To be irritated by people who bang on about where they’re from

[Notfromthevalleys]

Couple of women where I work will NOT stop talking about how they’re from The Valleys (south Wales)
“Haha it’s the valley girl in me”
“Haha you can tell I’m from the valleys”
“You can take the girl out of the valley but you can’t take the valley out of the girl”

There is nothing remotely different or valley-esque about them as far as I can see, other than the fact that they keep harping on about the valleys as though being from there is some sort of pedigree.

There’s also a bloke who will not shut up about being a “Swansea lad”.

Is it a south walian thing?

I am from mid Wales and we all work in mid Wales so not like they’re a million miles away from home.

It’s like the Oxbridge people who name drop their college all the time. That’s annoying too, but I at least it’s a genuine achievement to go to Oxbridge.

I understand that people’s community and identity is important to them, but there’s just no need to bring it into everything.

Anyone else come across this and AIBU to let it grate on me so much?!

@lolaflores

I'm irish, living in London, and cant get over people here in UK always reminding me of this. Some break our their version of an Irish accent or a verse of "how are things in Glockkamara" or where their Granny was born and did I know it? It was far worse in America but I find myself bracing for some comment or other on where I am from where I meet someone new.

@lolaflores Where are you from in Ireland?

Yes, they’re normally Irish in my experience.

I know the type! I went to school with an ‘Irish’ girl. Yes your parents are Irish love but you’re a Kiwi born and bred. Get over it she’s still the same as well has I have her on FakeBook always sharing things about having a difficult Irish name, it’s Ciara and on and on she goes! Funny thing being she moved to Ireland and then moved back to NZ

@NoIDontWatchLoveIsland

My favourite is the people who refer to themselves as "Irish" or "Scottish" because they had one granny who was born there and immigrated to England when she was two, and they've literally never set foot there.

Whoops above was in response to this

Wow - I've read a lot of these comments now and there's a lot of annoyance at Yorkshire! There must be something in the social fabric of the county that inspires so much vocal proclamations of county pride. Maybe it's based on its history or something? Maybe it's encouraged?

@TeeniefaeTroon my exH was in the infantry, frontline, saw a lot of shit and subsequently suffered from PTSD. He NEVER tells people he's ex-Army. What we do notice though is people who had non-combat jobs and went to Iraq/Afghanistan (electricians etc) bang on and on about it like they fought bare handed in the frontline. Soooo tedious.

I’m from Yorkshire, I don’t bang on about it. I’m leaning between embarrassment and defensiveness when reading this thread. There’s lots of very pretty countryside to be proud of and of course it’s quite big cause you’ve got North, South and East Yorkshire. So maybe it’s a numbers thing?

I’m not particularly down to earth, pretty away with the fairies. I am quite forthright but I’m trying not be quite so much as even in Yorkshire, people don’t like it.

I used to be quite proud of where I was from, and thought stereotypes about (south) Yorkshire were nasty and untrue. But now since Brexit and boris, and moving into the suburbs, I can unfortunately see there’s an uncomfortable amount of truth to those stereotypes.

🤷‍♀️There are asreholes from everywhere, lovely people from everywhere too.

I was born in the heart of Birmingham and spend several years in Worcestershire.
I relocated to London in my mid twenties.

I was mocked by Londoners and South Easterners for my Midlands accent.
I then become mocked by previous midlanders friends for being a posh southerner.
I would often relate to my midlander folk that, they lived in three beds semis that cost less than my one bedroomed flat, but I continued to be mocked.
Similarly, I was mocked for my accent and stupidity (?!) by my southern colleagues.

I felt very lonely. Thank goodness my darling husband and his family didn't care a jot where I came from.

I do find all this ' I'm from Bltheringtonshire, me and I say what I like" attitude utterly tiresome.
Cornwall for the Cornish
Aam from t' Leeds
Yam stupid yow am.
'Er you frum t'saath?
Cor blimey, you saand fick!

It bores me rigidly.
We all , who live here, live on this small island. Let's all just get along and embrace each other's very slight differences.

Well said 1Morewineplease

@EarthSight

Wow - I've read a lot of these comments now and there's a lot of annoyance at Yorkshire! There must be something in the social fabric of the county that inspires so much vocal proclamations of county pride. Maybe it's based on its history or something? Maybe it's encouraged?

