Hi!
I have a long term friend. We used to sleep over at each other’s houses etc when we were teens.
Then we sort of drifted apart and reconnected after we both married And started to ttc.
I thought it was like old times so I invited her over to mine few times. She is always keen to meet up but wants it to be at my place.. I’ve had less than ideal condition but she always insisted to make it in my place. I often suggested to meet outdoors but she insists she is more comfortable in houses (we have little ones)..
However, never once has she accepted when I suggest I want to come visit her place. The only time she accepted was when it was her mums house and she rushed me even though she was a long distance away.
I’m not fussed about people not inviting me. But she makes a huge fuss about how she doesn’t want to meet in a middle location and how she has so much fun in my house and likes sleep overs.
She also never accepted to come with her husband to any family events and showed up alone. I haven’t met her husband at all even though she is quite friendly to mine.
I thought it might be insecurity but I just find it so strange and starting to question the friendship.
AIBU to find this all so odd? If you insist to sleep over at someone’s house the least you could do is be welcoming ? Otherwise don’t insist to visit when it’s not reciprocated?
I know these formalities are petty but there is a bit of history and I’m just trying to get my head around things