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AIBU to think some people are going to miss covid

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SuddenArborealStop · 01/05/2021 22:27

There's been threads all with people hand wringing about what the neighbours are up to and who's breaking what covid regulations.
The threads are still happening but seem to be fast losing support as most people are more than happy to resume regular life and appreciate the lowering risk.
AIBU to think some people are going to miss the easy social judgement covid made available to them and they'll miss curtain twitching and pretending to worry about their neighbours when their grandchildren enter the house 1 day earlier than a regulation change.

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millenialblush · 02/05/2021 07:50

But it wont go anywhere, the attention will turn to the new restrictions - the vaccine passports. The curtain twitchers and double maskers will think they have a right to lecture those who dont get the vaccine. More friction, more fear, more reason for one group of people to feel they are better than the other.

TheFuckingDogs · 02/05/2021 07:56

Love the phrase “lockdown lover” it’s so true that some people seem to have got a proper thrill out of the whole thing.
It’s great that the real world is starting to happen again whether they like it or not

Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep · 02/05/2021 08:06

Our local Facebook page had a post yesterday about the bank holiday market, first since covid, taking place outdoors etc. Several people sucking teeth and saying 'what about social distancing'
First, it's going to rain. Second, the market is always shit. Third, we live in a tiny town. The chance of being smashed up against heaving crowds is non existent. I posted that our area has a rate of infection such that if 100 people were there at once 0.015 of them would have covid and STILL the people moaned.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 02/05/2021 08:16

There are events this weekend locally. Heavily advertised. No way to not know what's happening.

Police still got people reporting it after seeing videos online and came out saying it's legal and sharing an article to explain. It's pretty obvious from the videos it's not some hidden illegal party.

PhilCornwall1 · 02/05/2021 08:20

@NotImpossible

That was in reply to *@PhilCornwall1*
There are many that have really enjoyed trying to dictate to others the way they should live.

The person in my original post is a prime example, jumping down peoples throats when they consider what they have been doing is wrong, based on their own crazy interpretation of "the rules". Many are fed up with it and having a go back.

TheKeatingFive · 02/05/2021 08:27

Some people have reacted by trying to control their world as much as possible (not an unusual reaction to fear).

Trying to control others by threatening them or shaming them (and there have been countless examples of this on here) or losing the rag over perfectly safe behaviour (like bench sitting) is not acceptable, no matter how scared you are.

SugarCrash1 · 02/05/2021 08:33

What you are saying is ‘some people are contemptible in a way that I’m not.’ I don’t suppose you’ll change after the restrictions ease so why should anyone else?

Biker47 · 02/05/2021 08:35

I'm just waiting for the day in the future that I hear about one of the lock down loving wankers asking to see someones "covid passport" when they're out and about in public, as if they're some sort of self appointed covid sheriff. I'd like to hope it would never happen, but judging from the last 14 months, nothing surprises me anymore.

Happypigc · 02/05/2021 08:38

Yanbu, so many curtain twitchers, nosy and control loving people about.

Tiktokersmiracle · 02/05/2021 08:40

Yeah sad but true

But then, you have to ask why. Is there anxiety that usually they have to try their best to deal with and Lockdowns/furlough etc have given them an opportunity to just sit indoors and be alone or in their small family group?
Are there people with so many expectations they feel they can't say no to who have enjoyed the peace?

There may be people who have lost someone and are scared.

A lot is down to mental health issues and there was already a huge mental health crisis before Lockdowns and pandemics that the NHS struggled with.

I do think "oh not another one" but then think they may be having mental health crisis with no support and then I feel really sorry for them. There are at least 2 posters I can think of on here who regularly post on the Covid boards who are genuinely petrified but clearly aren't aware their MH issues are obvious or who lack support.

So whilst we are all chomping at the bit to get back out, hug, have holidays and fun, for some just opening the front door and stepping outside is petrifying.

follygirl · 02/05/2021 08:51

I will miss not having an excuse to avoid my in-laws. It's been bliss Wink

SchrodingersImmigrant · 02/05/2021 08:55

I think many people are missing the point that op is talking about bullies, busy bodies and their own rule makers which they then try to force on others.

That's why it said "some people"

Notagain20 · 02/05/2021 08:55

@SuddenArborealStop

At some point as risk reduces, people's legitimate concerns need to focus on their own families and not the entire community at large.
You realise that you're sniping about strangers here instead of focusing on your own business? You get the irony I assume?
HazeyJaneII · 02/05/2021 09:01

lockdown loving wankers

I've seen this sort of shit bandied about so much here...it's utterly depressing and worse than it ever was. I honestly think Mumsnet is one of the worst for this, it makes me feel quite sad after all the years of being here.

