The hashtag “be kind”

[Jacopo]

#bekind makes me turn into the complete opposite and makes me want to stab someone. AIBU?

Yeah it’s just a put down

Nope, I feel the same.

It's bollocks. Maybe quit telling women and girls to be kind and teach them to have healthy boundaries, and not be a doormat.

YANBU

I often see unkind words/acts from people who use this hashtag Alice Roberts so just assume it's shorthand for shut up.

Honest people never feel the need to tell you that they are honest. People with lots of empathy don't tend to brag about how empathetic they are. Self proclaimed nice people are usually anything but.

Be Kind seems to be on lots of girls clothes at the moment. I've just pointed out to DD12 that I won't be buying her or her sister anything with that written on. You never see it on the boys clothes. I may have ranted at her a bit.

@SnuggyBuggy

Honest people never feel the need to tell you that they are honest. People with lots of empathy don't tend to brag about how empathetic they are. Self proclaimed nice people are usually anything but.

This is spot on. I know someone who fits this to a tee.

From what I've observed, it's right up there with "I'm not being racist, but...", in that people seem to add #bekind after being either UNkind, spectacularly insensitive or - more often than not - both of the above.

Fucking annoying

Soundbite wankery that is somehow never aimed at men. The sooner it dies the better.

The way it’s said is starting to take on the same sound as ‘shut up.’

Don’t be a prick might be better. You can still have boundaries and be assertive that way just without sending someone rape threats on Twitter or whatever. I’d really prefer girls’ clothes to have that emblazoned on them too.

It’s yet another way of silencing women. You have a vagina and you’re expected to sit down and shut up so you don’t upset anyone.

It’s bullshit.

It’s also usually used on here when someone is using an argument.

YANBU. I'm sick of it.

I HATE it for multiple reasons:

"In a world in which you can be anything... be kind"

Firstly:

1. No, you can't be anything - life, how you were brought up, whether you're female or black or poor or from a poorer socio economic back ground - all of that means YOU CANT BE ANYTHING

1. It's sexist - all this shit is aimed at women and girls - it's on female clothing, not men's- it's part of the patriarchy that women MUST BE SUBSERVIENT, MUST BE FUCKING QUIET, MUST CONFORM

JUST FUCK ALL THAT SHIT

It's sexist claptrap, designed to keep women in their place.

@Jacopo

#bekind makes me turn into the complete opposite and makes me want to stab someone. AIBU?

Not unreasonable at all. ‘Be kind’ has become passive-aggressive code for ‘Be quiet’, dvd it’s only ever said to women.

The fact that this is appearing as a slogan all over products aimed at girls makes me very uncomfortable. Never too young to be conditioned into ‘shut up, don’t protest, don’t make other people feel uncomfortable. Just BE NICE and non-offensive at all times’, eh?

^^ ‘dvd’ = ‘and’. Autocorrect hates me.

Even worse when prefixed with “whatever happened to?” Even the most minor of differences of opinion are now deemed to be an act of unkindness

It’s designed to tell women to STFU.

Good article by Dr Kathleen Stock on why kindness has no place in politics: kathleenstock.com/the-pity-party-on-the-left-2/

YANBU. It's turned into another weapon to make women and girls shut up and know their (secondary) place. It's the new 'stop nagging'.

My default response is #getfucked

I wonder what would happen if there hashtag aimed at men about respecting women and girls??? And the #metoo movement doesn't even cover it.

YANBU!

@Jacopo AGREE! It gets on my twatting tits.

As a pp said, #bekind was on a t-shirt for girls but not boys! That speaks volumes. As has been said, it seems to be aimed at women usually.

Roughly translated, it means 'be nice, be quiet, and more importantly, take any shit dealt to you by ANYone, and never complain, there's a good little doormat.'

As a pp said, it's the new 'stop nagging!'