My mum rang round several members of my family telling them not to attend my wedding. So they didn’t. I don’t know what reason she gave to them. I’ve never fell out with anyone in my life until I returned to the town my mother lives in.
My sister’s boyfriend fathered a child to a child (she was 13, he was 35). My family dismisses it as harmless, ‘everyone makes mistakes’, etc
My sister has been sexually harassed by her model best friend’s boyfriend, by more than one colleague, more than one boss, .... all these people she has borrowed money from and not repaid, or been evicted by, or sacked.
My sister likes to tell people I had a fling with my cousin, when actually it was her that had the fling, he dumped her, then she and my mum trashed his flat, cut up his clothes, etc.
My sister borrowed very large sums of money off me when I was a lone parent, under the guise of repaying on her payday, but then she was sexually harassed at work .... again .... and left. Years down the line she now tells me I imagined lending her money, despite the evidence in my bank accounts showing direct transfers to her account.
When my Nan died, the family split up to attend two separate wakes because there was so much feuding going on between them all. I didn’t know this at the time and it’s still going on decades later.
My mum welcomed my kids absent dad to lodge overnight in her home, then sent him round to us at our until then secret address so he could cause a scene, police called, etc. She said it was because he deserved to see the kids. He hadn’t seen them for 4 years until then and they’re scared of him anyway.
My children’s father (absent dad) didn’t want to spend money fixing the blocked drain to the loo, and wouldn’t allow me to either (“waste of money, it’s not your house, etc”) so we had to walk 20 minutes to use a public loo or poop in carrier bags and dispose of them for six months until his brother finally paid to do the work.
He also strangled me once because I just got on his nerves
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That’s only the half of it.
I’m married now to a good man and the kids are fine, modest rented home and job, it’s all ok.
Half my family still don’t talk to me, unsurprisingly it’s only the ones who listened to my mum and sister’s stories.
You wouldn’t think I had this history it to look at me, I wear floral Boden frocks and am quiet and modest. Never underestimate what That Nice Lady Next Door is going through.