To stop dating this guy?

[SmokeyApo]

Hi all, just looking for a sense check as I am not sure if AIBU or not.

I went on 2 dates with a guy, very attractive, funny and smart. He seems to be really keen on me. On paper he sounds like a great catch. However:

1. he keeps pushing the "sex" angle in a way that makes me fee rushed and uncomfortable. We haven't had sex yet and the more he whispers "sexy whispers" in my ear then less I want to get into bed with him.

2. he told me used to have a daily weed habit, which he has recently dropped in favour of a daily alcohol habit + cigarettes. He says he drinks 3/4 beer cans every day and 7/8 during weekend days

AIBU not to want to continue seeing him? My friends say that I should give him a chance, but honestly I just feel uncomfortable at this point.

Feeling you have to post about him is all the info I need to say, “move on”!

But then having read it...

1. He sounds awful
2. Your friends give shit advice

He sounds awful!

You don’t ever need a cast iron “excuse” not too date someone anymore, if you don’t like them that’s reason enough.

He sounds so icky you’ll probably look back at your dates with him and want die with shame you ever went near him. “Sexy whispers”. For fucks sake.

Any friend who advised me to continue wasting my time on a loser who kept trying to pressure me into sex would be finding that their phone number had been passed on to said loser so they could give the sexy whisperer a chance at dating.

You don’t like his habits and he makes you feel uncomfortable, why would you even need to ask if you’re being U?

Why do women feel like they need a good reason to reject the attentions of a man? They aren’t doing you an honour by lavishing their attentions on you. You aren’t obligated to give them your time if you don’t want to.

Are your friends researchers for Jeremy Kyle? (Yes, I know it's not on any more)
That's the only reason I can think of for their encouragement.

Oh dear!

Oh no I can't think what could possibly be putting you off, I'd kill to have a faggy voice in my ear going SEXY WHISPERS

What does your friend think giving him a chance will achieve? He’ll still be a smoker who drinks too much and tries to initiate sex in a time frame that doesn’t work for you.

The only thing giving him a chance does is waste your time when you could be meeting someone else.

Gladys got it spot on.

Ditch the man and the friends with shit advice.

I'm saddened to read that you have friends who do not say to end any relationship now.

Your friends are dimwits with low bars. RUN from this guy. He's a sexpest and addict. There's nothing worth wasting your time on.

You have quite low standards Op if you need to ask.

He sounds as shit as your friends advice!

Put this one back quick!

No op, you owe it to any bloke who asks youto go out with him ans shag him. That’s the way it works for us women.

Or rather, you make a decision on whether you like someone and are compatible and if you’re not then you end it and don’t proceed further.

Your friends are idiots.

He's a fuckboy looking for fuck.
He also is an addict.
Run and block the loser.

Bin him off. Immediately. Trust your gut.

And maybe consider finding better friends.

Trust yourself. Always trust yourself.

Run

Your friends clearly believe that any man is better than no man, irrespective of how you feel about him.

This is not the case, and your friends should be ashamed to hold such a view in this day and age. In fact, I'm sure this attitude is responsible for a lot of the miserable women in shit relationships we see here on MN.

OP, you don't fancy or respect him, right? Then get rid. And get your daft friends some good feminist literature, sounds like they need it.

Just in case you have not understood the kindly phrased replies so far:-
Are you so fucking desperate?

Ditch him. And maybe also the 'friends'...