He cut her hair

[pepsicolagirl]

Got home from doing the family food shop this afternoon to find that my OH has given 15yo DD a haircut.

From some angles it looks...ok... but others, well, think jim carrey in Dumb and Dumber but with an undercut.

My plan had been to take her to the hairdressers when she had appointments again and let her have it done properly.

She mentioned getting her dad (who, as has been confirmed today, has zero scissor skills) to do it. I said to wait. I said this to both of them.They did not wait.

AIBU to refuse to tidy it up for her (I am also not a hairdresser but have been giving trims over lockdown) and tell her to ask her dad for the dosh for the hairdresser to put it right and organise it themselves?

I am not happy but it is her hair and I cannot think of anything I could say which would be worse than having to live with that and having to answer to her teachers (she goes back to school tomorrow and 1 of the reasons I told them not to DIY it is because I am fairly sure the school does not allow undercuts...)

It's hair, it grows back.

When I was 14 I used to get my friends to dye my hair almost every weekend so I’d regularly return home with a new hair colour. I decided I wanted to go from black dyed hair to white blonde at one point which was obviously a total mistake. It turned brassy orange all over and looked absolutely hideous so we kept bleaching the fuck out of it until he was literally snapping off at the ends and burnt my scalp. I had to go home to my Mum and confess my mistake, she’s luckily a hairdresser with hairdresser friends who own a salon so she rushed me there on a Sunday night to fix it before school the next day.

Anecdotal tale but teenagers always fuck up, sometimes it’s nice to help them out of the holes they dig themselves in.

I don't understand the problem. I have been cutting my children's hair during the pandemic. He has cut his DD's hair.

The difference between a good and bad haircut, about 6 weeks.

If I were you op I would be hiding the scissors from now on. I presume he used proper hairdresser scissors.

Well it's a life lesson learnt. Knowing how cruel teens can be re appearance, I'd help her tidy it up.

Could be worse. Friends dd shaved her own head 😳

15 yo, 100% her choice to let her dad do this.

Does she mind it? If she doesnt then why are you bothered.

I let my sister cut my hair at this age. It was pretty bad, my mum was unsympathetic.

The stupid thing is, I let her do it again 6m later, together with my other sister. They did a side each - you would not believe how unmatched it was.

Is there a drip feed coming here? Becayse I cannot imagine getting all worked up about this and going on about being “undermined” I’d find it funny and just fix it.

I would help her out here. Hopefully this will be lesson learned for the pair of them. Tell them if there’s a next time, they’re on their own.

Frankly OP, don’t you remember being her age? It’s obvious to anyone with an ounce of empathy that she didn’t want to walk around school looking sloppy tomorrow and wanted to sort her lockdown hair ASAP. Instead you told her to wait it out. I booked my hair appointment for next week months in advance - why didn’t she/you do the same? My hair dresser’s next available appointment is in June now; your teen won’t secure an appointment soon as it has been left too late.

She likely felt pressurised to sort it out tonight so she looks decent for school tomorrow. Teens can be insecure after all, they’re heavily judged on their looks and their appearance is part of their identity. I imagine being a teen in lockdown is especially difficult.

With that in mind, I wouldn’t force my daughter to walk around looking like a hot mess in an attempt to punish her. Especially as the bad cut can’t be tied back and hidden.