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Stop bloody feeding my cat!!!!

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Frickssake · 20/04/2021 09:20

WHY do people feed cats that are not their own? My cat has an extremely sensitive stomach. Someone put a pic of my cat on sm as they think he is a stray and have been feeding him as he is always begging for food!! FFS. He is extremely handsome ( well I would say that!) So in no way looks neglected. I've responded saying the cat is mine and please stop feeding him. ( This was Sunday). He came home late last night and I woke up this morning to cat vomit. Arghhh

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UrAWizHarry · 20/04/2021 10:49

@helpfulperson

As a cat owner I agree that we can't have it both ways. If we want to let them out to freely wander and not be able to control what they get up to we have to accept we can't control how they interact with people.
Nonsense.

There is a pretty obvious difference between not always being able to control where a cat shits and whether a human being feeds a cat they don't own or not.

I'll give you a hint: one of those two beings speaks english.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 20/04/2021 10:55

If you don't want people to feed your cat, make sure it can't get out of your garden.
I don't and never would feed a random cat, but I'm sick to death of them shitting in my garden . Its one of the reasons I stopped growing my own vegetables

Juno231 · 20/04/2021 11:00

@UrAWizHarry but much like you can't control where your cat goes, you can't control how people interact with it? Regardless of how much English they speak...

countrygirl99 · 20/04/2021 11:01

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

If he's begging food from other people, he isn't getting enough nourishment from you. Suggest you talk to your vet about his diet and stop blaming people who are kind enough to feed what they they think is a hungry, neglected cat.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 are you my neighbour? I even offered to get my vet to speak to her to explain abou his medically necessary special diet and the cow still carried on because she thought she was so clever.
UrAWizHarry · 20/04/2021 11:05

[quote Juno231]@UrAWizHarry but much like you can't control where your cat goes, you can't control how people interact with it? Regardless of how much English they speak...[/quote]
You can ask a person not to feed a cat and have a reasonable expectation that they will understand that request.

Granted if the cat is taking other cat's food that is harder, but it's not unreasonable to expect that if you ask someone not to feed a cat for health reasons as the OP has done that such a request is respected.

denverRegina · 20/04/2021 11:10

"I'll give you a hint: one of those two beings speaks english."

If they don't speak English will the cat still shit in their garden?

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 20/04/2021 11:11

My cat will act like the RSPCA need to be called as she's STARVING if DP comes into the kitchen five minutes after I've fed her. The idea that cats get fed by other people because they are not well-nourished and look hungry and neglected is hilarious. Ours is a very friendly little fatty who would eat anything.

FeelinHappy · 20/04/2021 11:12

@denverRegina

If I feed the fuckers will they stop shitting on my grass?
I know you're joking but there's truth in this. Not because they don't poo on their own patch, but because they tend to bury it on their own patch. Though that might not be much better.

OP I expect your cat shits at home and away but I still think YANBU to expect people not to feed it (much).

We took on starved rescue cats and we had to be very explicit with lots of neighbours to stop kind-hearted people feeding our allegedly-starving-and-at-death's-door (yet strangely overweight) scroungers.

deardia · 20/04/2021 11:16

Tell your cat not to stray in to other peoples homes/garden 🤪

myneighbourisaCF · 20/04/2021 11:16

when i moved into my last house a cat always used to come into my garden every day and follow me around meowing at me - turned out that previous owner used to feed this cat because she was fed up of it crapping in her garden, and apparently if you feed a cat in your garden it doesn't crap there because it doesn't crap where it eats.

No idea if that's true mind

HeartsAndClubs · 20/04/2021 11:19

There is a pretty obvious difference between not always being able to control where a cat shits and whether a human being feeds a cat they don't own or not. no there isn’t. If you can’t control where your cat goes then you keep it inside. It really is that simple.

If you can’t do that then you don’t own a cat.

People are always sayin on here that a cat owns their humans not the other way around. So if a cat wants to own a different human by accepting food from them then that is just the nature of cats.

And apart from shitting in people’s gardens, they decimate the local wildlife, or should we just accept that as well because the humans, who speak English, can’t control it?

Would it be ok to shoot a cat which came into your garden in the same way that people trap rats and other vermin’?

SoupDragon · 20/04/2021 11:20

I accept that my cats might well steal other food. That isn't the same as someone deliberately feeding them though.

Greenmarmalade · 20/04/2021 11:23

I feed cats treats to stop them pooing in my garden.

UrAWizHarry · 20/04/2021 11:27

@HeartsAndClubs

There is a pretty obvious difference between not always being able to control where a cat shits and whether a human being feeds a cat they don't own or not. no there isn’t. If you can’t control where your cat goes then you keep it inside. It really is that simple.

If you can’t do that then you don’t own a cat.

