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Wanting to report her to SS? Wondering how to remain Anonymous.

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Breastfeedingworries · 27/04/2021 21:27

Hi all, going to keep this as brief as I can as I’m tired and not feeling well but some things are playing on my Conscience so I want some advice. I’ll will reply with more detail and explanation tomorrow. (I think I’ve posted previously about her but can’t find the thread)

A friend of a friend I know, I’ve seen a little of and quite a bit recently (I helped her through a breakup) she’s what you’d call a vulnerable adult, was in and out of care herself, had quite a bad upbringing and turned to drugs in her youth. She’s had two children previously removed, then (you’d say turned her life around) everything seemed to be well with her, her third child is 4 but recently because of a new relationship there’s drugs, lots of face tattoos (not that I’m judging on that score but it seems unstable, I’m talking in the space of few months being covered so worried reguarding mental health)

Now I’ve seen things on social media, (not naming to be that outing) but drugs being taken during the school day. I think it’s the reason she isn’t taking her dc to school as she’s on benders with this boyfriend. They recently broke up but got back together I’m worried mostly about his influence on her life.

I’m wanting advice on how to report to her dcs school. I think they’d be the best to speak to. Cuts out the middle person and time if you go through a charity, also the hold times are madness currently with Covid. I need to remain Anonymous and I’m worried about sharing how I know what I know and being traceable. In all honestly I’m just hoping she has the support and intervention so this dc isn’t removed. She knows where I and a friend live who would know the most to tell the school. Do you think if I keep it too vague they won’t act?

sorry longer that I intended even when I tried to keep it short!

OP posts:
Breastfeedingworries · 28/04/2021 16:01

Hi all thanks for the replies , sorry yes it sounded obvious but I was truly worried about how to give the information as it was seen on social media.

So she could go through her friends and think hey, I bet it was breastfeedingworries ect.

Right I called the school, tried SS first but was on hold for so long and couldn’t get through so I rang the school and spoke to their safe guarding officer.

I kept it vague, said I’d seen videos on a social media outlet ect. That she’d done drugs the 5 days straight and I just want her to get support.

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Whatshouldicallme · 28/04/2021 17:56

Please do try ringing SS again directly. Did school say they would report? Usually SS need to talk directly to the person who has concerns. There is usually a specific number to call if you have concerns about a child, and I am surprised that it was so busy as our local one always picks up quite quickly. School may report it, but you really don't know that they will file a report from a 3rd party.

me4real · 29/04/2021 02:20

@Breastfeedingworries Just stay on hold/ keep trying to ring SS. You'll get through in the end.

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