Is it wrong for a 3/4 year old to say Crap?

[Chocolatekrispy]

As the title says is it wrong for an almost 4 year old to use the word crap?

No, it’s just a word. People are weird about words.

Apart from it being dated as a word imo, it’s not the worst thing they can say but in a firm believe in teaching children there are appropriate times to say swear words, and as long as they know when, where and in what context they’re allowed to say them it takes away the “oooh naughty word” giggles and desire to say them to push buttons.

Yes it's horrible

I consider crap as a swear word, and don't say it myself. It's nasty.

Even my 28 year old DD who lives with me doesn't say it. Neither of us swear at all, just no need.

Yes. Surprised you even need to ask.

The problems in your family go way beyond the use of certain words.

I can't get excited about children dropping the odd swearword, they are just words. If you make an issue of it surely it just gives the words more power. Crap is extremely mild IMO.

@mathanxiety what do you mean ?

@SwedishK

It does sound wrong when small children swear, but I’d rather they swore (not cunt and the like) and spoke grammatically correct, than not swear but say things like “would of...”, “ain’t nobody”, “of a morning” etc. If for some odd reason I had to choose between the two.

Although, I didn’t even know crap was considered a swear word up until recently. I thought it was interchangeable with rubbish.

I think you mean 'grammatically correctly' .

Sorry, couldn't resist.

Yes

Crap was a swear word for 10 year olds when I was young in the 80's :-D ie really not a proper swear word but we thought it made us sound grown up. I wouldn't want a three year old picking it up really but it's certainly not the worst! It just sounds a bit rough IMO. Swearing certainly has it's uses though, they've found it helps when you're in a lot of pain especially if you don't normally swear very often - in child birth for example.

@Chocolatekrispy
Your problems are:

He said it in a jokey way but I didn't find it funny at all, it's not a nice word to use, but football is crap when it comes before your own kid and partner however to call someone's mum who does my best crap was a not right

Your H has checked out of parenting, and your FIL disrespected you in front of everyone.

What is going on? How is H getting away with putting football before everything else? How is FIL getting away with insulting you?

@Memedru

Our little one is 18 months and has picked up the word ass from somewhere, me and my partner dont use that word, so not from us

He means a donkey.

To answer your title : Yes

However, football isn't "crap" either. You might not like it, but it's not nice to teach children that something is "crap" because you happen not to like them. There are LOADs of things I don't watch, or spend time on or listen to or enjoy, but that doesn't mean they are "crap" and I taught my dc that everyone can enjoy whatever they enjoy, whether I share their interest or not.

Yes

@Sh05

I'm not sure why my post is hidden but I'll repeat it. If they're hearing it they'll repeat it so you may want to find the source if you don't like it. My 19 month old has started saying omagod! She hears her brother say oh my god so she's started repeating it!

Mine's picked up oh my god. Said with an American accent for some reason. We are currently ignoring.

I don't want my dc swearing without judging the audience so we don't do it routinely. I know they know and use the words with their friends but I don't want to hear it and I don't want it said to a teacher. Crap is on the list of words to think about.

Better than 'holy shit balls' which our 3 year old came out with last week.

It's definitely not in mine or dh's vocabulary so it must be school or nursery he's heared it. And it's such an odd one that it's truly difficult to keep a straight face whilst ignoring it 🤦🏻‍♀️

With regards to bloody, do the kids that are saying it have any contact with Aussies? Mine do and bloody isn't a swear word in Aus, it just means very. I'm waiting for DD to start saying bloody (probably in an Aussie accent).

My eldest, by 4 or so, had said "shit, fuck, oh bugger"

It's pretty normal. They only have to hear it in once in public, and it's sods law it's what they repeat.

Difference is, ds said those things once and only once. I don't think it's a problem for a child to pop something like that out once. They don't know it's wrong. If you nip it in the bud, it will just be a funny one off.

If you need to ask if it's wrong OP, ask yourself what her school teachers would say and there's your answer.

They wouldn't let kids use that word as so many parents would be up in arms about it.

I didn't pluck up the courage to say crap til I was about 14

Kids repeat what they hear & esoecially if there is some shock value or attention to be gained by it...so no-one will hold a once off against you. But I wouldn't like it in continous use & would correct...kids routinely swearing comes across as rough & school or friend's parents won't like that influence on other kids esp if ypu are the parents who do nothing to correct it (not saying you are). I'd nip it in the bud now.

Your FIL might have thought he was being funny...if not, he is a bit crap himself. Your DH sounds like a selfish pain in the arse if he ignores his family all the time for football ...

Given your real problem, it’s odd that you chose this aspect of it to base a thread on. It’s very passive and “kick me”.

Mine said, "Ucking ucking", at eighteen months after hearing me having a few words with his dad.

I never swore in front of my child again.