Is my DN being rude?

[Kitfish]

My DN gets married next week. She is 30 and, because of Covid restrictions, is having a small wedding. As a result I have not been invited. Fair enough and I fully understand. I wanted to show my love and support (and that I was OK about not being invited) and so sent her £200 as a wedding gift last week along with a card. She would have got this several days ago - but I am still waiting for any form of thank you or acknowledgement. It takes 30 seconds to send a text - and she is 30 not 13 so I would hope would know better.

AIBU to think this is rude - or should I expect to not be acknowledged yet (or at all)?

We sent hand written thank you cards with pictures from the wedding after we returned from honeymoon - I also sent favours to those who couldn’t attend. This is quite normal amongst our friends and family - give them time!

Thank you cards are sent after the wedding, not before. You're being daft/overthinking it

Thank you all so much for your replies. I feel much better now knowing that it is normal to only hear AFTER the wedding. I hope she has a lovely day and will look forward to (hopefully) hearing from her once it's all over.

You sound like such a brat.

[quote littlepattilou]@Kitfish I mean, like £200 cash money through the post???[/quote]
‘Cash money’?

She will be waiting to open it after the wedding.

I think it is a bit rude. If the card was given on the day I'd expect a thank you card with the others afterwards.

@EmeraldShamrock the wedding hasn't even happened yet.

We opened our wedding cards, vouchers and gifts after the wedding OP - she probably also wants to thank you properly. Don't fret.

I'd give her a month or 2 after the wedding before getting even slightly annoyed about this. You have been very generous, however they have probably received loads of gifts and may well want to send cards rather than texting. So it may take a while to get a thank you.

My aunt sent me a cheque as a wedding present a couple of weeks before my wedding (to save bank hassle with changing names, apparently). I thanked her when I saw her at the wedding for both that and the nice note that came with it, and sent her a proper card as well post-wedding. I'm sure it will come!

If you sent cash then yabu- what if someone took the money out of the card before it was delivered to her??!

In fact ya-still-bu she has so much going on and prob hasn’t opened it yet!

If they’re having a honeymoon then they may not open them till they’re back from that too OP, never mind the actual wedding!
Chill!

If something seemed obviously for my wedding, I would hold it and open with everything else so I think you are being a bit impatient