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AIBU to be locked in an unspoken battle with DH **lighthearted**

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Travis1 · 11/04/2021 21:13

lighthearted

We got a new bathroom, so I bought new towels for the nice new bathroom to go on the nice new towel rail. I folded the towels lovingly and placed them on the rail and every time DH goes to the toilet he washes his hands and dries them and then SPREADS THE TOWEL OUT like the heathen he is because it’s too wide for the rail so it’s all scrunched up.

So now when I go the bathroom I fold it again and place it lovingly back on the rail only to repeat the cycle each time one of us go to the bathroom.

I’m not sure if DH realises we’re in this battle. He might be doing it to wind me up, he could be oblivious, if I mention it it might become like the ongoing toilet roll battle 😂😂

This is what covid has done to my life. This is my entertainment.

AIBU to never mention it and hope to wear him down with my will of steel? 😬

OP posts:
Rosewood017 · 11/04/2021 22:24

Keep going! We have a radiator/towel rail. DH spreads his huge bath towel over the top, which takes all the heat and leaves the bathroom freezing. I always fold it and put it on the lower rail but this dance has been going on 3 years now. I did explain once but he is just too lazy to bend down quite that far.

ChubbyLittleManInACampervan · 11/04/2021 22:30

The chicken is too good!

Knock knock mofo!

DeedledeDee · 11/04/2021 22:31

Whispersofwickedness , I do this too. My teddy is 75 years old and if he falls off the shelf I hug him better.

I'm 62

TheDogsMother · 11/04/2021 22:39

I have this too, every single day. I put the hand towels on the heated towel rails nicely folded and the next time I go in they are either not folded at all or folded in half length ways Confused. I'm not sure he's even aware but I feel I am the guardian of towel folding standards in our house.

WhispersOfWickedness · 12/04/2021 07:24

@DeedledeDee aww, that's lovely Smile
Mine was my grandmother's so is getting on for 100 years old, he's very special BearSmile

Soubriquet · 12/04/2021 07:30

Anyone else now want to buy a massive chicken?

Even though I don’t have the money or the space, I feel like I need a chicken

picklemewalnuts · 12/04/2021 07:31

Ooh yes. I get you.

itsgettingwierd · 12/04/2021 07:33

This is why you have a hand towel sized towel for hands. Fits perfectly. Can be removed and placed without folding and it's separate to the ones you use for bathing etc.

But yanbu. It's the kind of thing my ds does that drives me nuts too. I've long accepted he just doesn't share my love for all things straight and organised Grin

maybaby21 · 12/04/2021 07:38

My husband does the exact same thing! Every time he uses the hand towel (hanging on the lovely hand towel ring), he manages to soak it, then takes it off and spreads it over the heated towel rail so it can dry. Then I have to put it back on the hand towel ring later.

How do men manage to get towels so wet when they use them? I genuinely do not understand...

Springisspringing2 · 12/04/2021 07:42

I have this issue but in a more serious area.
Dh takes washing and srunches it up on radiators to dry.
So small parts not on radiators smell damp and I have to wash again. He refuses to lay things flat because he just doesn't understand this.
He will also hang this folded up on the washing line.. Again so some parts dry more quickly than others.

MissJeanLouise · 12/04/2021 09:43

My DH does this! Our towel rail is heated, so it would dry fine neatly folded, but he tries to spread it out leaving it scrunched in the middle. Yes too to not shaking out washing before hanging, leaving things twisted and with damp inside-out parts. See also ‘tidying’ the car, aka putting all the rubbish contents in a plastic bag and leaving it in the hall for 3 years.

honeylulu · 12/04/2021 09:50

My kids leave it on the floor too. Worse still, youngest wipes her toothpastey mouth on it (towels are navy) so it gets covered with white crusty stains - not a good look!

MissJeanLouise · 12/04/2021 09:53

Mine don’t wipe their toothpasty mouths on the towels, but they leave toothpaste splatters in the sink and even on the mirror above the sink - how does that even happen?!

BarbaraofSeville · 12/04/2021 09:56

I'm with your DH on this one. Is the towel for the purposes of drying hands, or decorating the bathroom?

It needs spreading out so it airs properly, not sitting there like it thinks its in a bathroom showroom catalogue.

Sading · 12/04/2021 09:59

Wasn’t there a film that started out like this? Can you swim OP? I think he does realise and you’re going to end up in the sea.

timeforanewnameagain · 12/04/2021 10:29

Ha OP, just make sure you win any unspoken battle!

I was in an unspoken battle with my DH. He has got this scabby old football flag from when he was young that he found when we were sorting out a wardrobe. I put it in the bin pile, he was horrified and wanted to keep it. Fine.

Next thing I know, flag has been draped like a garish tablecloth over a dresser in our spare room as decoration. It was hideous. I eye-rolled, took it off and put it in a drawer.

Next time I went in there, the flag was back! Argh.

We went on like this for a few weeks (because we both found it funny). Eventually, I hid it (it went in a vacuum bag and up into the attic) and I won! Ha!

He was most put out when he asked me where it had gone and I told him that he had actually put it in the attic, it was in one of the six huge bags and he was welcome to go and get it if he could find it! Grin

CallmeHendricks · 12/04/2021 12:19

We have a stimulating battle with the wibbly face mirror. I turn it the normal way, and he turns it over to the magnifying side, which gives me the creeps.

user1496146479 · 12/04/2021 12:22

@schoolcook

My kids leave it on the floor Confused We are locked in the same battle but none of them know or care. I silently fume a lot Grin
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lemmein · 12/04/2021 13:00

My mum does this when she visits my house 😂

I'm more like your DH, much to the annoyance of my DM.

Disfordarkchocolate · 12/04/2021 13:03

Don't tell him! These are the petty battles that keep a marriage alive.

stackemhigh · 12/04/2021 13:03

I’m afraid YABU. Used towels must be hanging not folded. Grin

ThebirdsAndBeesWhereThere · 12/04/2021 14:08

Get a hook on the wall next to the sink and stick a towel on it.

This saved me killing my son.

FooFighter99 · 12/04/2021 14:36

DH and I have an ongoing battle about which way round the washing up bowl should sit in the sink

He likes it landscape so there are no gaps round the edge of the bowl

I like it portrait, so there is a gap at the side I can use when filling DD's juice

DH knows this winds me up no end, yet still insists the bowl needs to be landscape cos he's a muppet of epic proportions

Cue an endless battle of wills that has lasted 10+ years Grin

Champagneforeveryone · 12/04/2021 15:00

@CallmeHendricks

We have a stimulating battle with the wibbly face mirror. I turn it the normal way, and he turns it over to the magnifying side, which gives me the creeps.
God yes, we call it "big face mirror", most disconcerting first thing in the morning Grin

We have no towel issues here, but we have a little wooden sail boat on our bathroom windowsill. I put it straight and DH moves it to a jaunty angle. This has been going on since we had the bathroom redone and shows no sign of abating Grin

Mochudubh · 12/04/2021 15:15

I bet he's spreading it out so it dries.

Get some nice new hand towels that fit your nice new towel rail.