Housework Chicken....how long have you held out?

[JensonsAcolyte]

We had a delivery of 90 loo rolls (so a massive package) on Friday.

After watching 3 out of the 4 adults in this house climb over it to get upstairs, I decided to play chicken.

I’m afraid I cracked first, yesterday morning. But only because I saw that someone had opened the large package, taken out an individual pack, taken out a single loo roll and walked off.

I lost my shit and then while I was stomping around the house shouting about ungrateful lazy bastards, I actually slung the package in the cupboard where it lives.

So a six day hold out.

Please come and tell me your best/pettiest/longest lasting games of chicken.

DH shaved his beard off at Christmas in the family bathroom basin. It's still there.

I use the ensuite instead. I'm not clearing up his mess!

Minging.

@Sexnotgender I did mine and the dc’s. At 20 months and 3.5 they’re not able to do their own yet. They had enough clothes to last them the 3 weeks. thanks to grandma going nuts in the next sale

@thatonehasalittlecar

Coins.

When real money was a thing, my bf would constantly leave loose change anywhere he emptied his pockets. Despite me asking over and over for him to stop, or at least stick to one place, it continued.

So I started taking the coins and putting them into his things. Pillowcase, under the in-soles of his shoes, in the linings of his coat with the hole in the pocket...wherever inspiration struck me. It made me laugh and he (eventually) stopped leaving bloody coins everywhere.

Similarly - my DH never used to empty his pockets when he put things in the laundry basket (well, on the floor by the side of it, but at least roughly in the right place). Scraps of paper, used tissues - ugh. Mind you, it had it's benefits. For quite a few years I commandeered all the money I found. At least a tenner a week and quite often several £20 notes - then one day it dawned on him what was happening to his money.

I cracked. We're getting a cleaner from next week. I'm the only person that actually cares about cleanliness, and I'm not going to be made the bad guy but nagging everyone else. Have tried splitting chores before, but people just do them when they need to be done, which for them is never...

@steppemum I really struggle with seeing clutter. Once it's pointed out I feel stressed as I know I've failed to see it once again and feel I'm letting him down.

I've fallen over things on the stairs many times.

The biggest factor of change is always when we have been away and I return to the house with fresh eyes. I achieve more In the 24 hours after a trip away than at any other time. Once I've become re-accustomed to the clutter I stop seeing it again.

I've told my husband how he can help me and we work together. He guides me in tasks and then works alongside me doing other tasks. I'm clutter blind. I think it's a survival mechanism from childhood. Sadly I need clutter to feel safe whereas he is the opposite.

purplebagladylovesgin
thank you for answering. I think it is really interesting how our childhood effects things like this isn't it?

I have a friend who is adopted. He cannot throw away cuddly toys, his or his kids. If they are thrown away he sees them as abandoned, and it obviously resonates with somethign from his own experience.

We have a paper and card recycling bin. It has a lid, and the 3 other people in the house pile their recycling on top of the lid (un-squished) instead of putting it inside. My requests to do it 'properly have been ignored.
This morning I hid the lid.

Some of us are not married to manchildren. If I don't do it, he does.🙄

Both of us were working. We agreed to share the ironing. I thought that was ok even though most of it was his.
I volunteered to go first, it was piling up. I did my stuff and about a dozen of his shirts plus other bits.
A couple of weeks later the basket was full again. I suggested he should take his turn. The contents grew taller. He would not do it.
Needless to say I refused to iron anything of his ever again. That was 30 years ago !

This morning I hid the lid.

I pressed YANBU because it obviously had an impact on you to worry so much about it but what I don’t get is... it only bothers you so why get annoyed?

When my husband is being passive aggressive about things and I got the hint, I purposefully don’t do what he wants, because he’s a big grown man and can open his big grown man mouth and use his voice... I would jump over the toilet rolls and say someone should put this away, if I knew he was counting the days to see when I would put it away 😂 but that’s just me

Why don’t people just open their mouths and speak like adults?

I mean the stories are funny but really it’s only stressing out the person that’s acting passive aggressive about things, when actually speaking about it would/should resolve things.

I am sure she learnt her lesson here 😂

Until someone else does it.

Two glasses on the side waiting to be washed up for approx 6 weeks now. I won’t be doing them!

I love this 😂

I am definitely your dad in my marriage 😂😂

@Sally2791

Two glasses on the side waiting to be washed up for approx 6 weeks now. I won’t be doing them!

Who benefits?

I don’t care, and eventually he will do them. It’s not a big deal

Well if you feel you're winning, crack on. It's not how I'd choose to live.

Since Christmas. Husbands 'office's otherwise known as front room. Brought one of the poinsettias at Christmas, and put it in there. Swiftly died after I gave up watering at xmas. Am wondering how long it will take for him to remove dead plant..... it us now a twig and leaves fallen off. He is going back to working in his proper office soon I did suggest he might want to clean his office before he went back! Am not holding out much hope.

@DontBeRidiculous

The only other person in my house could easily ignore/"not see" something for weeks or months, even if to me it's a massive eye-sore. I either ask him to do it (and generally he will, though it may take repeated requests), ask for his help at that very moment (for fast results), or just do it myself.

I think you're me!

And this is why being single is great Yes you always have to do the dusting but there is no one else who SHOULD be doing their share and no rage. As an adult I have so much more sympathy for my mum and her “nagging” which was actually just requests for her teenagers to act as normal humans

Me to dh "if you don't clear out your pockets (and not have tissues in a darks wash) then I will no longer wash any of your clothes."

He knew I meant it. No more tissues in the wash. Result

2 hours - Half a day and I crack for most things
Emptying dishwasher
Sorting laundry
Cooking/meal planning. DH is very lazy I knew this but I married him.

My H does no housework/cleaning, if I don’t do it doesn’t get done. He had the nerve to say a while ago, when I had a moan, that he realised a while ago that he had to lower his expectations of a clean house, as I can be messy, yet does nothing to help, not even putting his own stuff away! I noticed a collection of empty toilet rolls and his empty toiletries had gathered on the bathroom window sill despite have a box for recycling on the landing, I eventually put them in recycling telling him that I assumed they were empty. He has mostly cooked this week though but keeps making reference to the fact that he has, do I bang on about the fact that I always do the washing, ironing, cleaning, emptying bins etc, no.

I'm the one that leaves things around here - my DD19 will come along and tidy at the back of me