To find this plan to be inappropriate

[indiakulfi]

I have lost five family members in the last 14 months, none of them died of COVID or because of the pandemic so I am quite distressed by the thought that there is a plan for a memorial in St. Paul's which excludes anybody who has not died from COVID. Are their deaths any less as a result.

I think it's not appropriate really, somebody I know compared it to a war memorial but I think it's nothing like that at all.

They can't create a memorial for everyone in the UK who has died of any cause? Are you against war memorials too? Although, now you mention it, I actually don't think theu should do a covid memorial unless they're gonna do a heart disease memorial, cancer memorial, suicide memorial, car accident memorial etc. I mean to me it seems odd in hindsight. Maybe you're right.

I can see it must be hard because nothing bar covid has been allowed to matter for the last 14 months. And now we're finally coming out of it it's still all statues of Captain Tom and memorials for the corona victims (and I am so sorry for the families that lost loved ones from the virus). There's just no outlet or acknowledgement for those that have lost relatives, or suffered in other ways from all this at the moment, and I can understand how it might feel like a bit of a kick in the teeth OP.

somebody I know compared it to a war memorial but I think it's nothing like that at all.

It is exactly like that though. It is a memorial specific to Covid.

There have been memorials for people who dies during all kinds of events - train crashes, football matches, tram crashes, terrors attacks... this is no different. It's just that you have been personally affected by bereavement over the last year. It's a tough thing to deal with, especially when they were far away.

YABU OP. I think it is entirely appropriate to have a UK memorial for the victims of Covid. What you seem to be suggesting is either no memorial or a memorial to everyone, all over the world who died this past year/or ever(?)

Condolences for your losses @indiakulfi, I hope you are able to mourn and grieve them properly soon.

I understand how you feel OP I lost a parent in tragic circumstances at the same time a nationally recognised terrorist attack happened and always find it difficult when the annual commemoration is rolled out.

But do think it's right for the country to come together as a whole to recognise the huge loss of life due to coronavirus.

I always take the National commemoration as a time to remember my loved one even though they were nothing to do with the terrorist attack. Maybe you could use the commemoration as a time for you to grieve your own loss.

For you OP