To buy my 3 year old a double bed

[Mikamee]

We’re moving DS to a bigger room in the house and I was wondering if I would be unreasonable to buy him a double bed. My reasoning is that if he needs me in the middle of the night it would be easier for me to slip in and out of his big bed rather than bring him into mine and disturb DP, the room can fit a double comfortably and he’s going to want one when he’s older anyway. DP isn’t sold on the idea.

We already had a double so kid went in there. Will be easier for sleepovers and we can bring her into out or bed and let guests have the double x

@KitchenWarrior go Scandi and use two single duvets on a double bed. Easy to make and wash.

We have a four foot one with double duvet for our youngest since he was about 10 and wish I’d got it earlier. Much better for reading in bed and he can bunk up with younger cousin when they stay. Dunelm sell the small double mattress protectors and fitted sheets to fit.

DS went from cot to double. He fidgets so much he still can’t sleep in a single without falling out and he is almost 8.

It’s great for guests and sleepovers. Never had an issue getting appropriate bedding.

Not the point of the thread, but it's not sexist to assume that a boy would want bedding with pictures of diggers on it. It's gender-normative, but honestly, so what? Boys do typically like "boy things", and girls typically like "girl things". There's nothing wrong with realising that something is typical. It's only a problem when you pressure a child to conform to gender norms against his/her wishes or refuse to acknowledge that girls and boys can like all sorts of things.

If there's room and you don't mind paying more for the bed and bedding, I'd do what you like. It won't hurt a young child to sleep in a large bed.

Mine has been in a double bed since she was one. She loves it! Very handy if you need to get in with her in the night, or if you need a spare bed for excess guests.

My 1 year old is in a small double.
She was/is a terrible sleeper and even in a double bed me and my partner were not getting much sleep with her tossing and turning around the bed.
She has slept so much better since getting it and I get up with her when she wakes and go in the bed with her so that my partner is getting minimally disturbed.
I'd definitely go for it.

@FrankButchersDickieBow

Why does your partner have an issue with it?

Sounds like you have the space, so why wouldn't you. Do people see it as a luxury only afforded to adults or something?

A pp who said you can't get double duvets with diggers on them (🙄 sexist much), you can get loads of kids double duvet sets now, even in b&m

Or their child likes diggers? 😂😂

@DontBeRidiculous

Not the point of the thread, but it's not sexist to assume that a boy would want bedding with pictures of diggers on it. It's gender-normative, but honestly, so what? Boys do typically like "boy things", and girls typically like "girl things". There's nothing wrong with realising that something is typical. It's only a problem when you pressure a child to conform to gender norms against his/her wishes or refuse to acknowledge that girls and boys can like all sorts of things.

If there's room and you don't mind paying more for the bed and bedding, I'd do what you like. It won't hurt a young child to sleep in a large bed.

Indeed, I'm happy to encourage my ds interest in diggers, I also encourage his enthusiasm for singing and dancing. It's hard enough getting him into bed so if "hop in and give your diggers a cuddle" works I'm fine with the gender normative nature of it.

I will be looking in the places suggested for enjoyable bed linen and exploring the sheet sandwich. There's always something to learn on Mumsnet!

I did this at a similar age for all the reasons PPs have said...however!

We ended up getting rid of the double bed and getting him a cabin bed when he was 9 because

A) he wanted the floor space for playing and also wanted a desk

B) he REALLY wanted a cabin bed

But he's a big lad so by the time he is 11/12 he will need a different bed again 😅🙈

I'm about to buy our DS 2.5 a double floor bed from etsy. He loves our bed and the space.

Due to us moving house a few days ago, he's currently lying on three toddler bed mattresses lined up next to each other on the floor. He's never slept better.

My DD has a small double and has done since she was 2.

She refuses to sleep through the night on her own she was waking every 45 min to shout me back in before the double and I spent many nights half hanging out of a cotbed.

Now she goes to bed and we all sleep, and if she shouts during the night and one of us just wanders into her room gets in beside her and goes back to sleep.

We did this, you can get loads of double kids duvets, and if not just pop a single on the bed. We used bed pads, for accidents, which are quick to change. Plus side can sleep with lots of teddies and I can go in and be comfy rather than sleeping on the floor next to her.

We got our 3yo a double for this exact reason and he still has it at 8. The little one also has a double.

Thanks @Astraturf but the links just take me to a google page with information on Amazon smile.

Both my kids had double beds since they were about 5. The rooms looked small with single beds, why not have extra room/comfort? Their 'doubles beds, not 'adult' beds. Only issue is found was if they wanted themed duvet covers

Sorry @MrsKoala

My children went from their cots to a double bed. I tell everyone to buy a double if they can and they’ll only have to buy one bed per child. Can’t be doing with toddler bed, cutesy tractor / princess bed , single bed etc . It’s a dreadful waste of money.

Do it! I reaaaaally wish I had, I’ve spent so many nights balanced on my side on the edge of his bed getting backache when he’s ill. The only reason we didn’t was DH thought there was something sexual about double beds 🙄

@ConsuelaHammock

My children went from their cots to a double bed. I tell everyone to buy a double if they can and they’ll only have to buy one bed per child. Can’t be doing with toddler bed, cutesy tractor / princess bed , single bed etc . It’s a dreadful waste of money.

Mine both have gone/will go from cot (with side that comes off to make a toddler bed) to single bed and I thought that was then us done with the bed buying... But I now wonder if my children will think I'm the meanest mum in the world if they're still in singles until they leave home, as I was and as I always assumed they would be!

@ConsuelaHammock

My children went from their cots to a double bed. I tell everyone to buy a double if they can and they’ll only have to buy one bed per child. Can’t be doing with toddler bed, cutesy tractor / princess bed , single bed etc . It’s a dreadful waste of money.

Here speaks the privilege of someone with a big house full of big bedrooms!

A single bed isn't "a dreadful waste of money" when it's all you have space for!

Go for the Hemnes day bed in IKEA. That way, most of the time it's a single, and there is floor spade to play,but it converts to a king-size in about 10 seconds (and just store an extra duvet and pillows in the storage drawers in it). Best of both worlds!

The other question though is why is it about you trying not to disturb your partner at night? Shouldn't he be taking turns at night resettling/sleeping in with him if needed?

Name change - that’s not what I meant at all. Either go from cot to single bed or cot to double bed.No need for the toddler bed , princess bed , cabin bed in between. One bed per child whether that’s a double or a single bed.