That I want to move house but DP doesn’t

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This may be a long one. Next door neighbours moved in (a couple) around 2 months ago and ever since they’ve been here there’s been nothing but disruption. They have people round all the time drinking, which then leads to loud music, singing and just general noise. It goes on until the early hours (even on weekdays) Then there’s the arguing between them both. The other day they were having a screaming match at 1 in the morning. I genuinely think they were having a fight. There was very loud banging and I think he was smashing the room up. A couple of weeks ago I was in the bathroom and I could smell weed. I looked out of the window and they were both in the garden smoking it. Because they talk that loud, we can hear every word and we have since found out they sell it too which means they have people are knocking on their door or they will go out every half an hour I presume to sell it. Oh and they for some reason bang the front door very loud when they are coming in and out. Then there’s the sex they have every other day that usually happens anytime between 12-3 in the early hours. She screams like she’s a pornstar and sometimes I think the headboard is going to come through our walls. I have 2 DS’s. One being 4 and the other 5 weeks and have on numerous occasions woken them both up. Last night was the final straw for me. Baby had me up from 10-2 with no sleep in between. I think he has some kind of milk intolerance but last night it was really bad. If he wasn’t being sick, it was coming out the other end. I finally managed to get him to sleep just after 2. 5 minutes later, the shagging starts and wakes him up which then took another half an hour to get him to sleep again. Oh and I am completely dreading the summer and the BBQ’s they are apparently going to have. I am at my wits end. I really don’t want to sound a killjoy and I understand people can do what they want in their own homes but I think this is a joke. I would move tomorrow but DP wouldn’t as he “doesn’t think they are that bad” but he is very, very laid back and not much bothers him. I just don’t know what to do. There isn’t really any reason why we can’t move in my opinion. We are currently private renting so I don’t see why we can’t private rent somewhere else. I also know that there is no guarantee that if we do move, those neighbours will be the prefect neighbours but I genuinely don’t think it could get much worse.

I'd move. Ex dp didn't think nightmare neighbours were 'that bad'. This was despite sleep, peace and quiet, sense of safety ruined for both of us, with him obviously stressed. He's a normal, lovely guy I have no idea why he minimised it so much. Some form of dissociation i think. Best of luck op.

@jessstan2 it’s rubbish isn’t it! It’s really starting to depress me! I no longer look forward to weekends as that’s when they seem to go worse but it happens in the week too so I’m kind of used to it. Not that I should be though. There is a row of houses facing and surely they must hear things too. Obviously not as much as I do but with people turning up at the house all the time, banging of the front door constantly, the loud music they must have noticed too. I am quite friendly with one of the houses facing so maybe I’ll try and speak to them at some point. Ideally they’d move, but if not and it carries on then I guess it’ll have to be me.

@TrefoilTrefoil I think I’ll definitely try and get in touch with the landlord. I said to dp about us renting and how it’s a good thing that a move should be fairly straight forward. He isn’t being fair and thinks just because we didn’t hear them yesterday or over night then things are ok. Since them moving in a couple of months ago I can probably count on one hand the number of times we haven’t heard them.

@osbertthesyrianhamster oh me too! They knock me sick😳 totally disrespectful.

@Trytrytryasimight dp is exactly the same. He tries to keep the peace between people all the time but sometimes there is moments in life where you have to put yourself first rather than being scared of upsetting other people. Because they quite clearly don’t give a shit about upsetting me! Thank you

Crikey definitely move if your renting. I'd absolutely hate that and I get nervous every time a nice neighbour moves in case we get worse

@whenwillthemadnessend I am working on it🤞🏼 The woman who lived there before them was lovely but she sadly passed away and me and dp were saying we hope we get someone as nice as her but unfortunately we got the total opposite!

The thing is whether they are occasionally quiet or not eventually your anxiety will be off the chart. I left horrendous neighbours 6 months ago and my health still hasn't recovered. I really think you need to leave before your health breaks.

Agree with poster below. I had awful neighbours once in a house I owned. Selling it was the most stressful thing. I was so scared it was going to go wrong but my mental health was in tatters.

I'm always supper careful now about the properties I buy Hoping this is my last one until we downsize It's detached and has a lovely private garden. Comprise was it on a high street but you would Never know from the back. It's bliss bliss bliss

Definitely
Move!!!!

@whenwillthemadnessend I’m glad you managed to get away! I’m jealous It makes you utterly miserable doesn’t it

Move. I had this when I lived in a flat constant noise. Eventually I would stay out all day as I could not face the noise. Would spend weekends at my parents. It was torture my mental health was suffering. Get ou now.

@whenwillthemadnessend out of intrest did you disclose the issues when you sold? I always feel sorry for people buying a house in this situation I feel like they are seriously being took the piss out of.

@maves

I didn't disclose as I had never complained formally to council about him and there was no law at that time to disclose disputes on sale.

There was no way I would have got a buyer. It was one man. Lived alone. Alcoholic. Loud music and a complete nutter. He threw paint on my boyfriends car That was the last straw.

I did feel so Bad but they were the sort of properties that changed hands quickly so I hope the new owners were ok This was going back to the 90,s.

There need to be more do e about anti social
Behaviour. Tennents need to be kicked out if they behave this way.

Get onto the landlord, but even if the landlord is motivated and the tenants are compliant, it will take a bare minimum of 6 months to evict them (that's if a section 21 was issued correctly tomorrow, they have less than 6 months left on the fixed term of the tenancy agreement, and the tenants leave on time rather than waiting for the LL to go to court for a possession order and then bailiffs).

If the tenants want to drag it out a bit (as is, legally, their right) it could take much longer. Likewise if the landlord drags his feet or messes up eviction paperwork.

Moving will certainly get you away from them quicker, but it depends on whether or not the inconvenience is worthwhile.

@AvocadosBeforeMortgages

Get onto the landlord, but even if the landlord is motivated and the tenants are compliant, it will take a bare minimum of 6 months to evict them (that's if a section 21 was issued correctly tomorrow, they have less than 6 months left on the fixed term of the tenancy agreement, and the tenants leave on time rather than waiting for the LL to go to court for a possession order and then bailiffs).

If the tenants want to drag it out a bit (as is, legally, their right) it could take much longer. Likewise if the landlord drags his feet or messes up eviction paperwork.

Moving will certainly get you away from them quicker, but it depends on whether or not the inconvenience is worthwhile.

Honestly, as above. It will take so long to get them evicted, if it can be pulled off - and as you're the only next door neighbour they'll probably correctly suspect that it's you who complained and will make your lives a living hell.

Just move!