Do people wake up in bad moods?

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My DH is convinced that this morning I've woken up in a bad mood. I disagree and say he has put me in a bad mood by snapping at me.

So do people wake up in bad moods or do people wake up in them?

Sometimes I do. Most of the time I don’t, thank goodness! On the days that I do I work hard to manage it and do things to help myself get out of it.

I don’t know which is the case in your house today. But I do know that many times people who are themselves in a bad mood snap at others/act out and then make out that the other party is the one in a mood.

If you were perfectly happy and can honestly say you weren’t in a mood then I don’t see how he thinks he gets to tell you how you were feeling before he snapped at you.

Yes, sometimes, especially if I haven't had enough sleep or am still tired but it sounds like your DH is being an arse.

Sometimes my DH will say something offensive and then claim I am in a bad mood for more reacting well to it

My Teens wake up in a bad mood every morning! Mind you, they quite often go to bed in a bad mood too.. and they tend to be a bit moody during the day...

Of course people wake up in a bad mood, lack of sleep, stress etc. Maybe he was looking for an argument?

Well some people do sometimes, of course, but it’s difficult to tell if you have on this occasion from what you’ve said.

Sometimes I do. It's normally when I wake up with a full blown migraine but how much of it is the pain vs the knowledge that my meds won't stop it I don't know.

So do people wake up in bad moods or do people wake up in them?

Um...

When I'm woken up by a crying/whining child it puts me into an I stand bad mood that takes me a while to shake off (that'll be most days then )

Before DC no, I always woke up content.

Into an *instant bad mood

Yes, the day before my period I always wake up feeling so angry and emotional

If you get out of the wrong side of the bed you do.

Yes I think so if over tired, stressed or something is annoying them.

For context I woke up fine this morning. Then he snapped at me then I was in a bad mood. He is saying I've woken up in a bad mood and he hasn't put me in one by snapping.

@LemonMeringueThreePointOneFour so it's clearly meant to say do people wake up in bad moods or do people make them have a bad mood. Sorry

@LemonMeringueThreePointOneFour

So do people wake up in bad moods or do people wake up in them?

Um...

I thought that too...but I figured I could infer what OP had meant to write.

I don't agree that other people can put you in a bad mood though, certainly not for something like snapping at me.

I choose my mood. If someone has been a dick to me, I would be choosing to be grumpy rather than it happening to me without any control over it.

It sounds like perhaps you want to punish your dp for the snapping. Not saying that's a bad thing necessarily mind you! Just another way of communicating I guess. An alternative is telling him that it pissed you off royally and how you feel. And then carrying on with your day without the grey cloud.

Someone snapping at me could definitely put my in a bad mood or at least a less good mood!

A “bad mood” is a choice or a reaction, not something which just happens randomly.

Both are possible, obviously. Sometimes it's easier to fall into a bad mood or perceive something as "snapping" when we wake up already primed for a moody day.

Trying to blame his behaviour on your alleged mood is a big red flag 🚩

I wake up in a bad mood sometimes because of the dreams I've had.

People do wake up in bad moods but it should be obvious that pointing it out to the person isn't going to make anything better. He should have kept this to himself.

I don't know your lifestyle but I'd be saying 'oh dear yes I have hadn't I? I need to go back to bed/ go out on my own while you look after the kids/ the house to myself for a bit to get myself out of it.'

If you can't 'admit' to the bad mood because you're too cross maybe you really are in a bad mood

I do. If I've not slept well or had a bad dream.

I've had it a couple of times and it's like I can feel myself being grumpy and/or silent treatment and I don't know why or can't stop it. And there's no reason for it so I guess yes you can. Maybe it's because of a bad dream that you don't know you had but something then doesn't sit right as you were pissed off in the dream. Sometimes a nap or wine fixes it!