To ask what's the worst thing your DC has said to you?

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My 6 year old told me tonight that he wished he could delete me so I didn't exist. He was immediately sorry but fuck me it hurt. What's the worst thing yours has ever said to you?

My nephew once asked me if I had always been this ugly, or if I got worse as I grew up....

Thanks mate 😂

Myeldest ds told me when he was five that he wished he had a different mummy. One who smiled and was nice.
At the time, my grandad had just died, DH worked away from home for 3 weeks at a time and was only home for one weekend before leaving again and my youngest son was going through the terrible twos with constant tantrums, was incredibly difficult and clingy and was basically exhausting me. I was really struggling and then my ds said he wanted a happy New mum. I was devastated. And heartbroken.
But he was only 5. And obviously I realised I needed to make more effort with him despite everything else that was going on.
It still upsets me now and he's 27!

My 3yo announced I was no longer the best mummy in the world in the back of the car last week. My 7yo turned to her and said well your not the best Jenny (not real) in the world for being mean to mummy which resulted in a full meltdown

2 of my 4 have said I hate you and that really hurt me,

DC - 'Do you know who my favourite mother is? '
Me - 'Me?'
DC - 'No......Mary'
Me - 'Well do you know who my favourite child is?'
DC - 'No'
Me - 'Baby Jesus'
We're not remotely religious just banter like this all the time!

ASD -DS Aged 11 “fuck you bitch”
First time he’d ever sworn. Broke my heart.

@Dextersdaddy

Sorry to hear that..

@NewlyGranny

"Lent" DD2 the money to buy her first car so she could get to her first ''real" post-grad job. We set up a repayment plan so she could pay me back gradually - interest free. She never paid back a single penny despite living at home.

When I pushed, she said, "You don't need that money - your life is over!" I was just 60...

bloody hell i hope you made her pay you back/keep !!

mine walked into the bedroom when i was changing and said" oh no" walked back out.
below 4. will let them off!

Not my own child, but my nephew, who I absolutely adored, first grandchild, first time Aunty etc used to shout "bot bot bot" and run away from me when I walked into the room. He only did it to me. I was 22 and absolutely devastated. He is now 32 and we couldn't be closer. He messages me almost daily, tells me he loves me and comes to me first with any problems. Sometimes I have a joke and put "bot bot bot" on his birthday card and we have a laugh. Kids are funny creatures and I would always say, don't take whatever hurtful things they say to heart. It's not worth getting upset over.

@Dextersdaddy

My first baby Dexter died when he was 12 months old, we've since had a little girls. We were talking about their brother one day when the youngest who was 3 at the time looked at me and said "Dexter will stink now, cos he's dead". I could've drop kicked the little witch out of the window!

Kids are beyond brutal!!!

@Callywalls thank you that! My OH just said that DS was being a twat and that it was a top parenting moment on my part. You know balling my eyes out, saying "you wish I didn't exist??!!", explaining that whilst he's sorry now he can't rewind time to before he said such a savage thing.... You know. Top parenting.

That he wished he could just die. It was in the first lockdown and he was an anxious 6 year old with his Mum going out to work as normal and he couldn’t understand. He felt like he was waiting to catch Covid and die.

@NorthernMC

That he wished he could just die. It was in the first lockdown and he was an anxious 6 year old with his Mum going out to work as normal and he couldn’t understand. He felt like he was waiting to catch Covid and die.

Oh that's way worse. I hope he's feeling a little less anxious?

He’s been much better since he went back to school in June thankfully, I was worried in January but he was fine the last lockdown. Heartbreaking.

@Dextersdaddy Kids are brutal, that must have taken a lot of self restraint to not go all out rage on your DD.

My 2 year old told me he didn't like me and that I need to go live on the moon.

Coincidentally, I had recently told him off for annoying the cat. Not half an hour later he threw his arms around my neck and told me he loved me.

My 6 year old told me she hated me yesterday because I wouldn’t let her go back outside to play with her friends. She needs supervision still so I can’t let her out on her own but I don’t have time to watch her playing outside all day either. She has ASD and some anger issues so I try not to take it personally. She’s told her dad she wants a different dad on occasion which is worse and very hurtful.

@NorthernMC I wasn't expecting her to say it and it really did upset me.... but she was only 3 and she doesn't really understand death so i couldn't get mad at her.

DS (15) said to me last night You look just like James May which wasn't the kindest thing anyone's ever said to me.

I think he realised when I answered dryly, Every woman's dream, clearly that he'd been tactless because he backtracked slightly by saying, Not your face. Just your hair.

I haven't been able to get into the hairdressers yet since Lockdown.

My teens say the following one has asd.
( we also have a no swearing/blaspheming rule which they have trouble to stick to. I never swear or blaspheme. Comes from school and their dad).

You are a crap mum
I have been praying for a year that I can live with a better family. (teen means richer family with no boundaries)
I hate you
I f**ing hate you
You are a f'ing shit mother
You f'ing c**t
You f'ing bitch
You are so poor it is embarrassing (because I cant afford a house).
Get a better job for f'ing sake
The home is so poor it is embarrassing. I am never inviting people round
I deserve better than you.
I deserve better than this (this means teen wants to live in a detached house with large garden and swimming pool and several long haul holidays a year).
I want to f'ing kill you with a knife and I am trying really hard not to. (When cant get own way).
I cant wait to leave this hell hole.

I was in an abusive marriage my ex bad mouths me to the dc regularly. He still emotionally and verbally abuses me. (I am working on untangling myself from the abuse). (But I also think the dc might be following his example in how they speak to me). I dont have it from them everyday.

Kids are getting support also re situation.

@Dextersdaddy

My first baby Dexter died when he was 12 months old, we've since had a little girls. We were talking about their brother one day when the youngest who was 3 at the time looked at me and said "Dexter will stink now, cos he's dead". I could've drop kicked the little witch out of the window!

I remember my 4yo upon coming home from hospital and telling him his baby sister had died, started singing “the baby’s dead, the baby’s dead” in a very happy way.

Cuts to the bone but they don’t understand at that age

That I had a shit job, and thats why he had 2nd hand stuff.

Cheeky fucker.

I went dead silent. He came down about 20.minutes later, hugged me from behind while I was washing up, and said.. I didn't mean that mum, that was a shit thing to say, im sorry.

Hes 13 😊

Now 8yo DD at various times in the last few years has told me that she's moving to live with her dad as soon as she gets the chance

5 year old told me he hates me and he is glad I fell down the stairs ( previous clumsy incident). Hurt so much!

My now 4yo's first proper sentence was 'no baby for mummy', said on the day after I had a miscarriage. She had no idea I was pregnant or that I lost the baby. It was out of the blue and I had a little cry in the cupboard under the stairs.

She also told me my hair was poo this morning. 2yo twins pointed and laughed at me while I got changed yesterday. I'll take that though, I do look funny.

Wow! Most of these are brutal.

My dc often comment that I look old and my face looks crinkly. I'm only 30 so that hurts a bit.