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Am i being unreasonable

27 replies

Actionsnotwords · 10/04/2021 14:04

My Child was meant to meet up in support bubble the next day when the day before in the morning she had for 2 hours a temperature of 37.4 then child’s temperature completely dropped .
When i suggested to a close friend that I don’t need to mention to other parent unless the child develops temperature again friend threatened she will tell the mother if I don’t (she knows the other parent)
I would cancel if child is ill but if child not ill don’t see why one needs to know as i also don’t consider 37.4 temperature and child had been tested with lft test which was negative .
Am I being unreasonable as i think she shouldn’t have threatened to call other parent that’s not what a friend does ?

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Mistletoekids · 10/04/2021 14:06

37.4 is a normal temperature .

The world needs to get a grip and move on.

Your friend sounds horrible. Sorry.

SpnBaby1967 · 10/04/2021 14:07

That's a normal temp. 37.8 is a fever range.

Hankunamatata · 10/04/2021 14:08

I would inform the other parent that your child had spiked temp of 37.4 and do they still want to meet up.

Gizlotsmum · 10/04/2021 14:09

I would have informed the other parent so they could make the choice

Norwaydidnthappen · 10/04/2021 14:10

As PPs have said, 37.4 is normal so this is a non issue.

Mistletoekids · 10/04/2021 14:11

What are you informing them about? A normal temperature?

Get a grip. When will everyone move on from this madness.

Original poster
Actionsnotwords · 10/04/2021 14:12

The argument was that the other parent should be given a choice which i did in the end but what is annoying me is the threatening behaviour of my friend

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Thedogscollar · 10/04/2021 14:13

37.4 is a perfectly normal temperature. Your close friend sounds nasty.

Original poster
Actionsnotwords · 10/04/2021 14:13

@Mistletoekids
I know very frustrating

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Mistletoekids · 10/04/2021 14:14

Stop measuring your children's temperatures and let them be normal kids again.

Ditch your horrible friend.

stackemhigh · 10/04/2021 14:15

She's not a friend. Dump her before she does you real harm.

KoalaOok · 10/04/2021 14:15

So she wants to tell the other parent that your child had a normal temperature?

Jumpers268 · 10/04/2021 14:17

37.4 is not a temperature. I'm not sure why you even mentioned it to your friend?

Original poster
Actionsnotwords · 10/04/2021 14:17

To clarify said friend has never been like the she has always been a very good and loyal friend not sure where this suddenly came from.

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Original poster
Actionsnotwords · 10/04/2021 14:18

And yes i said 37.4 is normal temperature

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Tinydinosaur · 10/04/2021 14:20

Why did you check their temperature?

Original poster
Actionsnotwords · 10/04/2021 14:21

@Tinydinosaur

Why did you check their temperature?
Cause DD said she was feeling hot when she woke up so wanted to make sure she is ok
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CrackersDontMatter · 10/04/2021 14:24

My toddler's baseline is 37.3. She's quite regularly 37.5 No one needs to be informed of anything. Your child doesn't have a fever 🤷‍♀️

luxxlisbon · 10/04/2021 14:26

She didn’t have a temperature though so I don’t really understand how this is an issue. If your daughter did have a temperature then I do think you owe it to the other parents to tell them even if you thought she was fine and the temperature later dropped.

billy1966 · 10/04/2021 14:27

Threatening you??......I would have a hard look at your so called friend.

Sleepisoverrated150 · 10/04/2021 14:27

My only caveat is this a normal temp for your DC? My normal temp is 36.5 so once it goes upto 37.5 I’m normally fighting some sort of illness off or been jogging and sweating 🤣

If that’s your DC normal temp range then it’s a none issue

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Actionsnotwords · 10/04/2021 14:31

@Sleepisoverrated150

My only caveat is this a normal temp for your DC? My normal temp is 36.5 so once it goes upto 37.5 I’m normally fighting some sort of illness off or been jogging and sweating 🤣

If that’s your DC normal temp range then it’s a none issue

It’s not really her normal temp 36.7 hence why i was wondering and called friend ..
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littlewhitestar · 10/04/2021 14:35

@Actionsnotwords

And yes i said 37.4 is normal temperature
That rather depends on what your DC's normal temperature is. Why were you taking their temperature in the first place? Presumably because they had some symptoms or appeared under the weather?

Even without COVID 19 in the picture, it's pretty rude and inconsiderate not to tell someone your child might be unwell. I've lost count of the times my family came down with something nasty after a play date and the parent then admitted that their child had been sick/had a temperature/rash or something before the play date - chicken pox, measles (that was me, despite being vaccinated), norovirus.

littlewhitestar · 10/04/2021 14:39

Cross posted.

Well, if your DC's normal temperature is 36.7 and you were asking whether it's ok not to tell her play date's DM that she had a temperature of 37.4, I'm with your friend.

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Actionsnotwords · 10/04/2021 14:39

@littlewhitestar I guess for me as it was the day before and i thought it wasnt really a temperature I briefly felt it not something I have to mention. I have never sent my child in 13yrs ill to someone’s home .
I did inform the other parent in the end

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