Page 2 | Would you judge someone for rehoming a puppy ?

puppynomore · 2021-04-29T20:57:52+00:00

Someone I know got a puppy a few months ago and finds it too much hard work, so looking to we-home puppy. Thoughts?

PhatPhanny · 29/04/2021 23:01

Yes I would.

OnceUponAMidnightBeery · 29/04/2021 23:07

@AnneLovesGilbert

I might judge them if they made the same mistake twice, for instance if they rehomed the puppy as they didn't have time for it.. and then without making any lifestyle changes, got another puppy they would also NOT have time for...

I see you’ve met my brother...

And my ex-workmate. She’s also an ex-friend after the second. She’s now looking for another pup.

Jumpjumpjumper · 29/04/2021 23:18

I wanted a dog for three years.
Researched for a year properly.
Read training books in advance.
Found out where I wanted to do dog training classes.
Worried about separation anxiety (one of my biggest fears) so investigated how to deal with it.
Got parental support (they'd look after it if I went away).
Found a dog walker.
Built up my lieu hours at work, saved holiday so I could take lots of time off.

Got the dog. And omg. I've grown up with (and got) cats. Had other animals. But this dog nearly tipped me over the edge. Serious puppy blues. So much so, the doctor prescribed propanolol.

So now I understand a bit more that people won't cope.

SnackSizeRaisin · 29/04/2021 23:24

If it's a friendly, healthy puppy and they ensure it goes to someone who will look after it, then it's fine.
If they are trying to offload it because they don't want to pay for its healthcare or it's aggressive, I would be more judgemental but it might still be a reasonable decision.
It's a dog and doesn't care about being regimes. It just needs its physical and behavioural needs to be met.

Mydogmylife · 29/04/2021 23:27

@DifficultBloodyWoman

Yes, I would judge you.

But significantly less than someone who keeps a puppy when they aren’t capable of fully and properly caring for it.

This

mermaidsariel · 29/04/2021 23:30

@JungleIsMassive

I saw getting a dog the same way I saw having a child. I wouldn't put my kids up for adoption so I wasn't going to get a puppy unless I felt the same way. I wouldn't judge someone for it. I guess it depends why they did it. But people do need to put more thought into it then they do. Pounds are heaving and it's only going to get worse over the summer.

Pounds aren’t heaving though. They have very few dogs at the moment.

Planty13 · 29/04/2021 23:47

I would judge. A quick google will tell anyone how much hard work they are. It takes all of 5 minutes to get a quick understanding of the work involved. I would more so judge that they hadn’t done this before getting a puppy. If they get the pup and decide they don’t have the time for it then 100% agree with rehoming as it is in the best interests of the dog but I would still judge.

DontBeRidiculous · 30/04/2021 01:14

I'd think the sooner they can do it, the better, and as long as they learned from the experience and didn't repeat the process, I wouldn't judge too harshly.

If someone has had absolutely no experience with the reality of a high-energy, destructive puppy, they may not realise exactly how much work they can be. It's not for everyone, and some puppies are more exhausting than others. It's one thing to read about it, another to live it.

SelkieQualia · 30/04/2021 02:03

Depends. Sometimes people get dogs thoughtlessly. Other times, life changes, or things don't go as expected. You can do all the research in the world, and still be surprised by the work, or still end up with a puppy with a temperament that's not as expected.

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/04/2021 02:07

@DifficultBloodyWoman

Yes, I would judge you.

But significantly less than someone who keeps a puppy when they aren’t capable of fully and properly caring for it.

And as long as you rehomed to the rescue or responsible breeders you got it from.

If you put it free to a good home online, you'll never see the end of my judgement.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 30/04/2021 02:35

As long as they knew that the puppy was going to a good safe secure loving home. Who could guarantee that they weren’t biting off more than they could chew, No definitely not. It’s better that way then for the poor little thing to be neglected.
Puppies are absolutely delicious. However I don’t think everyone appreciates how much hard work they actually are.

DifficultBloodyWoman · 30/04/2021 02:36

If you put it free to a good home online, you'll never see the end of my judgement.

