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Ex Owners post and parcels...dump it all?

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Lotusmonster · 17/04/2021 10:07

We moved into our new house 2 years ago. During this time, the previous owner has continued to allow all manner of post and parcels to come to the house. This includes banking correspondence, clothing orders etc. We’ve gathered it all up twice and dropped it off at the estate agents. We’ve also bumped into the ex owner and given them the latest haul with a grumpy warning to get their addresses updated....but still stuff keeps coming. It’s taking up space in our hall...parcels etc and is a pain in the ass. I feel like binning it now after all this time. Any ideas please! Thank you!

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MagnoliaBeige · 17/04/2021 10:09

After 2 years I’d be either dumping it in the bin or putting it back in the postal system with “not known at this address” scrawled over it

TheWaif · 17/04/2021 10:09

Return it all to sender with 'not at this address, update your records' on. I did this from the moment I moved in here and never get anything for anyone else now.

Giraffe31 · 17/04/2021 10:09

For the post write on the envelope ‘not known at this address, return to sender’ and put it back in the postbox. That’s what we did and it did reduce it. Not sure about the parcels though sorry

TiniestFluffiestBunny · 17/04/2021 10:09

Just write "not at this address, return to sender" on it all and put it in the postbox.

Still a pain for you, but if they stop getting it via you giving it to the EA/them, they might actually sort it.

TheWaif · 17/04/2021 10:10

There's no point in wasting energy on being grumpy with them when you could take matters into your own hands.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 17/04/2021 10:16

Why are you taking in parcels? Just tell the delivery driver they aren't for you.

TheOnlyKoiInAPondOfGoldfish · 17/04/2021 10:16

2 years - you're a saint - I've been in mine two months and redirected at first, thinking their redirect was slow to kick in - but they carried on coming - I put a PA note on the back saying "your redirect doesn't seem to be working " still got post so last thing I sent I put a note on the back saying "this is the last thing I will send on". I now do return to sender.

Thing is, they lived here, they know it's a 30min walk to a post box, or a drive. If there was a post box opposite the house I might be a bit more tolerant - but they are just CFs.

Just return to sender.

Flowerlane · 17/04/2021 10:16

As others have said return all post with ‘not known at this address’ stop accepting parcels that are not for you as well. If a parcel is delivered why you are out then ring company and ask them to collect as it’s not yours.

DinosaurDiana · 17/04/2021 10:17

I’d bin it, you’ve been very good doing what you’ve done so far.
For parcels, I’d probably open them and either use it or charity shop.

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Lotusmonster · 17/04/2021 10:25

Parcels is hard because the delivery dudes just drop them by the door and make a dash for it. They’ve already had back 2 massive carrier bags of it and the last lot filled a huge rucksack.

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peak2021 · 17/04/2021 10:30

Anything you are not returning to sender that has an address on, make sure that bit is shredded by the way, not put in the bin.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 17/04/2021 10:30

Surely they would notice parcels not arriving?!

TheWaif · 17/04/2021 10:30

There's no point in binning it because it will just keep coming!

Literally no point in doing anything except returning it to sender or it will just go on forever.

IsolaPribby · 17/04/2021 10:35

Do they ask for the parcels? I don't understand how they are ordering stuff and not noticing they haven't got them 🙄

Ideasplease322 · 17/04/2021 10:40

Agreed return to sender.

The parcels are odd. I assume they are ordering things and forgetting up to change the address. So they are paying for goods and clothes that they then don’t get?

Atalune · 17/04/2021 10:43

I would hold on to them. And wait for them to ask for them. At my house. And I wouldn’t be in/answer the door.

Then I message them to collect from doorstep on day/time and wait for them to collect. Tell them
This is the last time and EVERYTHING will be returned to sender from now on. Block their numbers and cease all contact.

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Lotusmonster · 17/04/2021 10:54

You’d think they’d miss stuff, but apparently not. There’s something turned up a couple of months back from an aromatherapy firm...I’ve not opened it but assume oils etc. Today was a parcel of clothes. I think we are going to hang onto stuff for 2 weeks then re think it’s fate if no one has been in touch.

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Isaidnope · 17/04/2021 10:56

If the parcels are handed to you by a courier you need to simply refuse them, tell the courier it’s for the previous occupant so nothing to do with you. Send all post back with NOT AT THIS ADDRESS scrawled across it. Don’t return any of their post/parcels to them. Can’t believe they’re purchasing things and having them delivered to their old address, two years later! Bonkers.

KoalaOok · 17/04/2021 10:59

Write a note for the door saying NO PARCELS FOR XYZ

LouLou198 · 17/04/2021 11:03

How bizarre, why are they paying for stuff to be delivered then not being bothered it hasn't arrived? All post goes back in post box with "return to sender on". As for parcels that is more tricky as couriers do just drop and run these days. I would store for 2 weeks maximum.

FireflyRainbow · 17/04/2021 11:10

Bin it. Or keep it.

Cinders22 · 17/04/2021 11:13

I have had this twice at two different homes, both times I was passing the post on to neighbours who they were friends with.

The first one the neighbour eventually told me that the post was mostly final demands for payments they were trying to avoid so I started returning the post to sender.

The second time we had the bayliffs at the door for non payment of council tax - the bayliffs were absolutely fine with us once I had proved I was not the previous occupant but not something I would recommend!

We still get the odd letter for the previous occupants and I return as not known at this address, if we move again I will do that from the beginning.

Palaver1 · 17/04/2021 11:13

RTS
Only way round it don't bin
Refuse to accept parcels if you have an address of the former
Let them know your intentions.
This is what we did when we moved .
Still get some stray letters 20 years on.
The last one I opened it was a card wanted to send it back .
I have regretted it it was soul destroying .
About the marriage of over 40 years breaking up how he had gone of with someone he had worked with. She was left with nothing and was renting whilst he had the massive house the whole family was in turmoil. She asked for their continued friendship.
I felt so bad there want a return address.
I sent it on to former telling them the reason why I had opened it.
Hardly get anything now .

Nanny2many · 17/04/2021 11:16

id be worried that they are still registered at your address if banking stuff still coming through. Id make sure they're off the electoral roll etc and deffo contact any official places to confirm they are not living at the address

mindutopia · 17/04/2021 11:18

I would just put it all in the bin. How is it possible that they are spending money ordering stuff for 2 years that they have never received and yet just keep ordering it?

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