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to get fed up with receiving more than the average amount of abuse on the road just because I drive a range rover?

317 replies

Mrs4x4 · 13/11/2007 22:16

I get the whole environment thing psses some people off but this seems out of proportion with the abuse. I am a considerate driver and really object to the abuse especially when my DC's are in the car and people are swearing. Recently parked car in a supermarket carpark to have someone who lived in a nearby flat on one of the higher floor start shouting that i should get back in my RR and pss off.

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notjustmom · 14/11/2007 16:07

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edam · 14/11/2007 16:32

Re. the carbon footprint stuff, do I get top marks for being a vegetarian who doesn't even have a driving licence?

sweetkitty · 14/11/2007 16:37

My neighbour has one of those HUGE Mitsubishi pick up things, now he's a single man (divoved with two DDs) and he has that and an old Merc, why??? why would you want to drive that monster around a town? I've seen him hit his wheelie bin a good few times probably because he can't see it, mm it's about the height of a child.

Right enough people are t not the cars themselves, other neighbour has a normal size car but rips into our cul de sac far too fast which makes me theres no need and theres always children playing out during the day

Fireflytoo · 14/11/2007 16:51

I drive a 2 door Peugeot 205 and I can get an awful lot of stuff in the boot....and I think it keeps you flexible to bend over a bit....and so on....

I think the "I feel safe" is the most dangerous statement as it encourages tank mentality in most (perhaps not you [hmmm] )4x4 drivers. I think the bottomline is what most people here have said: You don't NEED a 4x4 in urban areas...and the danger to other road users...kids, cyclists and almost all other cars is horrendous. Those cars are made to withstand rhinoseruses ([hmmm]? spelling)....

... and apart from envy for your money and status, it is fear and annoyance that makes us negative towards 4x4 drivers and more likely to be abusive.

Fireflytoo · 14/11/2007 16:53

.... can't count

Ripeberry · 14/11/2007 18:40

Around here everyone seems to be driving a 4X4 or a people carrier but they are all usually older models..more than 6yrs old.
With 4X4's, what i find more terrifying is the amount of small people and elderly driving them.
The other day, i say a very elderly lady, could not have been more than 5'5 and she was driving one of those ENORMOUS pickup type 4X4 vehicles.
She could barely see over the steering wheel!
Don't want her parking next to my car at Tescos'!
AB

LittleBella · 14/11/2007 18:55

LOL at this thread.

Mrs 4x4, there are some things you just can't do without expecting people to have opinions about it. The woman who brings her dd to school in a car plastered with playboy rabbit signs, may be a militant feminist for all I know; but if she is, then she is doing her best to disguise it. I assume she's an idiot, because she's disguised as an idiot. You may be the nicest woman in the world, but if you're disguised as a selfish git, then rightly or wrongly, that's the way the world will perceive you. So no, YANBU to be fed up with the abuse, but yes YABU if you expect it to stop anytime soon. It's like white van drivers - I expect them to be selfish and dangerous, but I'm sure many of them are quite normal men when they're out of their vans. Well, maybe.

handlemecarefully · 14/11/2007 23:08

"It's like white van drivers - I expect them to be selfish and dangerous, but I'm sure many of them are quite normal men when they're out of their vans. Well, maybe. "

Actually I think most of them are just regular joes who are plumbers / joiners / painters and decorators etc, rather than selfish and dangerous

I tend to think wanky attitudes are for wankers - and that goes for stupid generalisations about women drivers / white van drivers / 4x4 drivers etc

hifi · 15/11/2007 00:04

here here, handleme.

inthegutter · 15/11/2007 07:20

Littlebella- good post

Columbia · 15/11/2007 07:30

I was parked, for once, neatly within a parking space, and while I was in the shop a big 4x4 parked next to me - very close up as it was so wide.
I tried to put baby in his seat, which was possible despite them being so close, but he cried so I sat on the pavement between shop and car (quite secluded) to feed him.
The 4x4 drivers returned and looking at me like I had 3 heads, tried to get into their car. For some reason the woman couldn't (god knows how she got out??) and I apologised saying I would move it if I could but I was feeding my baby.
Eventually the bloke drove it out enough for her to get in, but they were so arsy about it, like my little car was such a nuisance.
That pissed me off a lot.