Time for a bit of a break.

itsgettingwierd · 02/05/2021 09:02

Not miss covid and the risks it brings to loved ones. Or the lockdowns and restrictions.

I will miss some of the things it brings that make people nicer in general. My biggest one is beforehand when you walked as a family you'd go single file to pass another group and they'd still bulldoze past you 6 people wide.
I like the fact both parties now go single file. And I actually have no concerns about catching covid passing people outside. I just like courteous behaviour!

Same as supermarkets. Still the odd twat who thinks when your looking at shelves they need the item right in front of you NOW. but that sort of behaviour has definitely decreased as well.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 02/05/2021 09:03

@tecatea

Will there be no lasting changes? I already wfh 50/50 which is perfect for me but DH has gone from 1-2 days wfh a fortnight to when the office does re open to 2-3 days a wk wfh. I don't know anyone going back to 5 days in the office.
Several people in my office are already back working in the office 5 days a week, by choice, including me. We either don't have suitable space and/or equipment at home to allow for wfh, or we hate wfh and feel happier, less stressed and more productive working in the office. Not everyone wants to wfh. And my commute is having zero effect on the environment as it is a 15 minute walk. The others all either walk too or travel by bus.
3scape · 02/05/2021 09:06

How are you behaving any differently in using lockdown to make up a 'type' of person to aim your particular brand of venom at?

LifeinPieces21 · 02/05/2021 09:08

@tecatea

Will there be no lasting changes? I already wfh 50/50 which is perfect for me but DH has gone from 1-2 days wfh a fortnight to when the office does re open to 2-3 days a wk wfh. I don't know anyone going back to 5 days in the office.
Me, which I love. I work 5 minutes from home though.
FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 02/05/2021 09:12

I really do wish some posters would stop trying to dismiss shitty behaviour by saying these busybodies - who've made people uncomfortable, tried to get them in trouble and generally been massively judgmental - must have anxiety/MH issues/insert other arbitrary excuse.

Some people really are just nasty bastards. Nothing more, nothing less.

Anonmousse · 02/05/2021 09:19

Not so much individuals, but I wonder if the more heavyhanded zealous police will miss it, with their drones spotting people walking (miles from anyone else) in the peak district, or cautioning women having a coffee, or the covid marshalls stopping runners on a bridge?
However I'm sure give them a hi viz waistcoat and they can feel a sense of importance somewhere else!

Gothichouse40 · 02/05/2021 09:23

These are two genuine questions. If people are returning to work in their offices, what is going to happen to people who have sold up and moved to remote areas, thinking they would be working from home? Also, given my previous question, what happens to all the puppies and dogs bought in Lockdown? Im dreading my neighbours returning to work and envisage howling and barking all day. Re the mental health aspect, I used to be out constantly, and I feel all this has changed me to the extent I cannot be bothered going out. I went to local shops yest and it was mobbed, queues everywhere. Cafes mobbed and I turned round and went home. I can't even see the point of going out to stand in queues for hours on end. I hasten to add I no longer work myself, due to family commitments.

Tiktokersmiracle · 02/05/2021 09:27

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

I really do wish some posters would stop trying to dismiss shitty behaviour by saying these busybodies - who've made people uncomfortable, tried to get them in trouble and generally been massively judgmental - must have anxiety/MH issues/insert other arbitrary excuse.

Some people really are just nasty bastards. Nothing more, nothing less.

But then these people are the type who would find other ways to report neighbors. And they must have a reason. Boredom. Jealousy. Loneliness. It's annoying yes. But again, they can't all just be "wankers". There must be a reason behind them being so negative
SinisterBumFacedCat · 02/05/2021 09:30

@Workingfromhomeishell

Yanbu. Covid has been the biggest excuse for people to avoid lots of issues. Including working.

The lazy contingent will be devastated

Interesting. I work part time, due to wfh this year I was able to do many more hours and fit them around my childcare and being a career for my mum much easier than when I was loosing hours commuting and being in a distant office. Add to that home schooling, there was very little opportunity for laziness! Maybe it was different for people without caring commitments.

I honestly don’t think that judging will stop, as this thread is all about looking down on people who appreciated aspects of lockdown that made their lives easier to manage. No one is going to miss bloody COVID.

RedcurrantPuff · 02/05/2021 09:31

@Workingfromhomeishell

Yanbu. Covid has been the biggest excuse for people to avoid lots of issues. Including working.

The lazy contingent will be devastated

See also companies/organisations who have used it as an excuse to provide shit service:

EE, Virgin Media, Glasgow City Council for starters.

TheKeatingFive · 02/05/2021 09:35

what is going to happen to people who have sold up and moved to remote areas

Anyone who did this without a change in contract was pretty foolish.

And lockdown dogs are already being rehomed and even abandoned. It’s very sad, but this was coming a mile off.