Interesting you put should say that because it show how much things have changed over the last forty years (and online is key).

When I was younger, my family and I had many pets. We adopted them from friends who would give them away ‘free to a good home’. I found a pregnant stray that we also adopted and her kittens were given ‘free to a good home’ (in other words, family friends) when they were old enough.

It is a shame that phrase has changed because, like you, I would never dream of advertising a free pet on the internet.

Apologies for the digression.

Chunkymenrock · 30/04/2021 02:38

Yes, I think it's absolutely awful.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 30/04/2021 02:40

Yes I would judge you. I would assume you had mad a snap decision to get a cute little puppy, and then couldn't be bothered to actually look after the dog adequately.

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/04/2021 02:54

@DifficultBloodyWoman

If you put it free to a good home online, you'll never see the end of my judgement.

Interesting you put should say that because it show how much things have changed over the last forty years (and online is key).

When I was younger, my family and I had many pets. We adopted them from friends who would give them away ‘free to a good home’. I found a pregnant stray that we also adopted and her kittens were given ‘free to a good home’ (in other words, family friends) when they were old enough.

It is a shame that phrase has changed because, like you, I would never dream of advertising a free pet on the internet.

Apologies for the digression.

So so true. Box of kittens on the street with the house kids and a sign! How life has changed.

We got Ddog from Battersea growing up but Dcats came from random places, free and no worry from anyone.

SmokedDuck · 30/04/2021 04:02

Unless it was a serial issue or they were obviously careless, no. I might think they'd been foolish, but not necessarily. It's not always the same thing to know how something is meant to work, and then see how it actually works in your life. And some puppies and dogs are actually so inbred they are basically impossible to live with, and I understand why some don't realise that.

Yogatomorrow · 30/04/2021 05:21

I think it is sad that thoughts of other people may come before the dog.

That's how we got our dog. He is gorgeous and happy with us, but the wrong dog for the previous owners. That's life.

We got him through a charity and they have a clause in the contract that deals with this type of situation. Therefore it can't be uncommon.

seensome · 30/04/2021 05:22

Just because it's hard work - yes I'll judge
Surely it does take that much imagination to know how much commitment and hard work it is. I've never owned a dog and never will, I still know it would be far too much for me to take on.

seensome · 30/04/2021 05:24

*doesn't

picturesandpickles · 30/04/2021 05:52

No, I am more concerned about people keeping dogs they can't really manage. It does seem that there are too many dogs about in the UK now.

Tinkpod · 30/04/2021 05:58

I am far more concerned with people who keep their dog cooped up all day on its own or stuck in a crate for hours, that really pisses me off! better to rehome it where it has a chance of being better cared for, there's nothing wrong with putting the welfare of the dog first and saying you are in over your head than keeping it to prove a point and to save face from being judged and the dog suffering more as a result.

PishFood · 30/04/2021 06:12

If they are rehoming via a respectable rescue or friend then no. Tbh people make mistakes or their circumstances change

(But If they are selling it on for £££s then yes I would judge).

frumpety · 30/04/2021 06:41

If they find a family that can meet the dogs needs for the rest of its life , then no I wouldn't judge. The dog's wellbeing is the most important thing, so if they recognise that they can't keep it happy, safe, exercised, socialised etc then finding someone who can, is the morally right thing to do.

AnUnoriginalUsername · 30/04/2021 06:49

I'd judge someone for getting a puppy they're incapable of looking after and then just palming the dog off on someone else instead of stepping up to their commitment.

But it's better to rehome than continue to fail the dog. If they then went and got another animal though I'd be oh so judgey. You've proved you're incapable of committing to looking after an animal, you don't get any more.

Dinosauraddict · 30/04/2021 06:56

Yes I would judge. I have 3 rescue Ddogs and have seen dogs been passed around and the damage it does to them. If I take on a dog, that's a commitment for the rest of their life, no matter what. (There are some exceptions I fully understand - e.g. single person getting cancer or something and being physically unable to care for it - or if the dog is aggressive and a danger.) You wouldn't give up a child because they are stroppy or badly socialised though - as far as I'm concerned the dogs are family.