To tell him no?

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Left DH in 2016... divorce took longer than Brexit because he wouldn't agree on finances. Finally agreed to put the family home up for sale on March 31st 2020! Obviously that didn't happen and because of all the mayhem I let it slide for a year. The house is worth £260,000 ( he says) but he is adamant he won't sell and has offered me £100,000 to buy me out
AIBU to say no because I'd be losing out on £30,000? Court order split the house value 50/50 equally.

If that was the valuation in March 2020, the house is likely worth significantly more as of April 2021 due to the unusually high year on year increase house prices we've just seen. You absolutely need new valuations.

Get your valuations done preferably while hes not there. Are you still an owner?

Get this moving. Stop listening to his complaints about retirement. And anything else.

Most of us dont relish confrontation. But you're not just doing it for you. It's for your life and your children's too. Dont look back on this (from your sofa bed) and wish you'd done it differently. Stand up for your family.

Good 🌸

I'm glad you are getting your own valuation because he is taking you for a mug and has absolutely had the house down valued by his mates

Surely you can see how fucked up it is that he is quite happy for the kids to live in cramped accommodation most of the time with you, but it's impossible for them to stay over with him if he doesn't have a 4 bed house?

And besides if the court order says 50/50 it should be 50/50 - if he can't raise your 50% as a mortgage then he'll have to move out and buy somewhere else.

Don't let him guilt trip you, he's an arsehole and he can whine as much as he likes, it's not your problem!