To be fair, isn’t the population of yorkshire bigger than Scotland or Wales? Just a lot of us

@LBXXX

“And yes if someone is born in the uk they are English in my opinion with whatever heritage they have as their background”.

So, hang on: someone born in Northern Ireland or Scotland (born in the U.K. obviously), are ENGLISH - in your opinion?

Very funny indeed: your opinion is completely inaccurate, as anyone with even the slightest acquaintance with the terms of the GFA will tell you. And I doubt many Scots would be delighted at being told they’re English either.

What a bloody awful thread. Can't imagine it would still be up if it was someone complaining about Pakistanis or Jews.

And I'm 1/2 Welsh, 1/2 English. I don't 'bang' on about it, but I am proud of my roots as I'm sure everyone is. Hatred of other peoples ethnicity is surely prejudice?

Since when was Judaism a county

@Rupertbeartrousers Hehe yes

My mum loves Yorkshire (we're Welsh). We live right next door to Snowdonia but that doesn't seem to register with her.

@1Morewineplease That's not just a place thing though. There's always some twat in every workplace or social group which prides themselves on 'telling it how it is'. It's often a justification for blabbing anything inappropriate or hurtful thing that comes to their mind whilst refusing to take responsibility for it.

Judaism isn't a county, you're right. (Did you mean Country?) My point was, it's not really in the spirit of things to pull apart people from other ethnic backgrounds, countries or cultures.

The Valleys is not one place but thanks for the insults so far.
Sheep, rough, steroids, fake tan and stupid.

I am sure if you had a little more imagination you could think of many more.
Try googling A A Gill, he was pretty scathing about the Welsh except he meant the entire population.

That was for @FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop by the way.

[quote Piglet89]@LBXXX

“And yes if someone is born in the uk they are English in my opinion with whatever heritage they have as their background”.

So, hang on: someone born in Northern Ireland or Scotland (born in the U.K. obviously), are ENGLISH - in your opinion?

Very funny indeed: your opinion is completely inaccurate, as anyone with even the slightest acquaintance with the terms of the GFA will tell you. And I doubt many Scots would be delighted at being told they’re English either.[/quote]
Have you missed the entire point of what I’ve said?

Quite clearly you have

If they’re born in Ireland obviously they aren’t English. My point was if someone is born and bred in the England and never set foot in the country they claim to be from then How can they claim to be from there.

If someone was born in Ireland and lived in Ireland all their life but had English grandparents then in my opinion they wouldn’t be considered English even if they think they are because of their grandparents

Same with Scotland

It’s really not that hard of a concept to grasp

@Piglet89 sorry I’ve just seen that I wrote uk in one of my previous posts which was a typo which is where I think the confusion is from I think

@Dunairbeanat

The Valleys is not one place but thanks for the insults so far. Sheep, rough, steroids, fake tan and stupid.

I am sure if you had a little more imagination you could think of many more.
Try googling A A Gill, he was pretty scathing about the Welsh except he meant the entire population.

I was listing the stereotypes when I said steroids and fake tan. I was born and still live in the valleys; doesn't mean I can't acknowledge the numerous stereotypes.

Oof this thread blew up a bit 😬
Just to clarify... I have nothing against anyone because of where they come from... including the Welsh (I AM Welsh for a start)... it’s the constant unnecessary references that irk me, but I think that some people here may have got the wrong idea...

@wheresmymojo

As soon as someone says where they're from in these posts I read the rest of the post in that accent...

Hehe I’m doing that too!

@Rupertbeartrousers

Gilda, I do know what you mean

I had things such as ‘bruschetta’ and ‘mojito’ explained to me by someone at uni who thought that northern people lived in the hovis advert

The Hovis advert that is filmed in that well-known Northern county of Dorset?

I'm northern and Oxbridge. I know that I do like to mention my northerness and absolutely LOVE it when I meet another northerner.

I think it's partly as where I've moved to, people really aren't as chatty as they are at home (they are actually quite rude and standoffish, in my opinion) so to be around and chat to a northerner who will actually have a chat and has a familiar accent is nice.

I miss home dreadfully (never really wanted to live where I am - joys of marriage) so it helps me feel less homesick. I hate to say this but most northerners I meet/talk to are genuinely warmer and nicer than the locals around where I am. It's just not the same attitude at all.

I barely mention my Oxbridge education outside of certain situations within work where it may be relevant.