To ask if you would find a friendship between a 25 year old and 49 unusual

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I’ve met a friend who’s 49 and people find it unusual that I’m friends with someone of that age.

I think it’s really great. Friendship has no age!

There are many things that make friendships inappropriate, age may or may not be one of them. Context is key.

Not at all. What are your common interests? Or do you just enjoy each other's company? Are you the same sex?

Not at all.
Imba 25yr old female and I have a lovely friendship with a 53yr old male colleague. We just get along, have the same sense of humour etc and happened to hit it off. Dh doesn't find it weird, he knows we get on well.

Nothing wrong with that at all. I was good friends with someone in their 40s when I was mid-20s a few years ago....we're now married 😀

I'm 41; one of my best friends is 25. She's an old soul and I'm a tad immature, so we meet in the middle. 😁

"Imba 25yr old female and I have a lovely friendship with a 53yr old male colleague. We just get along,"

Time will tell.

No, there is nothing wrong with that at all.

I'm curious, have people said what they find unusual about your friendship? Do you think it's unusual? Are the rest of your friendship group just narrow minded?

my closest female friend is 18 yrs older than me. We have our differences but on a deeper level we are like mind-twins. I never felt the gap in years between us, and she is in her 60's now.

My ex long term partner was 15 yrs older than me (im female, he is male) and I would not do that again. A different dynamic. However, we are very, very close friends.

Not at all. I’m 42 and have a good friend who is 65.

I’m 25 and most of my friends are approaching 40, either met through the pub or through various jobs. I have some older friends than that too who I met through those friends.

My friendship group through a shared activity spans 18-55. We just get on really well together.

Although it has been amusing when the younger ones have come in and adjusted to the vibe and realised that there are some levels of conversation that you don't grow out of

@Ponoka7

"Imba 25yr old female and I have a lovely friendship with a 53yr old male colleague. We just get along,"

Time will tell.

Oh do fuck off. I'm happily married, he is happily divorced and in a relationship and his kids are older than me!

No, I have a friend 26 years older than me, we met when I was 42.

A good friend of mine is late 20s and I am mid 40s. I find it interesting as we have a very different take on some subjects and she makes me think. I like to think the reverse is true as well.

Not all. I'm friends with people of all ages. At 25 I had friends in their 50s if we had things in common. I've also picked up friends at work over the years who have been vastly older...and now I am older, considerably younger.

I think it's great!

I am 46 one of my friends is 65 the same happens with my husbands friends, allsorts. Another is 32. I think what is more important is what you have in common.

I have had older friends from time to time and never thought about it. However I did have one friend at the age mentioned, who was 20 years older than me, and she tried to set me up with her 19 year old son. This was because he had had an accident some time previously, and thought he 'couldn't'. Looking back, that was horrific and she was quite manipulative about that and other things. Not nice behind my back either.

You live and learn.

On the whole I see nothing wrong with age disparities in friendships, especially when you have a particular common interest.

It depends what they mean by ‘unusual’. If they mean it literally - as in you don’t hear of it that often - then they’re probably just making conversation. If they’re trying to imply it’s inappropriate, they should keep out of it; it really isn’t their business.

In my main friendship group, there’s someone a good ten years younger than the majority of us. She’s in a very responsible job and became a homeowner quite young too, so maybe she feels more of a connection in that sense. She still has friends her own age too.

I'm in university and 49 and one of my closest friends is a 22 year old male. Its not weird at all. I have been mistaken for his mum though

I had a really great friendship with a work colleague. We don't work together now and our friendship has suffered but it was great.

I've only just realised that he is 22 years older than me!

We bonded over a love of science fiction and fantasy. Both quite nerdy people.

So I don't find it weird.

@Eachpeachpears I'm exactly the same. Boss was mid forties, I was 22. Both married, while I worked there he had three children. He's now 60 odd, I'm 40. I left work but his daughters now babysit for me and he and wife are great friends. They are actually my daughters godparents.

He's just on exact same wave length as me, could laugh, shout, cry, really good friends.

No. Not weird at all. The people who think it is are weird IMO.

Nothing wrong at all! To have friends of different ages gives you a lot more perspectives and is interesting.

No I’ve always had friends of all ages. I’ve been really good friends with a few people who are 20-35 years older over the years (I say have as one died and one moved away, still friends with the others). My two closest friends are quite a bit younger than me too. Totally normal if you ask me.