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to worry so much about which month to get married in

86 replies

Teaplease29 · 07/04/2021 10:11

May? June? Or July?

In Buckinghamshire. We will have to pick a date soon. We love a venue which is quite outdoorsy but with a marquee.

I'm getting myself so stressed trying to predict the weather. Looking up average rainfall for each month 😂 I know I'm being ridiculous and nothing is guaranteed.

WWYD?

OP posts:
PurpleFlower1983 · 07/04/2021 10:35

Honestly I would just pick one and hope for the best. I’ve been to sunny and rainy weddings in all 3 months - torrential rain on 31st July a couple of years ago!

ClarkeGriffin · 07/04/2021 10:36

Never choose a venue or month hoping for particular weather. Plan A must always be inside. Plan B is outside. Much easier to switch around that way.

I am hoping to get married outside, but it's the UK. So I chose a venue that I love so that I get pretty photos either way. And yes I'm saying I, my partner didn't give a damn about the venue really other than that I liked it. Grin

SnuggyBuggy · 07/04/2021 10:38

All you can do is have as much of a bad weather back up as possible. Some sort of flooring if it's muddy, large umbrella, wellies and hope for the best

triceratopsmama · 07/04/2021 10:39

We got married in mid September. It started to rain as we left the church and continued for the rest of the day, we still got beautiful photos. Just pick a month and don't worry about the weather. 😊

Cushionsnotpillows · 07/04/2021 10:41

An older family member has their birthday in the last few days of May and for as long as I can remember had lovely weather each year and we've been outside for cake and champagne in her beautiful garden in the sun.
July can be awful - just in time for the Scottish school holidays here Hmm

moochingtothepub · 07/04/2021 10:43

Don't rely on the weather, you cannot tell. Early September I think is more reliable but varies with location.

Mylovelyhorsee · 07/04/2021 10:43

If it’s England/Uk the weather is so unpredictable that there is no point guessing/stressing. When I planned mine I was resigned that the weather could
Possibly be crap regardless and just picked the date I wanted. If it’s rains it rains who cares? It rained on my wedding day in august and I had the best day ever. It really made no difference!

FlurkenSchnit · 07/04/2021 10:46

I got married in the middle of May - lovely weather all week leading up to the day and lovely weather after but pissed down on the day.

Aprilx · 07/04/2021 10:46

The UK weather is too unpredictable even in summer to base a decision like this around it. Base the decision on other things.

FedNlanders · 07/04/2021 10:47

Being stressed about it just makes it worse when it happens. Does it really matter? It POURED on our wedding day. The only rainy day in 2 weeks lol but it wasnt a big deal, umbrellas done the job

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 07/04/2021 10:47

I got married at the end of July and it was gorgeous apart from a bit of rain at the end of the photos.

cattypussclaw · 07/04/2021 10:47

@Flappityflippers1

We chose October and it was 21 degrees and roasting hot!

Just pick a month and have some fun planning some spectacular rain photos with your photographer for “just in case it rains!” (We had matching wellies and umberella’s!) it never rained and I was slightly disappointed in the end! Google raining wedding photos, they’re beautiful!

We were an indoor venue though

Did you get married in 2006?!? That's exactly what happened to us. Expecting autumn chills and probably rain. Got bright sunshine, blue skies and 21 degrees!
TrickorTreacle · 07/04/2021 10:48

It rains all year round in this country.

Just pick a month.

First world problems.

SnuggyBuggy · 07/04/2021 10:49

I do think the advantage of autumn/winter is you don't expect much from the weather anyway so you aren't so disappointed.

firstimemamma · 07/04/2021 10:49

We are getting married at the beginning of June. It'll be may half term so we could pick a weekday (and save money) without having to worry about the child guests missing school. Something to consider if kids will be attending your wedding although of course there are always weekends.

Avelandra · 07/04/2021 10:50

We were due to get married in June last year. The weather was absolutely amazing from the start of April the whole way through, not even one single day of rain or wind. It pissed down on our wedding day, thunder storms and everything, then bright sunshine again the day after. Obvs we didn't get married anyway due to Covid, but it really showed to me that no matter when we do it there's always a chance the weather will be horribleGrin

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 07/04/2021 10:51

I got married in July and it was grey and overcast. A cousin got married in August and had torrential rain and gale force winds - not great when their ceremony was outdoors and their reception was in a marquee!

May and June are usually lovely tough.

Pootles34 · 07/04/2021 10:51

You can't predict the weather, but have you spoken to your florist about it? If you've got your heart set on certain flowers, they might only be available in certain months.

emmathedilemma · 07/04/2021 10:55

I don't think you can rely on the weather at any time in the UK. I would think about things like your guests having to travel and if having it on a bank holiday weekend would help, or if it being in a school holiday would be beneficial etc.

Shirazzam · 07/04/2021 12:04

Just pick whatever date suits you and plan for both good and bad weather. It does depend on your venue though.

One of the reasons I chose November for my wedding date is so I don't have to give the weather a second thought. I just couldn't be doing with the extra stress. Plus I would hate to be hot and sticky in my dress and worried about sunburn on the day.
If you pick a venue that has equally lovely indoor and outdoor space, you can be outside if the weather allows but you're not losing out on anything by being indoors on a wet day.

SardineJam · 07/04/2021 12:07

We got married in December and it was mild and I didn't worry about being outside in just my dress...we had a low cost wedding without all the usual 'formalities' but I am sure an unpopular winter month is probably cheaper

WeekendCEO · 07/04/2021 12:10

It can rain on any day. It’s really not the important thing.

MaverickDanger · 07/04/2021 12:11

We got married in May abroad in a place that normally has blazing sunshine.

We’d planned an outdoor ceremony and wedding next to a lake. That morning, we woke up to hail and gales, so ended up doing it inside which was just as amazing!

peak2021 · 07/04/2021 12:11

It is more likely to rain in school holidays. Or when Wimbledon is on. So just avoid those dates!!!

lazylinguist · 07/04/2021 12:12

Thinking about the weather is totally pointless. You could have a beautiful sunny day or a pouring with rain day or anything in between on any given weekend throughout those 3 months. You could decide on June and get the one rainy day in a whole month of sunshine! Just pick a convenient date!