Neighbour has built their wall half in our garden.

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Thus the wall that is theirs is now a shared wall as its half on our house and half on theirs. Trouble is this now means if we want to make our driveway bigger, we have their wall in the way and can’t just build in our own grounds. Not sure if we can move their wall back to their side. Just don’t understand why they did this (other than greed for more space on their side) but they had plenty anyway.

I am so upset and angry about this. It doesn’t even match our other walls! It’s actually stressed me out so much that I can’t sleep and I’m thinking about this all the flipping time. I see it every time I step out my house so can’t just ignore it. I feel they have ruined the look of my house. I feel really resentful towards them now which I hate but just can’t help it! They never applied for a shared wall (party wall) or went through the process. They just acted as though they didn’t know what they were doing , didn’t seem to understand boundaries etc despite having professional builders. I can’t believe they wouldn’t have advised them. Also what kind of builders build walls not knowing where the boundary between houses is?

I just need some perspective as this is making me somewhat ill. Am I unreasonable for being so upset, is this normal that I’m letting it get to me this much or should I let it go? I know it’s just bricks and mortar but it’s my house! What would you do in my shoes?

By the way, we want to sell our house in the future so don’t want to be in dispute as that would put potential buyers off.

We had this years ago. Our central heating boiler was in a little purpose built brick 'house' attached to our wall. Came home one day to find NDN had built his own - attached to the side of ours!!! Not a word about it in advance. Like you OP, we fumed quietly but didn't want to upset the neighbours - God knows that didn't bother them!!

Then we wanted to put a fence in our back garden. Because of the attached boilerhouses, the fence had to be cut around them, and was entirely on our side. We put up wood panels that had already been treated but one day I noticed black stains on our side. Rushed out to see, bloody NDN was only painting his side of our fence with black bitumen, without asking, and ruining our side. I spoke up that time and he stopped, but they never spoke to us again. When we moved to a detached house, I made damn sure that although there were fences, we had our own.

Have also been annoyed by current NDNs blatantly using our drive to get one of their cars out from behind the other. I think that's cheeky. My DH thinks I'm nuts, but it's the principle of the thing. Found same guy one day filling in a hole in our drive where puddles gathered, because his kids were jumping in it!! I know it's contrary but I really wanted to say, hang on, that's my fecking hole and if I wanted it filled in, I'd have done it!