To think that MOST women would not be able to have children if it depended on them being financially independent

[KateWinceyette]

I said most, not all. So I'm not talking about CEOs or corporate law partners or hedge fund managers.

It's come up on a couple of threads, that you shouldn't have DC if that makes you financially dependent on their father. But I think the majority of women wouldn't be able to afford mortgage, bills, childcare etc without a significant contribution from the dad. Or the equity from the house they bought together.

Am I missing something?

I think that's very short sighted, mostly on the part of the women who have babies with men and give up work.

I had a child with a totally feckless git (who turned into a feckless git when I was about 6 months pregnant). He gave up his job and sat on his arse and declared he would be a stay at home dad. This consisted of him doing nothing til I got home from work, declaring he couldn't possibly go to the bank/shop/doctor with a baby in tow and he definitely couldn't clean or cook... then fucking off out and I'd have to go do whatever needed done (with the baby ofc).
I kicked him out.

I don't have a highly paid job (teacher) and despite him contributing the sum total of fuck all to the house, I still had to pay him off when I divorced him. He didn't work, or only did cash in hand jobs to avoid paying child support.
I had a house, with a mortgage and a full time job and I managed pretty damn well. Sure it wasn't a walk in the park but I would never have allowed myself to be dependent on someone else and as soon as he turned out to be a total fuckwit I could kick him out without a backward glance.
One of the biggest issues is that people live way beyond their means, they don't think a 2 bed terrace is ok, it needs to be a 3 bed detached. They can't possibly work if they have to pay childcare. They aren't happy with 'we can live fine like this' they want 'perfect house/area/job/whatever.
Its all possible, and not on some huge salary either. But it sure as shit wont be possible if you want to then sit at home for the next 10 years, screw over your job prospects and rely on someone else to pay the bills.