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To pick at my dinner over a long period of time

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andymoan · 02/05/2021 18:52

Anyone else the same? I'm never able to sit and have a big meal in one sitting but I could finish it over the course of the night by just picking at it even if it's cold. I've even seen myself not being able to finish it that night and having the rest for breakfast/lunch the next day. Anyone else?

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NoLeafClover · 04/05/2021 00:57

This is exactly how I eat. However I have a history of anorexia and am in the midst of a pretty significant relapse. Now I'm not at all saying that you have an eating disorder. However, I'd urge you to think about what and how you eat, and if there might be a pattern of disordered eating emerging. It can be slippery and insidious, and you'd be amazed how quickly it can spiral. And I'd beg you to do everything that you can not to go down that road.

earthyfire · 04/05/2021 00:58

No. I need my food piping hot there is no way I could pick at food that was going cold.

Stichintime · 04/05/2021 01:30

Ihavebrillohair, a name change fail?

4PawsGood · 04/05/2021 07:32


OP whats going on? You also started a thread today about drinking too much wine and laying on the sofa the next day over eating, then feeling really bloated.

That’s only every fortnight though. Sounded like the eating thing was every evening.
FineWordsForAPorcupine · 04/05/2021 19:10

This is how my partner eats - he likes cooking, so we'd have a lovely time cooking together, but when it came to eating, he'd faff about and get distracted and then take ages serving himself, then get up and faff some more, then start eating, then stop, then get distracted again, etc.

It used to drive me CRAZY. I'd sit there thinking ffs, can't you just EAT like a normal person? So I had to do some serious introspection about why this got to me so much. It wasn't affecting me, I still had my dinner and could eat as much or as little as I wanted, but it bugged me. When I really thought about it, it was about me and my relationship with food - I had all these parental voices telling me to eat up, clear my plate, stop messing around, etc. But I'm an adult now. I can eat or not eat whatever I want, and I don't have to impose all these illogical moral values to eating.

The bottom line is that I am an adult. What and how I eat is my business and no one gets to tell me its wrong. For no real reason, our society has decided that three meals a day, one of them hot, eaten in a given time frame is "right" but that's convention, not some unalterable law.

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