Ex H taking other kids to school tomorrow instead of his own

[greatweekend]

My ex DH is always scheduled to take our 13 year old DS to his pre-school lesson on a Tuesday. Usually DS goes by train to school but on a Tuesday my ex DH takes him because it is very early morning and we live in a big city with school a few train stops away and a bus ride or long walk to the train station. I take our DD to school at the moment in the opposite direction because buses in the mornings are unreliable at the moment because of Covid (some are for school children and some are not - so all a bit haphazard going in).

So far so good.

Then my DS said to him tonight - see you in the morning - and ex DH then said oh no sorry I am taking the kids of a friend in tomorrow - another completely different and third direction - because her car has broken down. Ps this is purely a friend. He has a girlfriend.

So I am like urrrrr. When did this happen? What are we going to do? He said it’s none of your business what I do. And I am blowing it all out of proportion. My DS who is usually pretty cool was also upset.

As it is I am working full time (he is struggling to find full time work) and pay 80% of everything. I was taken to hospital in an ambulance 3 weeks ago with chest pains and fully checked out I am sure for stress. These little helps mean a lot to me.

AIBU - he is doing a favour for a friend
AINBU - he should help his kids and do his bit

hopefully today's lesson focussed on the phrase "Fuck off Dad you prick" in the second language

@Notaroadrunner

While it's upsetting for Ds, I wouldn't be making myself available if this happens again. Tell Dh this was a one off and that if he won't put Ds first at all times, that you won't be stepping in to cover for him. Tell Ds that unfortunately you won't be able to bring him if his dad won't. Otherwise you'll be left running round like an idiot while nobody else is put out.

I don't disagree, but it's the child who then misses out and I wouldn't do it to my son. The son will learn for himself soon enough which parent he can rely on.

@greatweekend - irony you mention... fees that forwards to your ex ... you don't appreciate it either so he needs to engage brain and parenting skills - jist because he doesn't parent them all the time, doesn't mean he has an excuse

You don't get plaudits and slaps on the back for doing what you should do for your own kids.

Wheras I bet he's been feted as being a 'top bloke, do anything for anyone' for helping out another kid