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To wonder if living to 100 or will become the norm

88 replies

User1000005 · 10/04/2021 22:08

As life expectancy improves

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Eyevorbig0ne · 10/04/2021 22:10

I hope not. We're overpopulated as it is and there's a crisis in adult social care as well as pensions or lack of.

NiceGerbil · 10/04/2021 22:13

Life expectancy is decreasing in the UK isn't it? On average I mean.

NiceGerbil · 10/04/2021 22:14

Or will do... I seem to remember

Pottedpalm · 10/04/2021 22:16

My father lived to 101, and my mother to 99. I’m expecting a long life 😄

SleepingStandingUp · 10/04/2021 22:18

I think it'll split even more significantly as rich / poor. It's already 5 years for women and 7 for men roughly, and only set to grow

Againstmachine · 10/04/2021 22:19

I hope not, I don't to live that long, and the majority of people shouldn't.

We are too scared of death in this country calling it a tragedy when some one old dies.

It is sad when someone dies but if you are over 70 it's inevitable.

ParkheadParadise · 10/04/2021 22:21

I can remember a lady in the care home with my mum who celebrated her 100th birthday and was fucking miserable, all her family DH and dc's were dead. She didn't have any friends either, she was physically disabled but mentally 100% sitting in a chair all day when most around had dementia.
I always felt sorry for her, she said constantly that she wanted to be dead😪

Cindy87 · 10/04/2021 22:22

Of course it will: there are fluctuations but over time life expectancy increases.

InpatientGardener · 10/04/2021 22:22

I hope not. My grandad is 94 and slowly deteriorating, he's getting to the point where he can't confidently get outside to do the garden, his eyesight is failing so reading is harder, and his grip is going so it takes him an age to eat dinner. Its really heartbreaking to watch him just lose all the things that bring him pleasure in life. I know not everyone is like this but for those that are it must be horrible. I hope I die before I get to that point to be honest.

OneEpisode · 10/04/2021 22:25

the D of E was active almost to the end. He was also thin. My diet is far less healthy and j won’t have the same life expectancy.

eurochick · 10/04/2021 22:26

I hope I don't live that long. Having seen grandparents pop their clogs between the ages of sixty something and ninety something, my preference for myself would be around 80, with a short illness at the end. My worst nightmare would be years in a care home with dementia.

Woodlandbelle · 10/04/2021 22:28

In not sure. I don't want to live as long as that. Not in any negative or gawdy way do I mean that. But I see MIL at mid 80s so depressed and not enjoying life. I don't want that

Howshouldibehave · 10/04/2021 22:28

It depends what happens with health care. Being able to access the best medical care quickly, will obviously be crucial.

Bargebill19 · 10/04/2021 22:28

I really hope not.

AlrightTreacle · 10/04/2021 22:30

Doubtful. Think that modern sedentary living will curb life expectancy for the majority of people.

1Morewineplease · 10/04/2021 22:30

I'm not so sure.
The majority of the elderly now will have lived through rationing during the war or post war rationing. Middle aged folk will have , for many, been brought up on frozen, neon coloured , fast food, much like today.
I reckon that that life expectancy will lessen for a while. Breaded chicken/chicken nuggets/burgers and chips will not increase longevity.
The huge rise in Type 2 diabetes surely shows that.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 10/04/2021 22:33

My great-granny lived to be 102. She had Alzheimer’s, but she was still very sociable and recognised her son, my grandfather, right up until the end, although by then she had no idea who the rest of us were. She had a lot of family visiting her and met two of her great-great-grandchildren. She was born in 1911.

Most of my other great-grandparents were in their 90s and all 4 of my grandparents are alive and in full possession of their faculties in their early 80s. With that heredity I’m going to make it to 120!

junebirthdaygirl · 10/04/2021 22:33

I heard on the radio that children are already born who will live to 120!!! Better have a good pension.
I thin it's sad to outlive all your contemporaries and feel alone in the world.

colouringindoors · 10/04/2021 22:33

Only if you're rich.

Life expectancy of males in deprived areas is 74.

www.bmj.com/content/364/bmj.l1492

ParkheadParadise · 10/04/2021 22:34

My mum always told us not to be upset if we ever went to her house and found her passed away in her bed😂😂😂😂
Sadly she spent the last 10 years of her life battling dementia, not knowing her children, scared asking for her mother constantly.

ClarkeGriffin · 10/04/2021 22:36

@AlrightTreacle

Doubtful. Think that modern sedentary living will curb life expectancy for the majority of people.
This. A lot of people these days are overweight or obese. Most people that live to a very old age like this aren't. If anything, life expectancy may start dropping over the next few decades.
ListeningQuietly · 10/04/2021 22:38

Average life expectancy in the UK has been declining for a decade
healthy life expectancy even more so

only those who have NEVER been overweight will have the ultra long life expectancy going forwards

Vivana · 10/04/2021 22:38

My nan lived to 103 and was very independent but my mum died at 70 and uncle at 65. I don't think many will see past 90s

Pippin2028 · 10/04/2021 22:41

Too long a life can be a curse for some, your health gets worse, the world changes to a place you no longer recognise, many people move on with their lives.
I remember I was so close to my grandparents and they died when I was still a child and I missed them terribly.
But now as an adult I think it was a good thing they went when they did, they both had years of bad health and it would of just got worse as time went on.
Although I've seen people in their 80s in fantastic shape and doing so well with their lives, so I do believe it's not an age thing, it's a quality of life thing

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