People are always sayin on here that a cat owns their humans not the other way around. So if a cat wants to own a different human by accepting food from them then that is just the nature of cats.

And apart from shitting in people’s gardens, they decimate the local wildlife, or should we just accept that as well because the humans, who speak English, can’t control it?

Would it be ok to shoot a cat which came into your garden in the same way that people trap rats and other vermin’?

Or, a human being could just choose not to feed a cat they don't own.

It's not hard.

And if you can't tell the difference between a pet animal and a wild animal then you probably should seek help for that.

LST · 20/04/2021 11:30

If you let your cat out to roam you have zero control on what they eat. I have 3. 1 has a bad gut sometimes, but unless I keep him in (his life wouldn't be worth living) I accept I have no control

AryaStarkWolf · 20/04/2021 11:34

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

If he's begging food from other people, he isn't getting enough nourishment from you. Suggest you talk to your vet about his diet and stop blaming people who are kind enough to feed what they they think is a hungry, neglected cat.
Do you own a cat or a dog? Not so much my cat but my dog would keep eating until she's physically sick if we let her
LST · 20/04/2021 11:39

@myneighbourisaCF

when i moved into my last house a cat always used to come into my garden every day and follow me around meowing at me - turned out that previous owner used to feed this cat because she was fed up of it crapping in her garden, and apparently if you feed a cat in your garden it doesn't crap there because it doesn't crap where it eats.

No idea if that's true mind

Mine all poo in my garden. Apart from the youngest who meows to come in to use the litter tray and then goes back out again
AryaStarkWolf · 20/04/2021 11:40

[quote CuriousaboutSamphire]@Frickssake Pictures on the same FaceAche page, of you cat and even his vomit. Explain in detail how much he is hurt by other people feeding him, how much it costs in vet bills etc

And post it weekly...

A friend is still posting abouther Maine Coon cat that never ventures out of their garden. Over lock down he disappeared. Weeks later a FaceAche post turns up, looking for the owner, who obviously hadn't ben at all bothered to lose such a beauty (friend had papered the entire town with Missing posters).

Turns out the cat had been sunbathing on the shed roof when a neighbour saw him and enticed it down with some fish. Then put the cat out of her garden. Cat wandered off... was found and taken in by a good samaritan who didn't take him to a vet, or put a post up. She only made attempts to find his real owner when he started peeing in her bed Smile

He's home now, but she posts every week - don't feed him, don't take him home, leave him on the shed![/quote]
I have a Maine Coon as well, he's the same, he'll go out in the garden but I keep an eye on him so he doesn't wander off, he's such an idiot he wouldn't last a day out there. He thinks every one/animal are his friends and he's liable to take a nap in the middle of a road.

Just going back to the OP's cat and their toilet habits, my cat doesn't even go in our garden, he refuses to go anywhere other than his litter box

PegPeople · 20/04/2021 11:41

@Greenmarmalade

I feed cats treats to stop them pooing in my garden.
Would you stop doing that if the owners informed you those treats were making the cat unwell?
AryaStarkWolf · 20/04/2021 11:45

@myneighbourisaCF

when i moved into my last house a cat always used to come into my garden every day and follow me around meowing at me - turned out that previous owner used to feed this cat because she was fed up of it crapping in her garden, and apparently if you feed a cat in your garden it doesn't crap there because it doesn't crap where it eats.

No idea if that's true mind

I've never heard that before but it sounds a bit far fetched to me
fiendfyre · 20/04/2021 11:47

@HeartsAndClubs

There is a pretty obvious difference between not always being able to control where a cat shits and whether a human being feeds a cat they don't own or not. no there isn’t. If you can’t control where your cat goes then you keep it inside. It really is that simple.

If you can’t do that then you don’t own a cat.

People are always sayin on here that a cat owns their humans not the other way around. So if a cat wants to own a different human by accepting food from them then that is just the nature of cats.

And apart from shitting in people’s gardens, they decimate the local wildlife, or should we just accept that as well because the humans, who speak English, can’t control it?

Would it be ok to shoot a cat which came into your garden in the same way that people trap rats and other vermin’?

What the hell is wrong with you?!
denverRegina · 20/04/2021 11:47

"I feed cats treats to stop them pooing in my garden."

I did not know this would work!

CatBumJuice · 20/04/2021 11:52

Ooo, some real cat haters here!

wombatspoopcubes · 20/04/2021 11:54

I don't "feed" cats but in the summer I did walk in on one eating out of our cats bowl. I like to keepthe door open all day when the weather is reasonable for our cat to walk in and out. I was actually surprised that our Tom didn't see. He mostly tries to chase away anything that walks or hops into our garden.

LST · 20/04/2021 11:54

@CatBumJuice

Ooo, some real cat haters here!
MN hates cats and dogs and people who change or use their garden it seems