Did anyone ever make a second FIL champagne thread?

Champagne222 · 2021-04-25T18:48:36+00:00

Just seen its full up and can't find another thread for it.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 25/04/2021 20:16

I can’t see one - let’s make this one official!

LakieLady · 25/04/2021 20:28

I was mentally drafting the whole incident from the pov of the IL's posh friends, but don't know if I can be arsed now.

It would definitely make a funny tv play though.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 25/04/2021 20:37

I’m still ploughing my way through the original thread, but I’m amazed how many people are saying ‘Your PILs were very rude not to invite you’. Even if you think that, there are several ways to deal with that:

OP’s husband could have said to his parents, ‘Have we done something wrong? Why does sister get an invite and not us?’
OP’s husband could have said, ‘We know we’re not invited to dinner, but I haven’t seen Peter and Jane in years - could we just pop in for a quick drink afterwards?’
OP’s husband could have said, ‘I haven’t seen Peter and Jane in years, and I don’t have an address - can you pass mine on?’
OP and husband could have accepted they weren’t invited, and asked why/ explained they were upset afterwards, rather than just turning up.

All much better options than ignoring the parents’ wishes, turning up anyway and ‘making eyes’ at the expensive champagne, then acting surprised that they weren’t being treated like honoured guests

Original poster

Champagne222 · 25/04/2021 20:45

It's the mother of only grandchild comment that really stuck with me...

OP posts:

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 25/04/2021 20:50

Making eyes at her DH [titters]

arethereanyleftatall · 25/04/2021 20:55

I only got a quarter of the way through the thread and just wanted to bellow 'they don't blooming well like you. They're probably bored of subtly trying to tell you.'

HavelockVetinari · 25/04/2021 20:57

Can someone link to the original?

Original poster

Champagne222 · 25/04/2021 21:02

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4227852-Fil-reluctant-to-serve-niether-myself-nor-dh-nice-champagne?msgid=106805254#106805254

OP posts:

1Morewineplease · 25/04/2021 21:03

Hi dad! I know you didn't invite us but we really wanted to pop in.
Oh you've just finished your dinner, so that's ok... where's mum? Ah , ok , in bed .
Hi dad's friend! How are you?
You didn't call to see me?
Anyway, where's your wife? Oh, she's in bed? Ah, ok.
That looks like a splendid vintage, dad, my wife's gasping. Can she have a goblet?
No?
Oh, just a small goblet then.
You seem a bit miffed.. anything wrong ?'

StillCoughingandLaughing · 25/04/2021 21:08

@Champagne222

It's the mother of only grandchild comment that really stuck with me...

And the excessive harking back to ‘But my parents would never do that!’. Could it be less relevant?

Original poster

Champagne222 · 25/04/2021 21:09

Small goblet 😂

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Original poster

Champagne222 · 25/04/2021 21:10

@knittedjimmychoos here is your second thread 😁

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Sadsiblingatsea · 25/04/2021 21:15

I think the husband should have just gone on his own if he wanted to see the old family friend.
They’re not Siamese twins.

Diverseopinions · 25/04/2021 21:26

On the original thread, those were the wittiest and most spirited replies from an OP ever! Showing how to graciously fight your corner.
I bet OP is brilliant at dealing with people at work because she makes everything fun, and detractors seem petty.

KnittedJimmychoos · 25/04/2021 21:28

Oh this is a thread about a thread, so I'm sure it will go

Re mother of grandchild comment, again it's so tricky to divulge personal details, and I'm sure I'll get attacked by whatever I say but firstly, I do not mean any offence by that at all, I myself was told at 16 with dm that I have a fertility problem and I would need lots of help conceiving, other women in my family have also had issues and have not been able to conceive so having dc is not something I ever expected nor took as a given, I feel extremely blessed.
Two people very close have wanted them and not been able too so it's not something I'm saying from that perspective like I'm super special.

For me it's more that I don't feel pils like their own son, they certainly don't like me so the mother of gc comment was more.. Could you just show me some of respect, at the very least I'm the mother of your gc.
It very nearly didn't happen, they could have none as I don't think sil wants them.

Re John, I'm not sure who John is, I also had not considered them being swingers, the idea didn't really gain traction on the thread but, anything is possible.

KnittedJimmychoos · 25/04/2021 21:31

@Diverseopinions

That's so sweet! Quite a comment from an aibu thread but it's because unlike some aibu there were some elements I didn't take personally because of the biblical backstory, so it's easier to laugh and I think it's one of the loveliest aibu I've read on mn and I'd rather laugh than cry generally.

Oneeyeopen · 25/04/2021 21:35

I still don't know where the most 'precious' dgc were at the time of the visit.

Original poster

Champagne222 · 25/04/2021 21:36

@knittedjimmychoos have to say it's a mumsnet first.. I do think you're unreasonable... But you're so endearing I can't help but like you by how you post 😁

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KnittedJimmychoos · 25/04/2021 21:50

The other thread moved so fast I'm re reading it, it's just really tickled me, I missed the post about the back story being me showing off my incredible twerking skills and smashing pils collection of ladies in crinonolean 🤣🤣, I'll have to remember to show them next time 😂.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 25/04/2021 21:51

Oh this is a thread about a thread, so I'm sure it will go

It’s a continuation - happens a lot when threads get full.

Joinedjustforthispost · 25/04/2021 21:53

This is why I love mumsnet , what a fabulous post by @KnittedJimmychoos

KnittedJimmychoos · 25/04/2021 22:12

Apart from the cheering me up, it did show some interesting theme however and I understand the champagne more now re fil being reluctant to share and also someone did a reversal saying, " we had guests and knew pils would rock up and boozy Mil feels entitled to all our good stuff because wait for it, her fanny was battered having dh ", well funnily enough, Mil has shared her birth story and the ailments she suffered due to carrying dh and is do feel she feels extremely entitled here in our home and towards dh. She does not know my birth story.
Dh and I have been to relationships counselling over pils, I've struggled to understand them.

Skyliner001 · 25/04/2021 22:16

@KnittedJimmychoos

Oh this is a thread about a thread, so I'm sure it will go

Re mother of grandchild comment, again it's so tricky to divulge personal details, and I'm sure I'll get attacked by whatever I say but firstly, I do not mean any offence by that at all, I myself was told at 16 with dm that I have a fertility problem and I would need lots of help conceiving, other women in my family have also had issues and have not been able to conceive so having dc is not something I ever expected nor took as a given, I feel extremely blessed.
Two people very close have wanted them and not been able too so it's not something I'm saying from that perspective like I'm super special.

For me it's more that I don't feel pils like their own son, they certainly don't like me so the mother of gc comment was more.. Could you just show me some of respect, at the very least I'm the mother of your gc.
It very nearly didn't happen, they could have none as I don't think sil wants them.

Re John, I'm not sure who John is, I also had not considered them being swingers, the idea didn't really gain traction on the thread but, anything is possible.

Oh please 😂😂😂🙄

queenmeadhbh · 16/05/2021 12:48

@KnittedJimmychoos please tell me this has been driving me bananas - in one comment on other thread you mentioned a situation where you had wanted to buy two fizzy waters due to being very thirsty but PIL barged in to order and would only get you one and you were very put out. Did you make a post about that specific fizzy water incident at the time? I am SURE the story seems familiar and I am now wondering whether there is more than one person who has had fizzywatergate with PIL

MishMashMummy · 16/05/2021 13:33

That thread was nuts. The PILs had been so obviously rude and weird, but people were acting like they were absolutely reasonable.

The more time I spend on mumsnet the more I realise how dysfunctional many people’s families are.