MALO · 15/11/2007 08:57

columbia....I've been there!

I can park my little car in the furthest away space tucked out of sight and you can guarantee a big 4x4, a battered old van or anything huge will park either side of me making it extremely difficult for me to strap my kids in the car, let alone try and get in my car myself. What bugs me is anyone can see I've got kids booster seats in my car - even a baby seat at one time yet they couldn't give a toss. And I don't just mean parking tight to my car - I mean wing mirrors touching!

What also annoys me are people who use the designated mums and kids spaces who do not have kids with them - BUT they have a brand new and shiny car which they don't want to get door knocked by other cars so they use the bigger wider spaces provided for Mums with kids. Or cars that park across two spaces - ie with the dividing line running down underneath the middle of their car.

Rant over....time for a coffee.

Blu · 15/11/2007 12:03

HMC: "By all means deride those 4x4's with zero and 1 star for pedestrian safety (I'll join you), but don't tar all with same brush. It's unhelpful. Why should smaller vehicles with deplorable statistics - and there are lots of these, slip beneath the radar.

I find all of this very political - but road safety should be objective and not dealing in stereotypes and generalisations"

Actually, I agree with you there, HMC, and the same goes for emissions, too.

But there is another cause behind people's aversion to 4x4s, and it is one which probably comes under 'irrational' - but is, imo 'understandable' and does, perhaps contribute to those statistics given by insurance companies that show 4x4 drivers to be proportionately more likely to both be in accidents and be 'at fault' in accidents.

People often 9including on this thread) say they find 4x4s 'intimidating'. They are bulkier and bigger than ordinat=ry cars, but it isn't just that. The reason people like them (often) is because they are chunky, they are built to be invincible, and they LOOK invincible. The marketing and advertising of them plays exactly to this image...they FORCE their way through mud, they are photographed from below, stark against the horizon on a mountain - in a parody of a dominant stag in the highjlands sort of way. Tho photography is always dat=rk, the filming is 'thriller' style, with lots of close ups of bends and speed. They are NAMED to be intimidating, or at least imposing.

I think it is disingenous to pretend that none of this affects people - either the reason they buy them, or the reason they object to them - it's part and parcel of what the thing is.

Hoodies, Niquabs and 4x4s all, like it or not, give an image of untouchability / hostility - however lovely, cuddly, socially responsible and human the person in them is. It isn't rational to respond to any of these things in a generalised blanket way, but there is foundation in it.

Unfortunately, some people who choose to buy and drive 4x4s DO drive as if they think they are Kings of the road and everyone else should get out of their way, like so much splashy mud in the ads. I think this is what is behind those insurance company statistics. Which show that a 4x4 is statistically 27% more likely to cause an accident against you than a normal car!

Many, many of the objections about 4x4s come from people in inner-city urban environments. Many people who post objections to them (like me) qualify that e are talking about that context. We have enough hostility and agression in our lives, in overcrowded streets, and 4x4s with thier consciously full-on 'I will deal with anything in my path' styling is a step we don't need.

Plus the fact that they represent something with a specification way beyond what anyone in an urban environment needs (with rare exceptions). A small or medium people carrier answers most of the requirements often quoted by 4x4 owners. So the chunky rugged look and image becomes even more glaringly the reason.

And if you buy something because you like it's image, don't be surprised if someone else finds it intimidating and reacts badly against it.

None of this (of course) is a justification with rudeness / abuse against individuals. But likewise, 4x4 drivers who two horses, live up mpountains etc, needen't take it personally when urban dwellers deride the fact that 4x4s block narrow streets more than other cars, and people simply don't like it!

