To stop dating this guy?

[SmokeyApo]

Hi all, just looking for a sense check as I am not sure if AIBU or not.

I went on 2 dates with a guy, very attractive, funny and smart. He seems to be really keen on me. On paper he sounds like a great catch. However:

1. he keeps pushing the "sex" angle in a way that makes me fee rushed and uncomfortable. We haven't had sex yet and the more he whispers "sexy whispers" in my ear then less I want to get into bed with him.

2. he told me used to have a daily weed habit, which he has recently dropped in favour of a daily alcohol habit + cigarettes. He says he drinks 3/4 beer cans every day and 7/8 during weekend days

AIBU not to want to continue seeing him? My friends say that I should give him a chance, but honestly I just feel uncomfortable at this point.

RUN!!!

OP, is this a wind up? Not a very believable one.

If you want to stop seeing him, stop. It's not up to your friends.
I wouldn't want to be with someone like him, and it sounds a lot like you don't either.

Ditch him.

Why are you even asking this? Run!

Yuck. Run.

Only 2 dates, and you're already turned off !
If you stay with him, you're going nowhere fast.

Your friends need higher standards.

Yanbu.

How can you not have the ick already?

I have a 6 date rule. Usually sees off those not genuinely interested.

You honestly have bad friends if they’re not advising you to bin off this arsehole.

Does he seriously whisper the words "sexy whispers" into your ear???

I just can't get past that.

Trust your gut. If he's making you uncomfortable then why bother seeing him? There are lots of other people out there and you don't want to waste your time on someone who makes you feel like this.

Move on

I've got the ick on your behalf. Sexily whispering whilst smelling of smoke and booze?

You've only been on two dates. If you are after a long term relationship with someone they need to be prepared to wait a bit and not push the sex. It's too easy for someone to act all nice in order to get in your pants.

Women need to bloody stop with all this 'give him a chance' bollocks.
If you have concerns, move on. Jesus H. Feeling obligated to put down your reservations and give the poor man chance after chance is how women get lumbered with twats. Ignore your friends.

He's rich, right? I imagine that's why your friends think you should stick with it.

They are wrong, btw. Trust your own feelings.

VettiyaIruken agreed, the only time I'd think of "giving someone a chance" is if they were really anxious on the first couple of dates but might be less so and more themselves on a 3rd. But people who are really anxious don't tend to wisper sexy whispers..

Gross. Yeah bin him

Your friends are idiots. Run for your life.

By all means carry on dating the sex pest with multiple addictions...

Raise your standards and bin him.

If you don't fancy him after 2 dates, when presumably he's been on his best behaviour trying to impress you, it's only going to get worse.

Run. Can you imagine making this your problem!