 16:39

What happens in nursery should stay in nursery (and school!) when parents start getting involved then things get messy!

Sirzy · 04/05/2021 16:39

As in when parents start getting involved in silly minor incidents between children obviously and not when it comes to their own child’s education!

CafeMochaVodkaValiumLate · 04/05/2021 16:40

You sound neuroticConfused

Unanananana · 04/05/2021 16:40

PFB by chance?

Not everyone will like you. Please don't call the nursery to complain about other parents. You look like a div.

ghostyslovesheets · 04/05/2021 16:42

blimey - have a cuppa - come back and read your post with a fresh eye - you seem to expect a lot and read too much into peoples behaviour - I suspect the issue might be with your expectations and interpretation rather than the other parents.

Also drop off is just that - it's not a social event - I never expected to make friends with other parents at the school gate and I find it odd that people do.

Bitofanexpert · 04/05/2021 16:46

Not sure where you are based- but here right now it’s pull up, collect your child at the main door, go.

Im really not getting the angst- I don’t know any nursery parents and haven’t even thought about it until now. There will be plenty of chances in life to make friends, this just isn’t one for now.

Freesunglasses · 04/05/2021 16:48

I always find peole who say they have 'haters' have a massive chip on their shoulder. Of course I could be wrong on this occasion.

And a big car proves nothing. I knew a millionaire who drove a banger I also knew a person who drove a brand new Mercedes, they went bankrupt.

Just pick up your child and ignore the 'haters'

ShirleyPhallus · 04/05/2021 16:52

Gosh really?! That’s a lot of drama

peboh · 04/05/2021 16:53

Well at least you've given the nursery teachers a laugh today. If you were genuinely phoning out or concern for the child's well being then fair enough, but you didn't. You phoned because a man didn't apologise for his son being pushy. That wasn't an issue that you needed to concern the nursery with.

peboh · 04/05/2021 16:54

Also you haven't developed haters. You've just found people that don't like you. Thats normal life.

squashyhat · 04/05/2021 16:54

Jeez how old are you? 12?

Icanflyhigh · 04/05/2021 17:02

Ummmmmmm.......

EssentialHummus · 04/05/2021 17:03

Not everyone will like you. Please don't call the nursery to complain about other parents. You look like a div.

This. Also, as PP said, it’s not a 2x per day social event. Some people love a chat and you might make friends, or you might not, either is fine and normal.

FilthyforFirth · 04/05/2021 17:08

You sound unhinged! I cannot make head nor tail of most of your story. Though I am agog you rang the nursery to complain about another parent hurting your feelings?!

Somethingsnappy · 04/05/2021 17:13

If I have learned one thing in life, its this: that other people's reactions to me (when they don't really know me) are very rarely about me and all about them.

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