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AIBU to be locked in an unspoken battle with DH **lighthearted**

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Travis1 · 11/04/2021 21:13


We got a new bathroom, so I bought new towels for the nice new bathroom to go on the nice new towel rail. I folded the towels lovingly and placed them on the rail and every time DH goes to the toilet he washes his hands and dries them and then SPREADS THE TOWEL OUT like the heathen he is because it’s too wide for the rail so it’s all scrunched up.

So now when I go the bathroom I fold it again and place it lovingly back on the rail only to repeat the cycle each time one of us go to the bathroom.

I’m not sure if DH realises we’re in this battle. He might be doing it to wind me up, he could be oblivious, if I mention it it might become like the ongoing toilet roll battle 😂😂

This is what covid has done to my life. This is my entertainment.

AIBU to never mention it and hope to wear him down with my will of steel? 😬

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Am I being unreasonable?


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Duckduckduck123 · 11/04/2021 21:16

I think you may need to mention it to him to save your sanity, but you could move your frustration elsewhere... I pair my DH socks a little bit odd and one inside one when he's pissed me off 😅


MadMadMadamMim · 11/04/2021 21:17

Tell him to fold it properly.

He's probably utterly oblivious and will keep on doing it until you tell him sharply not to!

It will drag on forever otherwise. He won't know or care, whereas you will give yourself stabby rage.


monkeysox · 11/04/2021 21:18

It will stay wet it up though?!


warmandtoasty2day · 11/04/2021 21:18

thank goodness this is light hearted Smile


Travis1 · 11/04/2021 21:21

@monkeysox from being used for hand drying only? It’s only the two of us here. So not really getting particularly wet.

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GingersHaveSoulsToo · 11/04/2021 21:23

He is doing it to dry more effectively. Makes sense to me so maybe I annoy my husband by doing this....


monkeysox · 11/04/2021 21:23

Best to tell him if it's bugging you .


schoolcook · 11/04/2021 21:23

My kids leave it on the floor Confused
We are locked in the same battle but none of them know or care.
I silently fume a lot Grin


BeingATwatItsABingThing · 11/04/2021 21:25

I had this with DH after our new heated towel rail was added last summer. My towel was beautifully folded and DH’s was hideously plonked. I snapped and told him to do it my way or suffer a fare worse than death. He does it my way now. Just DD to fix now.


BeingATwatItsABingThing · 11/04/2021 21:27

*fate not fare


thecatmother · 11/04/2021 21:27



TrainspottingWelsh · 11/04/2021 21:28

Sew it loosely into place? It would be amusing to watch him puzzling over it and trying to spread it out.


WhispersOfWickedness · 11/04/2021 21:29

See how long it takes before one of you gets bored 😁

I have an antique bear in the corner of my bedroom. Every night when DH goes to bed, he covers the bear's face so it's not looking at him when he's sleeping, and when I go to bed, I uncover its face so that it can breathe Grin


Travis1 · 11/04/2021 21:32

@thecatmother I’m considering moving into my beautiful bathroom and banning him from it 😹😹

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Travis1 · 11/04/2021 21:32

@WhispersOfWickedness I love that!

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TyneTeas · 11/04/2021 21:33

You need to be careful with battles about towels. Can end in big metal chickens Grin


Thisgirlcando · 11/04/2021 21:36

It would bug me, but then I would be glad he washes his hands!


bluebellation · 11/04/2021 21:40

@TyneTeas that blog post had me laughing out loud, brilliant!


thecatmother · 11/04/2021 21:43

[quote Travis1]@thecatmother I’m considering moving into my beautiful bathroom and banning him from it 😹😹[/quote]
And it would definitely be justified after his disrespectful towel handling!
Before my OH moved in I had a very stylish bathroom, in grey and pale blue, including the towels. And then one day the horrible mustard and lime green monstrosity appeared. Unfortunately for me my OH thinks those are adding the lively pop of colour to our bathroom, my love is too deep to mention anything, and after almost 4 years I have started to think that they are complimentary (actually, on a different note, we might need new towels after all those years).☺


KickAssAngel · 11/04/2021 21:49

I have a far worse problem. In our brand new bathroom with fluffy new towels, lovingly folded, DH wipes his face on them after cleaning his teeth, leaving a smeer of toothpaste.

I have told him that for each time he does this I will take a shower, and then not wipe it down afterwards.


MrsClatterbuck · 11/04/2021 22:01

I used to have this battle in our old house. It wasn't that Dh didn't put the towel back properly but that he took it to another room while drying his hands and left it thereAngry


TotoAnnihiliation · 11/04/2021 22:06

My DH doesn't know that he is am going battle with me over who will be the first to admit defeat with trying to get the last bit of toothpaste out the tube. He doesn't know that I'm secretly seething because he won the last round.


Hankunamatata · 11/04/2021 22:09

We have ours on a hook. Towel has loop. Children incapable of putting hand towel on loop (when they are forced to wash hands) so becomes floor towel which I can't use as bathroom floors are grim with boys. So we go through 5 to 6 hand towels some says


Allywill · 11/04/2021 22:10

My husband does exactly this with the bath towel. I have talked him through it but it made no difference. I suggested he used the hand towel for, you know his hands when he had been to the loo, and if he used the bath towel for a shower he should put it in the wash and put out a clean correctly folded one. He does not do this and insists on using the bath towel for hands and spreading it as you describe as he says he can’t use it folded 😒. Luckily he works away during the week so I fold it correctly on Sunday when he leaves and it stays that way til Friday evening. Sometimes on a Saturday I throw it on the floor rather than see it scrunched up on the rail.


babbaloushka · 11/04/2021 22:16


That really made me laugh. Mine cycles the garish, cheap beach towels, bought yonks ago on holiday, in amongst the nice, fully towelling ones I bought to compliment our bathroom's theme. I can't understand why he thinks they go in circulation, but it does make me laugh when I see a huge photorealistic fish gaping at me from the towel rack.

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