My house is a tip. Its tidy, but frankly filthy. We live in the country which means mud is a feature of our lives A LOT. It's an old house with lots of beams and stone, which isn't quick to clean.
DH has a mucky manual job, and thinks having to change clothes when he gets in, not trapsing crap everywhere etc is excessive. He also believes dusting is uneccesary (very rural + open fires + dog + DH = lots of cobwebs and dust). He doesn't believe housework is my job, he just doesn't see dirt or think its a problem.
We have a 5yr old DS. I am a full time student and juggling parenting/school closures/covid/academic work has not been a picnic. I've neglected thorough housework because I've just not had time. We've all been home a lot more, which makes the place feel more lived in.
Its starting to do my head in. I can't think straight for all the dust, filthy windows, and other jobs that need doing. I also sent have time to take a whole day or two out of valuable time when my son is in school to properly tackle it.
DH also also notoriously tight/careful with money. We are on a low income + some student grants. But because student funding is paid termly I have quite a chunk of money which I transfer into our joint account monthly and a tiny bit left over.
WIBU to use some of this money to pay a cleaning company to do a one off spring clean, and then basically lie about it? I know DS would disapprove, but he's also not willing to do the required housework, so I end up having to make all the compromises. This way I get a clean house without sacrificing time I don't have, and he's none the wise. To be honest, apart from the obvious things, I doubt he'll even notice the house is especially clean...