Do people wake up in bad moods?

[dundermifflinpapersalesman1]

My DH is convinced that this morning I've woken up in a bad mood. I disagree and say he has put me in a bad mood by snapping at me.

So do people wake up in bad moods or do people wake up in them?

Did you ask him if he woke up in a bad mood, as he is the one that has started all of this?

I can't talk really. I'm taking delight in making the non-slam kitchen cupboard doors slam this morning because I woke up in a bad mood. DH has exacerbated it, and I would talk to him like a grown up but he doesn't want to have conversations these days, so passive aggressive is all I have.

It depends I suppose. Did he think you'd woken up in a bad mood, spoken to him badly and then he snapped at you as a result?

@Temp023

My Teens wake up in a bad mood every morning! Mind you, they quite often go to bed in a bad mood too.. and they tend to be a bit moody during the day...

I hear you!

Sounds like he’s projected his own shitty mood on to you, to justify himself.

I sometimes wake up in a bad mood, I'm not a morning person anyway but usually shake it off after an hour or so when I've had a cuppa. If something annoys me in a morning though and I'm already feeling a bit shitty, it'll just piss me off for the rest of the day

Yes you can wake up in a bad mood. But we don't know what he said/you said, what happened and so on. It is so easy for people to say he is shitty/its a big red flag etc, but maybe he perceived it as you snapping at him first or just being grumpy. Sometimes people want to be left alone for a while first thing and may appear grumpy even if they aren't. Others wake up bouncing around and irritate everyone trying to have a calm start to the day.

I do think it happens sometimes - there are days I just feel snappish from when I wake up for no good reason at all and I just can't seem to get out of it.

Could be both op but in your case you know you woke up fine and then your husband was a dick...

I definitely have days where I wake up and have less patience than usual and am more easily irritated than usual so I'd say yes.

Sometimes.

I think sometimes you wake up and it takes less to put you in a bad mood than other days.

Or you wake up and something that wouldn't usually put you in a bad mood does.

Equally some days I wake up in an extra amazing mood and that's the days I tend to get loads done!

14 year old DS2 does... 😂

I woke up in a foul mood when I dreamt DH was having an affair!! Even after I realised it was a dream I struggled to shake the anger and upset

I have incredibly vivid, often bizarre and scary dreams. I know I sometimes wake up in a bad mood.

Ok I suffer depression and anxiety and some days I litteraly wake up in a horrible mood for no particular reason, I also can get in a mood if something irrates me or upsets me like an argument or bad news so I’d say both are valid.

@dundermifflinpapersalesman1

My DH is convinced that this morning I've woken up in a bad mood. I disagree and say he has put me in a bad mood by snapping at me.

So do people wake up in bad moods or do people wake up in them?

I have the same issue.

If I don’t start a convo with DH or at least say hi he accuses me of being in a bad mood.

I can be perfectly happy but when I wake up I tend not to talk or make much noise. I slowly wake up. And by that I mean, I’ll be up walking around for an hour talking softly if I have to talk or ideally just minding my own business.

DH on the other hand sprints out of bed and is a chirpy little fucker that wants to have a full blown conversation before his morning piss.

10 years it’s taken him to accept it (he still isn’t used to it).

I’ve compromised by saying hi and did you sleep well when I see him.

We’ve had this conversation countless times about not being in a bad mood but just enjoying my own company and head space.

Fucking annoying.

@HeddaGarbled

A “bad mood” is a choice or a reaction, not something which just happens randomly.

Not necessarily. Some days I just wake up irritable and short tempered, or sad and anxious. Not as a reaction to anything else (except my wonky brain chemistry, maybe!) and certainly not as a choice.

Yes, I occasionally wake up in a bad mood, usually if I am feeling tired or unwell. Sometimes if I have had an annoying dream in which DP behaved unreasonably it is VERY hard to convince myself he didn't really and I have no right to be cross with him!

Yes it’s possible to wake up in a bad mood. That’s not the issue here. Only you know what mood you’re in. The issue is that your husband told you what mood you’re in. Which of course he can’t possibly do. He’s made a judgement about how you feel inside based on some external criteria he has wrongly interpreted (maybe a one word answer or something). He’s then telling you he’s right about your own mood and you’re not. Which is stupid and arrogant, and would put anyone in a bad mood. Self-fulfilling prophecy.