Ripeberry · 15/11/2007 12:05

I,ve had that today, someone in an enormous people carrier parked really close to my doors, making it difficult to strap in my DD2.
The offending vehicle was quite dirty so i wrote with my finger "wanker car", because they had annoyed me and it had dark blackout windows, perfect for wankers.
AB

MALO · 15/11/2007 12:10

Ripeberry: !!!!!

irises · 15/11/2007 12:19

excellent post Blu.

PatsyCline · 15/11/2007 12:22

Great post, Blu. And thanks to Shergar for her very intelligent analysis.

PMSL at Ripeberry's guerrilla warfare!

kerala · 15/11/2007 12:30

Blu - clap! Great post (from an urban dweller) you are spot on

Swedes2Turnips1 · 15/11/2007 12:38

LOL @ this thread: the intellectualisation of 4 x 4 ownership.

suey2 · 15/11/2007 12:58

great post blu.
otherwise have only read OP, so apologies if any repetition.

There are so many ways (apart from greenhouse gases) in which 4x4 drivers inconvenience all other road users, particularly in a city.

  • if you are involved in a crash with a 4x4, you are far more likely to be seriously injured, whether you are a pedestrian or in another car. Can you imagine a smart car and a 4x4?
  • if they are parked on the corner of a street, it is impossible to see past them when pulling out
  • many streets just have enough room for 2 way traffic. 4x4 users often seem not to know the width of their car, thus driving casually down the middle of the road and making everyone else wait.
  • they often take up 2 lanes at traffic lights
-they often have only one person in them

In short, the possession of a 4x4 in the middle of town is the height of selfishness IMHO. I'm all right jack, and bugger everyone else
I for on really hope they bring in the £25 congestion charge for these vehicles. It will make driving in central london so much more pleasent.

horsygirl · 15/11/2007 13:16

Live and let live I say. Drive what you like!

MALO · 15/11/2007 13:27

Rising the congestion charge to £25 for inner London won't keep them out! People that own 4x4's must surely be wealthy anyway so £25 will be parking change to them!

donnie · 15/11/2007 14:09

yes agree- excellent post Blu!!

pmsl at 'wanker car'.

I would also encourage loud verbal abuse though .

bufobufo · 15/11/2007 14:36

Well said Blu, totally agree.

The points you make arent limited to urban drivers though. I know country people bleat endlessly about "needing" their 4WD - but frankly that is utter bollocks in 95% of cases.

Horsygirl - "live and let live" - idiotic comment; words fail me.

bobsmum · 15/11/2007 14:55

As some of you may remember from previous threads (doubt it ) I was a Range Rover owner.

I was one of the 5% who needed a 4x4 to leave the house in the winter. We reluctantly bought an ancient RR at the beginning of this year from a family friend.

I hated it from the start.

I needed cushions to drive it and reach the pedals (I'm 5ft).

I hated the width and the length and found it driving it into town (which admittedly was only once a month to the supermarket).

But when I had a bad car accident last month, I suffered only very minor injuries and the other driver was unhurt. The RR was written off however. Had I been in my Ka me and dd would be very lucky to still be here, if at all.

But I hated the car. I hated the smell (we ran it on vegetable oil) and I hated the looks of fear from other drivers. I was embarrassed driving it, even though I of all people could actually justify having it!

We now have a very ancient, but very teeny weeny Suzuki Jimny which is only 5cm off the wading depth of the RR, so we should hopefully be ok in the winter, but doesn't quite fit 2 car seats in the back, so only one of us will be able to get out for supplies!

Anyway after all that. I was a very reluctant RR driver, but now we're free of that beast and will hopefully never have to get another car that monstrously oversized. The Jimny is the same size as my old faithful Fiat Panda, but has all the capabilities that we needed the RR for.

I will never buy the "more space/more passenger room" argument. That's not what they're for.